💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If a woman doesn't enjoy wearing makeup and she hates the color pink, would that make her manly? Would girls who excel at sports while they can lift heavy objects be guilty of being too masculine? What about guys who aren't athletic, instead of playing basketball or knowing martial arts they prefer to stay indoors either helping around the house with their wives or reading books? If a guy is generally soft-spoken and gentle, would he be considered "effeminate"?
'Uthman ibn 'Affaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu was known for his modest and soft kind of personality yet he was a courageous leader who, with Allah's Will, had an important role in preserving the copies of the Noble Qur'an.
Nusaybah bint Ka'b RadhiAllahu 'anha displayed admirable courage when she fiercely defended the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam during the battle of Uhud, and yet she didn't lose her feminine instincts in being a loving mother and wife.
It is possible for males to still be men even if they don't demonstrate traits that are typically macho, and for females to maintain their femininity even if they aren't as girlish as stereotypical "high-maintenance ladies". That is on condition they don't purposely do something or refrain from certain things in order to imitate the opposite gender.
🔸 There are three ways to copy the opposite gender:
1] By wearing the outfits, styles and garments which are exclusively appropriate for their gender.
Example: When a man wears jewelry, a bra and mini-skirt, or when a woman cuts her hair really short, wearing a baggy t-shirt and jeans so it's hard to tell if she's female or not from a distance.
2] By deliberately following the behavior and mannerisms which are more suitable for the opposite gender.
Example: When a man rhythmically walks in a ladylike fashion, and when a boyish female sits slouching or with her legs spread apart in a way that is characteristic of most men's sitting position.
3] By intentionally doing the work or actions that are commonly expected from the opposite gender, until they forget the value of their own identity.
Example: When a guy chooses to pray at home because he's too shy to pray in the Masjid or he works as a beautician in a beauty parlor. Or when a woman is employed as a construction worker, while going to the gym on a daily basis, so her body is more muscular than that of her male relatives.
🔸 Real men in Islam vs. girly males:
1] Real men understand their duties and responsibilities to care for their womenfolk. Girly males always expect to be looked after by women, as if they're babies.
2] Real men let their beards grow. Girly males regularly shave their beards and take pride in having chins that are as smooth as a baby's bottom.
3] Real men strive to obey the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, especially in not wearing gold and silk. Girly males fancy seeing themselves looking "fab" in silky robes, nail polish and gold accessories.
4] Real men are not overly emotional types. They're capable of maintaining patience with others, particularly with their wives. Girly males usually quarrel and argue with women. They habitually gossip, spread rumors and backbite.
5] A real man is naturally attracted to a female and he knows when to lower his gaze. A girly boy allows his eyes to wander around and he stares at women comfortably as if he is one of them.
🔸 Real women in Islam vs. mannish females:
1] Real women honor the special roles which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose for them. They're not ones to insist they have a superior status than men nor do they believe it's okay to disrespect the husband anytime.
Mannish females behave as if they're entitled to scornfully overpower men whenever they like.
2] Real women wear the proper hijab for Allah's sake, valuing modesty and respecting Allah's Laws. Mannish females assume it's fine to go against what they've been commanded, letting their hair show like men do and to be more "liberal".
3] Real women don't go out excessively and they speak up only when necessary. Mannish females love competing with men and proving they have the abilities to do the exact same activities as they can.
4] Real women try their best to be dutiful, caring and respectful wives. Mannish females either completely disbelieve in the significance of marriage or they incorrectly think it's acceptable to neglect the husband whenever they desire.
5] A real woman is naturally attracted to a male and she knows when to lower her gaze. A mannish female checks out other women, staring at them intensely up and down like she's one of the boys. When around non-mahram males too, a mannish female doesn't control her gaze, because she forgot her identity as a striving Muslimah who for Allah's sake values modesty.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: "The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men."
In another narration, Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said: "The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who copy women and women who copy men.'
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6445
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty has made lawful silk and gold for the women of my nation, but He has forbidden them (gold and silk) for the men."
Source: Sunan An-Nasā’ī 5265
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Be different from the polytheists (disbelievers). Let the beard grow and trim the moustache.” Whenever Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, performed the Hajj or Umrah pilgrimage, he would grab hold of his beard and cut what was beyond his grasp.
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5553
Sahih Muslim 259
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
(Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
💌 If a woman doesn't enjoy wearing makeup and she hates the color pink, would that make her manly? Would girls who excel at sports while they can lift heavy objects be guilty of being too masculine? What about guys who aren't athletic, instead of playing basketball or knowing martial arts they prefer to stay indoors either helping around the house with their wives or reading books? If a guy is generally soft-spoken and gentle, would he be considered "effeminate"?
'Uthman ibn 'Affaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu was known for his modest and soft kind of personality yet he was a courageous leader who, with Allah's Will, had an important role in preserving the copies of the Noble Qur'an.
Nusaybah bint Ka'b RadhiAllahu 'anha displayed admirable courage when she fiercely defended the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam during the battle of Uhud, and yet she didn't lose her feminine instincts in being a loving mother and wife.
It is possible for males to still be men even if they don't demonstrate traits that are typically macho, and for females to maintain their femininity even if they aren't as girlish as stereotypical "high-maintenance ladies". That is on condition they don't purposely do something or refrain from certain things in order to imitate the opposite gender.
🔸 There are three ways to copy the opposite gender:
1] By wearing the outfits, styles and garments which are exclusively appropriate for their gender.
Example: When a man wears jewelry, a bra and mini-skirt, or when a woman cuts her hair really short, wearing a baggy t-shirt and jeans so it's hard to tell if she's female or not from a distance.
2] By deliberately following the behavior and mannerisms which are more suitable for the opposite gender.
Example: When a man rhythmically walks in a ladylike fashion, and when a boyish female sits slouching or with her legs spread apart in a way that is characteristic of most men's sitting position.
3] By intentionally doing the work or actions that are commonly expected from the opposite gender, until they forget the value of their own identity.
Example: When a guy chooses to pray at home because he's too shy to pray in the Masjid or he works as a beautician in a beauty parlor. Or when a woman is employed as a construction worker, while going to the gym on a daily basis, so her body is more muscular than that of her male relatives.
🔸 Real men in Islam vs. girly males:
1] Real men understand their duties and responsibilities to care for their womenfolk. Girly males always expect to be looked after by women, as if they're babies.
2] Real men let their beards grow. Girly males regularly shave their beards and take pride in having chins that are as smooth as a baby's bottom.
3] Real men strive to obey the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, especially in not wearing gold and silk. Girly males fancy seeing themselves looking "fab" in silky robes, nail polish and gold accessories.
4] Real men are not overly emotional types. They're capable of maintaining patience with others, particularly with their wives. Girly males usually quarrel and argue with women. They habitually gossip, spread rumors and backbite.
5] A real man is naturally attracted to a female and he knows when to lower his gaze. A girly boy allows his eyes to wander around and he stares at women comfortably as if he is one of them.
🔸 Real women in Islam vs. mannish females:
1] Real women honor the special roles which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose for them. They're not ones to insist they have a superior status than men nor do they believe it's okay to disrespect the husband anytime.
Mannish females behave as if they're entitled to scornfully overpower men whenever they like.
2] Real women wear the proper hijab for Allah's sake, valuing modesty and respecting Allah's Laws. Mannish females assume it's fine to go against what they've been commanded, letting their hair show like men do and to be more "liberal".
3] Real women don't go out excessively and they speak up only when necessary. Mannish females love competing with men and proving they have the abilities to do the exact same activities as they can.
4] Real women try their best to be dutiful, caring and respectful wives. Mannish females either completely disbelieve in the significance of marriage or they incorrectly think it's acceptable to neglect the husband whenever they desire.
5] A real woman is naturally attracted to a male and she knows when to lower her gaze. A mannish female checks out other women, staring at them intensely up and down like she's one of the boys. When around non-mahram males too, a mannish female doesn't control her gaze, because she forgot her identity as a striving Muslimah who for Allah's sake values modesty.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: "The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men."
In another narration, Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma said: "The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam cursed men who copy women and women who copy men.'
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6445
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty has made lawful silk and gold for the women of my nation, but He has forbidden them (gold and silk) for the men."
Source: Sunan An-Nasā’ī 5265
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Be different from the polytheists (disbelievers). Let the beard grow and trim the moustache.” Whenever Ibn Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, performed the Hajj or Umrah pilgrimage, he would grab hold of his beard and cut what was beyond his grasp.
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5553
Sahih Muslim 259
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
(Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim