💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 After analyzing the reasons why I've clashed with several individuals in the past, Alhamdulillah I realized that those with whom I don't get along can be grouped into a number of categories:
1] Facebook users who have a completely different manhaj or understanding of what Islam is. A lot of them shared content from the likes of Anwar Al-Awlaki and Ahmad Musa Jibril many of whose lectures or writings incorrectly advocated violence, rebellion and an extremist mindset in Islam. It makes sense that if you follow the correct 'Aqeedah according to the teachings in the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, you may not harmoniously vibe with those who promote ignorance, wrong ideologies and who insist on committing bid'ah.
2] Those who can't fully trust me because their standards unfairly justify I'm not "Salafi enough" until I totally abandon those who haven't openly labeled themselves as a "Salafi", unaware of the virtues of doing Da'wah and maintaining good character with every soul whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees us to meet.
3] Those who hesitate to get acquainted on a more personal level fearing I may be "judgemental" or harshly critical towards them, not knowing that I understand it's our duty as Muslims to invite others to Allah's Way without forcing our beliefs onto anyone.
4] Females who misunderstand my intense dislike towards gossip and backbiting. I'm willing to strengthen the sisterly bond with them on condition they avoid discussing the flaws and private matters of other people.
5] Women who haven't found the strength yet to patiently accept the beautiful concept of polygyny or who notice some aspects in me that unintentionally triggered feelings of jealousy.
6] Those who roll their eyes when I post "too much" on social media, ironically tolerant of other users uploading frequent selfies and actually cringy viral videos, while suspecting me of committing riyaa or shirk. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.
7] Those who still judge me by my jaahiliyyah past. Once I sense a person is uncomfortable in my presence, I do them a kind favor by distancing myself from them further to protect us from each other.
🔸 Tips to deal with the various people in your life who can't stand you:
1] Acknowledge the fact that we are not directly responsible for how people feel about us. Continue serving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, trying your utmost to please Only Him regardless of His creation's ways of dealing with you.
2] Adjust yourself and positively change for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Only, not to satisfy His servants and meet their unreasonable expectations.
3] The sun continues to shine brightly, with Allah's Permission, even if some people complain about the sun's heat and hot weather. Similarly keep being the positive, friendly and cheerful Muslim that you are. Don't allow negative, rude and grumpy individuals, who are either jealous or struggling with serious insecurity issues, to lower the rating of your noteworthy manners.
4] Since not all humans can relate to your journey, interests and values, don't expect everybody to appreciate you. If you're moving forward in life or climbing up a mountain, inevitably you may make enemies along the way who want you to remain where they are, because they're that unmotivated, oblivious to what is upright, or simply insecure.
5] A strong connection with Allah the Most Merciful is what can guarantee success in both worlds Inn-sha-Allah. On the Day of Judgment, we anticipate being questioned about the good deeds we sincerely did for Allah's sake, not how many fans we've gained and friends we made.
6] Focus on the few people who love you for who you are and who recognize your value, especially if your unique squad is inclusive of your loving parents, destined spouse and like-minded souls who have similar characteristics or goals as you.
7] Criticism, insults and false accusations or misjudgment from whoever doesn't really know you are like pesky flies that you can brush away or walk away from. Consider them as ideal tools to enhance your levels of patience. Let them effectively train your ability to stay away from the wrongdoings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has forbidden.
Forgive your haters for Allah's sake, and be tough enough to resist being influenced by fluctuating emotions.
Remember that the only approval worth seeking is that of the love of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “When is the Hour (The Day of Judgment)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “Love for Allah and his Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You will be with those whom you love.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3435, Sahih Muslim 2639
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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