Note: Obvious Signs You're Still In Love With Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It baffles me to imagine how a woman can have the guts to say about her ex-husband "I don't love him anymore", "he means nothing to me now", or "I'm no longer attracted to him. I want somebody else." Whether a divorcee left her spouse because she was unsatisfied with the kind of lifestyle he could afford to provide her or she ditched him for a different guy who seems more "husband material", divorce, although halal/permissible, in my opinion shows that a woman never truly loved her husband since the beginning. If the love between the married couple was genuine from the start, she wouldn't have demanded that the divorce documents be signed so easily without carefully reflecting on the possible negative consequences of divorcing.
Not everyone has the exact same definition and perception of what an ideal marriage life is. My understanding of "true love" in matrimony is to patiently continue loving the soul whom Allah the Most Wise selected for you as your other half and soulmate until his soul is returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Marriage should not end because you and your husband no longer enjoy physical intimacy, love-making became boring, or you're temporarily struggling with financial problems, or you can't get along with your in-laws, or you admit you're secretly 'in love' with another far more intriguing person.
The bond that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined you to have with your husband must go on for Allah's sake even until your reunion in Jannah, acknowledging the truth that perfect bliss can only be attained in Paradise, not temporary dunya.
🔸 Signs that you wholeheartedly still love and care for your husband:
1] You mention your husband's name frequently in your loving Du'as.
2] Nearly whatever task, project or activity you are preoccupied with, you notice yourself wishing your husband was there beside you. Missing someone's presence is a huge indicator that your love for them isn't a joke.
3] Visualize getting ready to make your divorce official, in case you've considered asking for a separation. After signing the divorce papers, can you envision yourself regretting your decision, wishing you shouldn't have left him, specially if you later discover that he married again? Perhaps with a woman whose name is similar to yours? Even worse, one whose facial features and figure almost resemble your own? If you can sense that leaving him is a terrible idea, sincerely make effort to do whatever you can to solve the marital problem and mutually rekindle the romance between you two.
4] Despite feeling as though you have an uncontrollable attraction for certain individuals, you still have stronger feelings for your husband, so cheating on him is something you can never consider.
5] If you saw him in trouble, you'd try your best to help and save him. For instance, if you caught him stuck in a car laying upside down from an accident, you'd actually attempt to drag his body away from the vehicle regardless of knowing for sure carrying him can be challenging but necessary and worthwhile.
Marriage is a serious affair which shouldn't be taken lightly as though it is something that can be discarded anytime you like.
It's a journey Inn-sha-Allah that leads to Paradise. Just like any road or pathway in life, the husband and wife shouldn't be surprised to encounter numerous obstacles, bumps of various sizes, ups and downs, or moments where momentary breaks are required once in a while.
Keep in mind that you married a human being who gets stressed out at times, with flaws and limited abilities like you - not a robot or fictional genie that grants whatever wish you desire.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29