Sunday, January 15, 2023

Poem: Advice To Those Who Find It Challenging To Make And Keep Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some advice to Muslims who struggle with making friends, 
To those who build connections most of which quickly end, 
To those who wonder why it's hard for them to fit in 
And who no longer trust individuals who pretend
To like you while harboring envy and resentment: 
~•~
Don't care about how people see you. Show no concern 
For the censure and brief feelings of Allah's servants, 
Specially while serving Allah and you don't intend
To propagate oppression but seek self-improvement.
Only Allah can judge us on the Day of Judgment.
~•~
It's one of Allah's tests for some of His creation 
To often feel "left out", "misunderstood" or "lonesome". 
One reason why some acquaintances are reluctant 
To send you invites to their their gatherings or outings 
Could be jealousy - they hate it when you outshine them. 
~•~
Perhaps they simmer with bitterness when your presence 
Reminds them of their failures and flaws which bother them. 
Maybe they loathe how you're blessed with successful parents
While theirs failed to give them Islamic education 
And good manners. They feel pathetic when you're present.
~•~
Or they resent the fact that you're relaxed from within, 
Beautified with firm faith Imaan and real confidence. 
Like snakes which find no use in gliding near diamonds 
And like bats which shy away from brightly lit lanterns, 
They exclude you when your glow and success distress them. 
~•~
Remain unfazed, unaffected and indifferent 
When unhappy humans act unfriendly and distant. 
Remind yourself "I wasn't born to entertain them. 
Whether they meet me with goodwill or unacceptance, 
I'm still complete. Allah's Love is much more important." 
~•~
Keep yourself busy worshipping Allah, researching
More about Islam, and praying for Allah's Guidance. 
Frequently read from the Qur'an. Your righteous actions
Can be companions in your grave when life on earth ends. 
Solitude that leads to Allah's Love is a blessing.
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2965
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim