Tips: Qualities Of Effective Leaders

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Some of the qualities of an effective leader:

1] Has integrity, dedicated

2] Innovative, creative

3] Honest, sincere, reliable

4] Capable of practicing active listening

5] Self-confident

6] Visionary, optimistic, persistent

7] Strong communicator, has good communication skills

8] Knows when and how to delegate, maximizing productivity and team performance

9] Decisive, strives to avoid ambiguity and uncertainty 

10] Skilled and resourceful in finding solutions to problems 

11] Fair, faithfully refrains from favoritism, injustice and prejudice 

12] Inquisitive, genuinely curious, willing to learn and discover new things 

13] Inspired, self-motivated, inspirational, motivational, encouraging

14] Humble

15] Can sympathize, has care or concern for others 

16] Self-disciplined, knows how to set a good example

17] Emotionally intelligent

18] Passionate, determined 

19] Resilient

20] Responsible, dutiful and takes accountability for one's actions 

21] Supportive, capable of mentoring or advising

22] Tech-savvy 

23] Has empathy and ability to understand others' needs and conditions 

24] Agile

25] Empowered and can motivate others for Allah's sake.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6719

Sahih Muslim 1829

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Note: Importance Of Avoiding Suspicion And False Assumptions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If a sister, who normally shakes hand with you upon meeting, enters a lecture hall and didn't give you a handshake when she saw you, don't feel bad and instantly assume she was ignoring you. She was probably in a hurry looking for a vacant seat and couldn't shake your hand because if she had to offer a handshake, she'd feel obliged to shake the hands of the other sisters around you, which would take a while, and she didn't want to distract the attendees from the Islamic class.

If you found out that a Muslimah wasn't fasting on Yawm 'Arafah while she regularly reminded other Muslims online to fast on the first days of Dhul-Hijjah, don't be quick to accuse her of hypocrisy. Perhaps she wasn't feeling well, or she woke up after Salat Al-Fajr without Suhoor or the niyyah (intention) to fast, or she was having her monthly period.

If you see a friend at a mall being overly friendly with an older strange guy whom you've never been introduced to before, don't have negative thoughts of them assuming they're a couple guilty of a haraam relationship. The man could be your friend's elder brother, uncle, nephew, foster brother or half-brother, who are all mahrams to her whom she can't marry yet they're allowed to accompany her on long journeys like Hajj or exchange handshakes.

If you notice an ustadh coming out of a building or office and right behind him is one of the sisters in Islam that you know, do not immediately guess they were doing something haraam/forbidden. It just so happened that they left the place at almost the exact same time.

From now on Inn-sha-Allah let us train ourselves to always give another Muslim an excuse to his/her actions, rather than falling into the sin of false accusation, incorrect assumption or unjust suspicion. Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has every right to judge His servants as He knows about everyone's actual conditions, situations and intentions. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Al-Bayhaqi narrated that Hamdun Al-Qassar, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If one of your brothers commits an error, seek seventy excuses for him. If your hearts do not accept it, know that the fault is with yourselves.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 10436 

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Note: Importance Of Avoiding Sins Publicly And Privately As Much As Possible

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Beware of appearing to be devout, righteous, and practicing through the Islamic posts you sometimes share, religious phrases you frequently utter, and modest clothing you wear yet when you think you're alone and no human is watching, you'd spoil yourself with certain sins which other Muslims may never imagine you'd be commiting. The following are some examples of wrongdoings which many may be guilty of, and they'd be doing themselves a huge favor if they hasten to Tawbah/repentance if they don't want their good deeds to be invalidated on the Day of Judgment: 

1] Masturbation. If you can't afford to touch yourself indecently in front of your own parents, it is even more important that you avoid masturbating in front of Allah the Almighty and His noble Angels who are assigned to record your intentional actions and statements. 

2] Listening to songs and watching music videos, when you've previously made it clear that listening to music as a recreational activity or hobby is haraam/forbidden. 

3] Watching porn and inappropriate films while hypocritically commanding Muslims to refrain from watching movies. 

4] Involving oneself in plagiarism, forgery and any form of deceit, while warning Muslims against betrayal and purposely telling lies.

5] Trying zina (fornication, adultery) with somebody of the opposite and/or the same gender through sexting, phone sex or clandestinely meeting up in a hotel, dormitory, or during sleepovers, then when you're in public together you act as though you have no feelings for each other.

6] Nosily interfering with others' private lives and spying without any legitimate reason. For example, when someone unfriends a Facebook user only for the latter to sign up for new accounts to be able to see their friends-only status updates. If a Muslim unfriended you on social media, patiently move on and stop worrying about what's going on in their current lives.

7] Drinking alcoholic beverages or knowingly consuming haraam foods when you consistently remind others to stick to what's halal. 

May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all our sins and mistakes, and keep us away from hypocrisy/nifaaq. Ameen.

~•~

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I certainly know people from my nation who will come on the Day of Resurrection with good deeds like the mountains of Tihamah, but Allah will scatter them like dust." Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “O Messenger of Allah, describe them to us and tell us more, so that we will not become like them.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are your brothers and from your ehtnicity, taking up worship at night as you do, but they will be people who transgress the sacred limits of Allah when they are alone."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4245

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Poem: Questions To Ask Yourself Before Wanting To Share Some Secrets

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Questions to ask yourself before you share a secret 

With those whom you think are good friends who can be trusted, 

Seeking helpful advice or words to feel comforted, 

So your choice to open up doesn't lead to regret, 

As confessions instigate crisis in most cases: 

~•~

This friend you're about to confide in - are they honest? 

Do they fear Allah and try their best to pass His tests? 

Of your blessings are you sure they're not one bit jealous? 

Can you promise that they're not into pranks and gossip, 

That they won't betray you if ever they get upset? 

~•~ 

Are you certain they can't capture screenshots of your text 

And convos to forward to others the things you said? 

If you chat in a place that's quiet and secluded, 

Can you fully assure this human won't be tempted 

To mock you or have your voice secretly recorded? 

~•~ 

If having feelings for them is what you want confessed, 

Can you guarantee that your confessing won't damage 

The respect they have for you or your stable friendship? 

What if they relate to you, they're also attracted, 

Will you harm yourselves by doing what's prohibited?

~•~ 

Disclosing your intimate or sensitive secrets 

To Allah's servants brings more disasters than solace. 

If concealing particular info causes stress, 

Transfer your worries to your prayer mat or carpet 

And say Du'a. Talk to Allah, you won't regret it.

~•~ 

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of faith is to love for the sake of Allah, to hate for the sake of Allah, and to keep your tongue busy in the remembrance of Allah." Mu'adh said, “And what else, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "And that you love for the people what you love for yourself, and you hate for them what you hate for yourself, and you speak goodness or remain silent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21627

Grade: Sahih li ghayri according to Al-Arna’ut 

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani 

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Poem: Some Signs Your Husband's Love For You Is Clear And Undeniable

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some subtle signs your husband loves you undoubtedly,

Whether you're his only wife or in polygyny:

He tries to spend time with you even though he's busy,

At least you're in his thoughts if he's in a far city,

Reading your text messages, calling regularly.

~•~

If he lets you massage or touch him physically,

And he's willing to listen to you speak endlessly,

You know he cares, and his caring isn't fantasy.

When he genuinely asks about your family,

And thinking of you often helps him sleep peacefully,

~•~

His love is real, more so when he attempts to act sweet -

Through offering to feed you by hand when he would eat,

Allowing you to wear his jacket for you to keep,

When around non-mahrams encouraging modesty,

Reminding you to put on the hijaab properly,

~•~

Waking you up for Salah when he awakes early,

Seeing you without make-up, still finding you sexy,

Knowing you have enemies then becoming worried,

Loving how you enjoy his children's bedtime stories,

And when he neglects you, inside he's feeling guilty.

~•~

You know he loves you when, though you don't see him daily,

He pronounces your name in his Du'as frequently,

Thanking Allah for a wife who loves him patiently.

So don't you leave him. Together rise in piety

Till you reach Jannah where lovers can love perfectly.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Imam Muslim