🗒️ Question: A lot of individuals with the INTJ personality type seem very "arrogant", "unapproachable", "scary", "intimidating" or "snobby" while arrogance usually signifies that a stuck-up individual is insecure. In what ways do you, as an INTJ-A, display humility instead of "arrogance"?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. Many individuals may view most INTJs as "arrogant" because generally we:
1. Are not afraid of speaking the truth and pointing out what needs to be rectified or corrected.
2. Remain indifferent regarding people's opinions and assumptions about us.
3. Stay unaffected when we can sense how certain people dispise us, while we are not bothered at all whenever we receive animosity, criticism or negative remarks online and offline.
4. Display absolute indifference when a number of individuals frequently exclude us from their artificial, pretentious or aimless gatherings while denying their undeniable envy, toxicity and insecurities.
5. Enjoy selecting my close friends cautiously and filtering out the inauthentic, unsupportive or incompatible ones when necessary.
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🌻 How I as an INTJ-A 1w9 can appear and behave more humbly at times, when I:
1. Acknowledge my fault and mistakes then directly apologize to the person whom I've unintentionally or unknowingly offended.
2. Try my best for Allah's sake to avoid all sorts of debts, ensuring that I, as much as possible, don't owe any human being anything.
3. Deliberately refrain from taking part in futile gossip and nonsensical debates.
4. Gladly distance myself from those who fail to reciprocate my attempts to get to know them better and they make it obvious that they're too terrified to connect or they lack integrity.
5. For Allah's sake dismiss and want nothing to do with content and people whose goals, values or temperament immensely differ from mine yet showing readiness or willingness to learn from others if what they can teach can bring me closer to self-development.
6. Unapologetically desist from acting like an obnoxious and inwardly miserable bully.
7. Don't bother altering any aspect about my attitude and personality if I know or firmly believe that I'm not intentionally trying to disrupt anybody's peace.
8. Refuse to judge people according to their looks and financial status.
9. Return favors and gifts often whenever I'm able to do so rather than treating a connection as though it's one-sided.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah (The Almighty) increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah (Subhanaahu wa Ta'aala) raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr / blameworthy pride) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim