💚 Even if a Muslim man is married to a wife whose current income is bigger than his, for example if he's a carpenter while his wife is a teacher at a public government school, or if he works as a driver while his wife is a medical doctor managing her own clinic, or if he is self-employed and his work is at home as an ESL instructor while she contentedly manages two jobs, the husband is still obliged to give his wife some allowance for Allah's sake now and then. A loving Muslim wife must also not overburden her husband with too many demands, annoying him by acting like a greedy gold-digger or indirectly making him feel as if she wants his wealth as much as she loves her financial stability more than being eager to understand his situation whenever he struggles at times financially.
Or in some marriages if a woman is regularly receiving allowance from her wealthy father, grandfather or uncle, her husband should still continue giving her some allowance no matter how small it is as long as it is consistent. And his patient wife must be grateful Alhamdulillah when all he can give is a meager amount. 500 pesos a week is still better than no allowance at all and 300 pesos every two weeks is still better than being told by one's husband "I'll only give you allowance if you are jobless. Right now you have a job and I have my own profession. I'm not giving you any money until you're unemployed." Some males can be so ignorant and insecure when they feel threatened by the wife seemingly receiving more halal earnings than them. What the wife should do is kindly advise her husband while letting him know she appreciates whatever amount of allowance he can give from time to time. Her husband must also avoid neglecting his duties as the main breadwinner and leader of his household because on the day of Judgement
Inn-sha-Allah this man may be questioned about how he deliberately dealt with those under his care.
✅ Kahit na mas malaki ang kinikita ng isang asawang babae kaysa sa kanyang asawa—halimbawa’y karpintero ang lalaki at guro sa pampublikong paaralan ang babae, o driver siya at ang asawa naman ay doktor na may sariling klinika, o kaya’y self-employed siya bilang ESL instructor habang dalawang trabaho ang kinaya ng kanyang masipag na asawa—nanatiling tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki ang magbigay ng kaunting allowance sa kanyang asawa alang-alang kay Allah, paminsan-minsan man lamang.
At ang isang mapagmahal at maka-Diyos na asawang babae ay hindi dapat magpahirap sa kanyang asawa sa pamamagitan ng sobrang hiling, pagiging makasarili, o pag-uugaling tila mas pinahahalagahan ang pera kaysa sa pag-unawa sa pinagdadaanan ng kanyang asawa, lalo na kapag dumaranas ito ng mga pagsubok sa kabuhayan.
Sa ilang pagsasama, kahit tumatanggap ng regular na allowance ang babae mula sa kanyang ama, lolo, o tiyuhing may kaya, tungkulin pa rin ng lalaki na magbigay kahit kaunting halaga—hindi mahalaga kung maliit ito, basta’t tapat at tuloy-tuloy. At ang matiisin at maka-Allah na asawa ay dapat magpasalamat nang buong puso, Alhamdulillah, kahit kakaunti lamang ang naibibigay. Ang limandaang piso kada linggo ay mas mabuti kaysa walang naibibigay, at ang tatlong daang piso kada dalawang linggo ay mas mainam kaysa marinig mula sa sariling asawa ang mga salitang: “Magbibigay lang ako ng allowance kung wala kang trabaho. Ngayon may trabaho ka at may trabaho rin ako. Hindi kita bibigyan ng pera hangga’t hindi ka nawawalan ng hanapbuhay.”
Nakakalungkot mang isipin, may ilang kalalakihan ang nagiging ignorante at madaling maapektuhan ang ego kapag mas mataas ang halal na kita ng kanilang asawa. Ang dapat gawin ng asawang babae ay kausapin ang kanyang asawa nang may kabutihan, pagpapayo nang malumanay, at iparamdam na pinahahalagahan niya kahit anong halagang kaya nitong maibigay.
Gayundin, dapat iwasan ng lalaki na pabayaan ang kanyang tungkulin bilang pangunahing tagapagtaguyod at pinuno ng tahanan. Sapagkat sa Araw ng Paghuhukom, Inn-sha-Allah, maaaring tanungin ang isang lalaki kung paano niya tinupad—o napabayaan—ang kanyang pananagutan sa mga pinagkatiwala sa kanya.
Nawa’y gabayan tayo ni Allah na maging makatarungan, mahabagin, at mapagpasalamat sa loob ng ating mga tahanan. Ameen.
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