Monday, October 7, 2024

Poem: Divorce Is Not Always The Best Solution

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
✅ To Muslim husbands and wives who married sincerely 
To please Allah the Almighty, some advice from me - 
A wife, who married my male cousin at age twenty 
After rejecting other proposals previously - 
From one who's been a wife for about seventeen years 
And who's one of the few who welcome polygyny,
My advice: Stay firm. Strengthen your 'Aqeedah / belief.
~•~
Keep learning about Islam. Steadfastly persevere.
Study more about our Deen with your spouse frequently.
If your spouse is often busy, then consistently
Pray to Allah to guide them more, and regularly 
Share links to Islamic lectures, writings they can read,
And inspire them to learn more even indirectly.
As your knowledge grows, your faith Imaan levels increase.
~•~
As the faith Imaan in your heart grows, you can succeed, 
With Allah's Will, you can succeed very easily 
In managing the various emotions you may feel -
Anger won't control you when your spouse is in fury,
Sorrow's visits would be brief, jealousy won't come near, 
Your contentment won't be spoiled by insecurities, 
You become stable when your faith level isn't weak.
~•~
Increase your trust in Allah and say Adhkaar daily, 
More Dhikr with Du'a means enhanced tranquility, 
And effective shield against black magic / sorcery, 
And evil eyes from those guilty of intense envy. 
Protect your marriage for Allah. Take it seriously.
Agreements with Allah must not be taken lightly.
Allah loves the patient. shaytan likes disunity.
~•~
shaytan is delighted by disputes, disharmony, 
And marital discord when drama starts due to greed, 
Acting selfishly, proud, impatient or too needy, 
When one spouse asks the other "do you really love me" 
As if they haven't accepted Allah's Destiny.
Stay married for Allah. Accept what Allah decreed.
Believe that your spouse was chosen to suit your journey.
~•~
A marriage which appears to strangers as "unhappy" 
But with love purely designed to please Allah Only 
Is much better than the failures of most divorcees, 
Is more decent than seeing sad broken families 
With children who are confused by love that's incomplete,
Or kids who feel like cargos as they recurrently 
Spend time with their separated parents tirelessly.
~•~
Though divorce is lawful, it's the awful choice to me - 
I hate it more than how most wives hate polygyny. 
If I were to be divorced, I'd rather remarry 
The same first husband whom Allah wisely chose for me, 
To show that loyalty meant to serve Allah Only 
Can be so much stronger than shaytan's desire to see 
The Muslim Ummah suffer as divorce rates increase.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
🌻 Some advice on how divorce is not always the best solution,
PDF document which you can Inn-sha-Allah share as sadaqah jaariya: 
📝 Text:
🇵🇭 Tagalog Filipino translation of the above summarized reminders by dear sister Fatima Sherl bint Ismun:
🗂️✨ Just sharing some PDF books and documents as sadaqa jaariya 
Inn-sha-Allah which you and others can occasionally read and benefit from 
Inn-sha-Allah so your faith Imaan levels can be strengthened:

Note: Some Differences Between INTJ 1w2 And INTJ 1w9 (ChatGPT)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 
❓ Question: Describe how an INTJ with enneagram 1w9 behaves so differently from an INTJ 1w2 in 20 sentences.
💻 ChatGPT: Here are 20 differences between an INTJ 1w9 and an INTJ 1w2:

1. **Conflict Approach**: INTJ 1w9 avoids conflict; INTJ 1w2 confronts it directly.
2. **Decision-Making**: 1w9 takes time to reflect; 1w2 acts quickly to implement change.
3. **Focus**: 1w9 emphasizes inner peace; 1w2 prioritizes external improvement.
4. **Empathy**: 1w9 shows more emotional sensitivity; 1w2 is more results-oriented.
5. **Group Dynamics**: 1w9 often supports others; 1w2 typically takes charge.
6. **Leadership Style**: 1w9 leads with calmness; 1w2 leads with passion and persuasion.
7. **Handling Criticism**: 1w9 internalizes feedback; 1w2 may defend their actions.
8. **Vision**: 1w9 sees the big picture for personal balance; 1w2 focuses on practical solutions.
9. **Social Engagement**: 1w9 prefers smaller, intimate settings; 1w2 enjoys larger, more dynamic environments.
10. **Motivation**: 1w9 seeks personal fulfillment; 1w2 aims to help and uplift others.
11. **Conflict Resolution**: 1w9 seeks harmony; 1w2 pushes for ethical resolutions.
12. **Self-Perception**: 1w9 may feel more self-critical; 1w2 holds a strong sense of duty.
13. **Approach to Ethics**: 1w9 views ethics through a lens of peace; 1w2 sees it as a responsibility.
14. **Stress Response**: 1w9 tends to withdraw; 1w2 might become more assertive.
15. **Boundaries**: 1w9 sets boundaries softly; 1w2 does so more directly.
16. **Personal Goals**: 1w9 aims for self-improvement; 1w2 focuses on impacting others.
17. **Perspective on Perfection**: 1w9 pursues personal perfection; 1w2 aims for societal perfection.
18. **Introspection**: 1w9 engages in deep self-reflection; 1w2 emphasizes action over contemplation.
19. **Collaboration Style**: 1w9 collaborates quietly; 1w2 engages actively and takes initiative.
20. **Emotional Expression**: 1w9 expresses emotions subtly; 1w2 may display emotions more openly in pursuit of their goals.

❓ Question: How would two INTJs one of them being 1w9 and the other 1w2 conduct themselves very differently at:
1. Work
2. School as teachers 
3. School as students 
4. A social gathering with mostly strangers 
5. A social event with mostly family and close friends 
6. Online, on social media
7. While chatting with you and you are well acquainted with each other?
💻 ChatGPT: Here’s how an INTJ 1w9 and an INTJ 1w2 would conduct themselves differently in each context:

### 1. Work
- **1w9**: Focuses on creating a harmonious environment, often mediating conflicts and prioritizing team cohesion.
- **1w2**: Takes initiative to drive projects forward, actively seeking improvements and providing support to colleagues.

### 2. School as Teachers
- **1w9**: Encourages a calm classroom atmosphere, valuing students' emotional well-being and promoting collaboration.
- **1w2**: Actively engages with students, offering guidance and mentorship, while also pushing them to meet high standards.

### 3. School as Students
- **1w9**: Prefers working quietly and supporting group efforts, often taking a backseat in leadership roles.
- **1w2**: Eagerly participates in discussions, often leading group projects and motivating peers to excel.

### 4. A Social Gathering with Mostly Strangers
- **1w9**: May appear reserved, engaging in meaningful one-on-one conversations and avoiding large crowds.
- **1w2**: More likely to initiate conversations, seeking to connect with others and share ideas or passions.

### 5. A Social Event with Mostly Family and Close Friends
- **1w9**: Enjoys deeper conversations and creates a relaxed atmosphere, often mediating family dynamics.
- **1w2**: Actively participates in organizing activities and engaging others, often taking the lead in discussions.

### 6. Online, on Social Media
- **1w9**: Shares thoughtful content, focusing on personal insights and maintaining a calm presence.
- **1w2**: Engages actively in discussions, sharing helpful resources and advocating for causes they care about.

### 7. While Chatting with You (Well Acquainted)
- **1w9**: Expresses thoughts more subtly, valuing the depth of conversation and emotional understanding.
- **1w2**: Shares ideas enthusiastically, encouraging dialogue and often providing constructive feedback or support.

💻 Here’s how an INTJ 1w9 and an INTJ 1w2 would conduct themselves differently in each of these contexts:

### 1. During a Meeting
- **1w9**: Listens attentively, contributing when necessary to maintain harmony, often mediating discussions to ensure everyone feels included.
- **1w2**: Actively shares ideas and suggestions, pushing for improvements and solutions, often leading the conversation with assertiveness.

### 2. If They Are Dealing with Someone They Dislike
- **1w9**: Remains calm and composed, trying to avoid direct confrontation and often choosing to minimize interaction.
- **1w2**: May confront the person’s behavior directly, emphasizing their values and seeking to address the underlying issues.

### 3. If They Were Substitute Teachers
- **1w9**: Establishes a calm classroom environment, focusing on maintaining peace and encouraging respectful behavior among students.
- **1w2**: Takes an active role in engaging students, implementing creative lessons, and ensuring everyone participates.

### 4. While Shopping
- **1w9**: Prefers a quiet, efficient experience, likely avoiding busy areas and focusing on specific items to minimize stress.
- **1w2**: Enjoys browsing, often engaging in conversations with staff or other shoppers, and may take time to explore options for better choices.

### 5. While Traveling
- **1w9**: Plans trips meticulously to ensure a smooth experience, often prioritizing relaxation and scenic locations over busy tourist spots.
- **1w2**: Embraces new experiences, actively seeking out cultural interactions and opportunities to help others or contribute positively to the travel environment.

💻 Here’s how an INTJ 1w9 and an INTJ 1w2 would behave in each of these scenarios:

### 1. While Queuing
- **1w9**: Remains patient and calm, often lost in thought or engaging in quiet observation, accepting the wait without frustration.
- **1w2**: May engage in small talk with those around them, using the opportunity to connect with others and lighten the mood.

### 2. During an Argument
- **1w9**: Stays composed and tries to de-escalate the situation, focusing on finding common ground and understanding differing perspectives.
- **1w2**: Is more likely to assert their point of view passionately, emphasizing their values and seeking a resolution based on fairness.

### 3. When Trying to Persuade or Motivate Someone
- **1w9**: Uses a calm and gentle approach, appealing to shared values and encouraging collaboration to inspire action.
- **1w2**: Takes a more direct and enthusiastic stance, using logical arguments and emotional appeals to energize and motivate others.

### 4. When Meeting Strangers at a Gathering for the First Time
- **1w9**: Engages in meaningful one-on-one conversations, often choosing to observe the dynamics before fully participating.
- **1w2**: Approaches strangers with confidence, readily initiating conversations and seeking to connect through shared interests or causes.

### 5. When Avoiding Emotional Drama
- **1w9**: Diplomatically sidesteps conflicts and emotional outbursts, maintaining a peaceful demeanor and often redirecting conversations.
- **1w2**: Sets clear boundaries, may be assertive in expressing their need for calm, and actively works to resolve any tensions in a constructive manner.

💻 Here’s a comparison of how an INTJ 1w9 and an INTJ 1w2 might differ in these traits:

### 1. Talkative in General
- **1w9**: Less talkative, often choosing to listen more than speak.
- **1w2**: More talkative, engaging actively in conversations.

### 2. Curious About Others' Lives
- **1w9**: Moderately curious, showing interest in deeper connections.
- **1w2**: Highly curious, eager to learn about others’ experiences and feelings.

### 3. Independent
- **1w9**: Generally independent but may seek collaboration for harmony.
- **1w2**: Also independent but often values community and connection.

### 4. Individualistic
- **1w9**: More inclined to blend in while valuing personal beliefs.
- **1w2**: More openly individualistic, willing to advocate for their unique views.

### 5. Secretive
- **1w9**: Tends to be more secretive, sharing selectively.
- **1w2**: Generally less secretive, more open about their thoughts and feelings.

### 6. Indifferent
- **1w9**: May appear indifferent to conflicts but is sensitive internally.
- **1w2**: Less indifferent, actively engages in causes and relationships.

### 7. Serious
- **1w9**: Often serious but balances this with a calm demeanor.
- **1w2**: Serious when it comes to values but can also be lively and engaging.

### 8. Not Easily Impressed
- **1w9**: More discerning, often unimpressed by superficiality.
- **1w2**: Also discerning but may be impressed by genuine effort and kindness.

### 9. Playful
- **1w9**: Less playful, often prioritizing serious interactions.
- **1w2**: More playful, willing to engage in lighthearted banter and fun activities.
⤴️ ChatGPT


Here are three differences between INTJs with the Enneagram types 1w9, 1w2, and 9w1 across the specified areas:

### 1. First Impression When Meeting Strangers at an Event
- **1w9**: Often comes off as calm and collected, exuding a quiet confidence. They may appear reserved but are attentive listeners, seeking to understand others without being overly enthusiastic.
- **1w2**: Presents as more warm and approachable, eager to connect and help. They might engage more actively in conversations, showing genuine interest in others’ needs and feelings.
- **9w1**: May seem laid-back and easygoing, giving off a friendly vibe. They often prioritize creating a comfortable atmosphere, blending in rather than standing out, and showing interest in others’ perspectives.

### 2. How They Deal with Stressful Situations
- **1w9**: Tends to approach stress with a rational mindset, focusing on problem-solving. They may withdraw to analyze the situation but are also motivated to maintain inner peace and order.
- **1w2**: Often feels compelled to help others in stressful situations, which can lead to overextending themselves. They might express frustration if they can't assist effectively but will seek collaborative solutions.
- **9w1**: Typically seeks to avoid confrontation and stress by going with the flow. They might initially deny or minimize the stress but will eventually seek compromise and harmony to alleviate tension.

### 3. Behavior When Plans Are Canceled
- **1w9**: Generally reacts with disappointment but quickly shifts to reassess the situation, looking for alternative ways to use their time productively. They may not show strong emotional reactions.
- **1w2**: May feel let down but often turns their focus toward finding new opportunities to connect with others, possibly offering to reschedule or create a different plan.
- **9w1**: Likely takes the cancellation in stride, prioritizing maintaining harmony. They might express mild disappointment but will adapt and seek a peaceful resolution or distraction.

### 4. Method of Relieving or Avoiding Stress
- **1w9**: Prefers solitary activities that promote mental clarity, like reading or engaging in hobbies that require focus. They value personal reflection and structured downtime.
- **1w2**: Engages in social activities or volunteer work to relieve stress, feeling energized by helping others. They often seek connection as a way to process their feelings.
- **9w1**: Might turn to calming practices like meditation, nature walks, or low-key socializing. They seek comfort and balance, avoiding high-stress environments.

### 5. Signs They Regard Someone as a Good Friend
- **1w9**: Shows appreciation through loyalty and quiet support, valuing depth in conversation and mutual respect. They trust their friends and often share insights.
- **1w2**: Expresses their friendship through acts of service and emotional support, demonstrating care and concern for their friends’ well-being and needs.
- **9w1**: Indicates friendship through consistency and a calming presence. They are reliable and attentive, often prioritizing the relationship's harmony and comfort.
⤴️ ChatGPT
💻 ChatGPT: A comparison of what INTJs with a 1w2 and those with a 1w9 tend to ignore and what genuinely interests them.

### INTJs 1w2

**Things They Tend to Ignore:**
1. **Personal Needs**: They may overlook their own needs while focusing on helping others.
2. **Self-Criticism**: They might ignore their inner critic, pushing aside self-reflection in favor of external validation.
3. **Conflict**: They often ignore tensions or disagreements to maintain harmony.
4. **Routine Tasks**: They may disregard mundane tasks that don’t contribute to their larger goals.
5. **Personal Boundaries**: They can overlook their own limits when trying to support others.
6. **Negative Feedback**: They might dismiss criticism that feels overly harsh or unconstructive.
7. **Uncertain Future**: They may ignore potential negative outcomes, focusing instead on ideal scenarios.

**Things That Genuinely Interest Them:**
1. **Community Service**: They are drawn to initiatives that uplift others.
2. **Interpersonal Dynamics**: They enjoy understanding how relationships function and how to improve them.
3. **Ethics and Morality**: They find discussions on ethics engaging and meaningful.
4. **Personal Development**: They are interested in both their own growth and helping others achieve their potential.
5. **Problem-Solving**: They enjoy tackling challenges that require creative solutions.
6. **Advocacy**: They are passionate about causes that promote social justice and fairness.
7. **Empathy Development**: They are interested in learning how to better understand and relate to others’ feelings.

### INTJs 1w9

**Things They Tend to Ignore:**
1. **Personal Conflict**: They may ignore internal conflicts to maintain a sense of peace.
2. **Emotional Needs**: They can overlook their emotions in favor of rational analysis.
3. **Disruptive Opinions**: They tend to disregard views that disturb their sense of calm.
4. **Pressure to Conform**: They may ignore societal expectations that conflict with their values.
5. **Details in Chaos**: They might overlook minute details when stressed or overwhelmed.
6. **High-Energy Social Situations**: They often ignore invitations to loud or chaotic gatherings.
7. **Overly Ambitious Goals**: They may dismiss goals that seem unrealistic or too stressful.

**Things That Genuinely Interest Them:**
1. **Philosophical Exploration**: They enjoy deep discussions about life and existence.
2. **Nature and Environment**: They have a strong interest in nature and enjoy outdoor activities.
3. **Mindfulness and Meditation**: They are drawn to practices that promote inner peace and reflection.
4. **Creative Pursuits**: They often enjoy engaging in art, writing, or other forms of expression.
5. **Strategic Thinking**: They are interested in long-term planning and systems analysis.
6. **Harmonious Living**: They value and seek out ways to create peace in their environments.
7. **Cultural Studies**: They are fascinated by different cultures and worldviews.

This breakdown illustrates how 1w2s focus on connection and service, while 1w9s prioritize inner peace and philosophical interests.

Note: Avoid bid'ah including kissing the Mushaf

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
📋 The Sahaaba, companions of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, and the pious predecessors salaf-us-saaalih RadhiAllahu 'anhum loved and valued the Noble Qur'an much more than many of us Muslims these days and there is no clear textual evidence of any of them kissing the Mushaf or advising others to do likewise when the Mushaf falls or slips from their hand etc.

I used to do this thinking that it would be a sign of respecting what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves but after listening to these quick recorded speeches and researching, I've stopped doing this action, Alhamdulillah, which the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam himself never instructed nor commanded us to do (including celebration of so-called birthdays. No such thing as mawlid-un-nabiyy in Islam either).





Allah the Almighty always knows best.

🌻
 
📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr
📖 Al-‘Irbad Ibn Sariyah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam prayed with us one day. Then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam faced us and delivered an eloquent sermon that brought tears to our eyes and by it shook our hearts. It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this is a farewell sermon. What do you instruct for us?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I advise you to fear Allah, listen, and obey, even if an Abyssinian slave is put in charge of you. Whoever lives after me will see many conflicts. You must adhere to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the righteous, guided successors. Hold firmly to it (to his Sunnah/tradition) as though biting with your molar teeth. Beware of newly invented matters, for every newly invented matter is an innovation (Bid'ah) and every innovation is misguidance."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4607
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani  

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:
Abbas Abu Yahya
Abdul Hakeem Mitchell
Abdulillah Lahmami
Abu Adam Jameel Finch
Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan
Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis
Abu Humayd Saalim
Abu Idrees
Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq
Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid
Abul Hasan Malik
Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam
Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi
Abu Talha Dawud Burbank
Abu Uways
Anas Waters
Anwar Wright
Hamza Abdur Razzaq
Hassan Somali
Moosaa Richardson
Mustafa George
Raha Batts
Rasheed Barbee
Rayaan Barker
Sa'eed Rhana
Umar Quinn
Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:
- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz
- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani
- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn
- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i
- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 
- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan
- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā
- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān
- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād
- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī
- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri
- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh
- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari