Note: Tips On How Extroverts And Introverts Can Understand Each Other

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 3 Ways introverts can better understand extroverts:

1) When an extrovert likes you, they tend to be chatty and enjoy asking you lots of questions so you can become closer friends. Their interviews are not necessarily meant to cause annoyance or inconvenience.

2) Don't be offended if some extroverts seem to ignore you at times. Because of their wide range of network and acquaintances, it's not easy for them to have lengthy conversations offline and online with every individual they know. It's normal to see an extrovert who talks faster than you do or seems like they're always rushing. They may want to get done with the dialogue to complete their assignment of conversing with each person in a gathering.

3) Not all extroverts intend to be attention seekers if they post regularly on their Facebook timelines or if they are outspoken in real life. Sharing some of their thoughts or ideas with the public, expressing themselves loudly and letting others know about how they feel are part of being an extroverted personality type. Since they like to socialize with various kinds of people, connecting with others, frequently updating their social media accounts and chatting do not make them less energized. 

3 Ways extroverts can better understand introverts:

1) Don't be offended if it takes time for some introverts to answer your messages. A lot of them prefer to think very carefully of what to say and analyze how to deliver it before they actually reply. Some have a habit of overthinking so much to the point that they seldom respond to your text because they already replied to it in their mind. Follow up with another friendly message if you insist on receiving their response, or talk to them one-on-one offline.

2) Many introverts like their privacy, cherish their alone time and prefer planned activities instead of getting surprised. So if you don't want to give them a heart attack, avoid calling them on the phone without prior notice or going to their house without an invite. 

3) An introvert's silence doesn't always indicate they dislike your company. They're probably waiting for you to speak so they can listen to you attentively, or they don't want to ask too many questions so they don't seem annoying, disrespectful or nosy. Overly socializing and talking unnecessarily, especially with a stranger or an acquaintance they've just met recently, can cause them to lose energy. Thus have compassion and give them the space they need.

Whether you're introverted, extroverted or an ambivert who can be flexible in different social settings, always make sure that you maintain good manners for Allah's sake with everyone, and whatever action you decide to take doesn't harm other Muslims for no reason.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

Hadith: Virtues Of Trusting Only Allah And Not Being Dependent On People

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105, Sahih Muslim 1053 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 ‘Iyad ibn Himar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The people of Paradise are three kinds: an authority who is fair, truthful, and guided; a man who has mercy and kindness in his heart towards his relatives and every Muslim; and one who refuses to beg (from people) although he has dependents." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2865 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (hidden from publicity, not famous or popular among the people)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Better To Keep Secrets Than Reveal Them To Regret

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "If a person disclosed his secret with his tongue,
and somebody else spread that secret, then surely he is foolish.
If a person's chest was too tight from the distress of concealing his secret,
then the one who spread the secrets had a much tighter chest."
Note: You can't expect another individual to keep your secrets if you yourself found difficulty in keeping such personal information.
From the poetry of Imam Ash-Shaafi'ee
📖 Abdullah ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever is silent has been saved."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2501
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: Three Things That Allah Hates Which We Must Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 There are three things that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala hates yet they are common among many communities:
Overspending unnecessarily or being reckless with one's wealth, asking too many questions which are more harmful than beneficial, and spreading gossip, busily discussing others' personal matters while forgetting one's own issues.
🔸 Examples of wasting money which we should avoid: YouTube vloggers uploading videos of themselves resting in a bathtub loaded with tons of ramen noodles or cereal, so-called 'food challenges' in which competitive eaters try to consume a gigantic platter of expensive dishes that can suffice an entire village, and using one's savings to regularly enjoy a lavish vacation around several European countries instead of performing Hajj at least once in their lifetime.
🔸 Examples of excessive questioning which we ought to abstain from: Asking too many questions about how a person obtained their education and still suspecting their background in spite of their clarifications. Questioning why a particular legislation or Islamic ruling is legislated, such as the obligation of the hijaab and the permissibility of polygyny - not to genuinely comprehend its virtues but to reach a conclusion that it's unnecessary according to your flawed understanding. And attempting to disturb religious scholars or lecturers with numerous questions not to eagerly learn more about Islam but to be a troublesome troll, checking how knowledgeable, persuasive and eloquent they are.
🔸 Examples of unproductive talks that are better off avoided: Discussing other people's marriages in depth and evaluating why this person decided to ask for divorce, complaining about how much you dislike working alongside a specific boss or colleague and your complaint doesn't improve your circumstances at all, and
chatting about how you're arguably correct concerning why you ship certain celebrities and what caused them to look compatible together. Conversations that don't strengthen your faith/Imaan or which cannot produce any positive value can be idealistically substituted with frequent Qur'an recitation, Du'as and Dhikr.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah does not like for you to waste wealth, nor ask many unnecessary questions, nor spread gossip."
Source: Musnad Al-Bazzār 8463
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What I have prohibited for you, avoid it. What I have commanded you, do it as much as you can. Verily, those before you were ruined only due to their excessive questioning and contradicting their prophets."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6858
Sahih Muslim 1337
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam passed by two graves and he said, "Both of them are being punished, but not for a major sin. As for this man, he did not prevent his urine from soiling him. And as for this man, he would spread gossip." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam then asked for a green leaf from a date-palm. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam split it into two pieces and planted one on each grave, and he said, "It is hoped that their punishment may be abated until those two leaves become dry."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5705, Sahih Muslim 292
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "shaytan will come to one of you and he will say, ‘Who created this and that?’ until he says to him, ‘Who created your Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)?’ When it comes to this, let him seek refuge in Allah and stop such thoughts.
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3102, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
https://www.abukhadeejah.com/allah-hates-squander-wealth-waste-hadeeth-brief-explanation/

Note: True Wealth Is In Faith/Imaan And Contentment For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Indeed the intelligent person is the one whose intelligence is known through his actions,
not necessarily by his eloquence and statements.
And similarly the leader - he is the leader through his good example and character,
not necessarily by his clan and followers.
And in the same way, the wealthy person is the one who is enriched from within and contented with himself,
not necessarily by his kingdom and wealth."
From the poetry of Imam Ash-Shaafi'ee
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is not in having many possessions. Rather, true wealth is the richness of the soul."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6081
Sahih Muslim 1051
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Don't Be From The Two-Faced Hypocrites

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah loves the truthful, so stay honest for His sake. 

From the traits of people who can be described as "fake"

Include: Hating you in secret, smiling to your face, 

Acting nice if you're there, gossiping when you're away,

Lying and making promises which they plan to break. 

~•~

Don't be two-faced. It's not appealing nor rewarding.

Rather than welcoming forced social interactions 

Then following fruitless talks with sinful backbiting, 

Be brief yet friendly, be well-mannered as a Muslim.

Although you clash with some souls, abstain from gossiping. 

~•~

Those who truly love Allah strive to support the truth, 

Ensure their words are factual, have fakery eschewed,

Apologize if they misinformed or misconstrued, 

Side with the sincere and trustworthy whose faith is true -

Telling lies and spreading rumors are faults they don't do. 

~•~

Strike a balance between love and hate for Allah's sake.

Despising some shouldn't lead to what Allah forbade 

From engaging in gossip to wanting to betray.

Simply disconnect from those who goals are not the same.

Return wrongs with patience. Let your good heart be portrayed.

~•~

Practice what you preach. Make sure your words match your actions.

Recall Allah sees all, so purify intentions,

And refrain from the following: Falsehood, deception,

And partaking in futile gossipy discussions. 

Truth and justice will prevail on the Day of Judgment.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among the worst of people is one with two faces, he who comes with one face to these and another to those."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6757

Sahih Muslim 2526

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever speaks with a forked-tongue in the world, Allah will make two tongues of fire for him on the Day of Resurrection."

Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 2746

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as truthful. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/minor-and-major-hypocrisy-and-the-hypocrites-by-al-barbahaaree-explanation-of-al-fawzaan/

Note: Some Reasons Why A Number Of Women Choose To Stay Single

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 The words "spinster" and "old maid" are used to describe an unmarried woman who has reached a stage that is beyond the usual age for marriage. Alhamdulillah I personally know at least five Muslim women who are in their forties or fifties and they're contented as they are - single but independent, and free from the additional responsibilities of being a wife.

Although she never had a husband before, the mother of Prophet Jesus, Maryam (May Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with them both) is counted as one of the best women on earth and one of the believers promised to be granted entry to Jannah Paradise. So long as you're blessed with Allah's Love, you don't need a man to feel complete nor obtain the status of being "married" to be regarded as successful in this temporal life. 

It is possible for a Muslimah to be happy enjoying singlehood, believing she's satisfied with loving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, while not being dependent on another human being.

🔸 Some of the likely reasons why a number of women choose to avoid matrimony include:

1] They're fed up receiving marriage proposals from men who don't seem to be good enough according to their standards. They'd rather wait for their flawless spouse in Jannah Paradise than deal with the negative consequences of marrying "the wrong guy".

2] They have full satisfaction with their current job. The income they get from their profession is more than enough to sustain themselves and their loved ones. They're the type of women who don't require assistance and support from any human, especially a man.

3] They could be "asexual" or not interested at all in anything that has to do with physical intimacy, romance and sexual reproduction. To them, there are other ways to achieve happiness which are not connected to marriage. 

4] They've seen too many "failed marriages" that they lost interest in becoming wives. They prefer staying single and free from worries to not being an "ideal wife".

5] They could be from the minority of females who are not sexually attracted to males. Falling in love with the opposite gender doesn't come to them easily. Instead of marrying unwillingly and showing love to the husband artificially, these women are satisfied rejecting and not receiving marriage proposals. 

🔸 Tips concerning this issue:

1] Never look down on a woman who hasn't received a marriage proposal yet. A woman's value is in her Taqwa, faith/Imaan and love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not in the amount of marriage proposals she got or the quality of guys she was married to in the past. 

2] If you're currently single, don't feel pressured to get married soon just because a lot of your friends and relatives finally had their wedding. Continue preserving your modesty, as you keep praying to Allah the Most Loving to bless you with a pious husband who is worthy of your loyalty and affection. 

3] Married life isn't equivalent to joy and success. Once a woman gets married, she should expect various trials and tests, including how patient she can get with her husband and whether or not she can always remain loyal. 

Your worth as a Muslimah isn't attached to your marital status, but to how strong and genuine your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is.

Single, divorced or widowed, what matters really is that you're from those souls whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves and guided. 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the nations before me and one or two prophets would pass by with only a few followers and another would pass by with none. Then a large crowd of people passed in front of me and I asked: 'Are they my followers?' It was said: 'No, this is Moses (Prophet Musa 'alaihis salaam) and his followers.' Then it was said: 'Look at the horizon.' Behold, there was a multitude of people filling the horizon. It was said: 'This is your nation from which seventy thousand will enter Paradise without being taken to account.' Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam entered his house without telling them who the seventy thousand were, so the people started discussing the issue and they said, “It is we who have believed in Allah and followed His Messenger, so those people are either ourselves or our children who are born in the era of Islam, for we were born in the time of ignorance.” When the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam heard that, he came out and he said: "They are those who do not treat themselves with incantations, nor do they believe in bad or good omens, nor do they get themselves cauterized. Rather, they put their complete trust in their Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)." ‘Ukkashah ibn Muhsin said, “O Messenger of Allah, am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said 'yes.' Another man got up and he said, “Am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Ukkashah has preceded you."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5378

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Hadith: Avoiding Overeating Unnecessarily

 📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The food of one person is enough for two, the food of two is enough for four, and the food of four is enough for eight." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2059 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Al-Nawawi said, "In this is encouragement to be sympathetic with food, that even a little food is enough to suffice, and there is blessing in sharing with those present." 

Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2059

📖 Miqdam ibn Ma’d RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The son of Adam (humans) cannot fill a vessel worse than his stomach, as it is enough for him to take a few bites to straighten his back (to survive). If he cannot do it, then he may fill it with a third for his food, a third for his drink, and a third for his breath." 

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2380 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Muflih

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the people who ate to their fill in the world today will be the people of hunger in the Hereafter tomorrow." 

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 11693 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Mundhiri

Hadith: Gratitude To Allah And Contentment With Simplicity

📖 ‘Ubaydullah ibn Mihsan RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever among you wakes up secure in his property, healthy in his body, and he has enough food for his day, it is as if he were given the entire world."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2346

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is not in having many possessions. Rather, true wealth is the richness of the soul."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6081
Sahih Muslim 1051
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: For Allah's Sake Avoid Evil Thoughts

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Know when Allah loves you, you'll be tested even more.
Getting closer to Allah is what shaytan abhors.
Expect shaytan to distract you with disturbing thoughts,
Waswaas full of false promises and enticing words.
~•~
shaytan can paint mental images to beautify
Evil actions and make them appear grand to your eyes.
Memories of people you like he can sexualize,
Or fantasies of harming them he can dramatize.
~•~
shaytan can keep you busy with imaginations
Of those you admire which could lead to fornication,
Or he can prevent you from making good connections
When you shun a striving Muslim due to suspicion.
~•~
Sinful thoughts, if not controlled, can eventually lead
To actually doing them, assuming they're good deeds.
Unwanted thoughts that nearly resemble OCD
Can be replaced with Adhkaar so your soul can be healed.
~•~
Love yourself enough to ignore shaytan's suggestions.
Remind yourself: Although you like a certain someone,
You prefer Allah's Love, and zina is forbidden.
Seek Allah's help in controlling your way of thinking.
~•~
Your mind is like a glass. If it's filled with noble thoughts,
Dhikr of Allah and plots of ways to gain His Love,
There'd be no space to entertain shaytan's vile waswaas.
Remember Allah a lot, so your heart can relax.
~•~
Maintain Taqwa so your soul's shield is more effective.
Ditch fitna, lower gaze around those deemed attractive,
Recall death often, always seek Islamic knowledge,
Your goals to meet Allah and reach Jannah don't forget.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, “We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You have indeed found it so?” They said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is sincere faith.”
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is (a sign of) pure faith.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 132
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you."
Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157

Note: Everything Including Marriage Is Under Allah's Control

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When I was around eighteen or nineteen years old, back in Saudi Arabia, I received a marriage proposal from one of my male 'childhood friends'. I quickly declined his request because he was about two years younger than me and I preferred marrying an older man with more life experiences. After declining several other marriage proposals, my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) insisted that I at least marry my first cousin who was then studying as a medical student. Initially I refused, because I understood that a lot of doctors can get preoccupied with work, which prevents them from enjoying quality time with their families. Eventually I accepted the proposal after praying two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah and measuring the pros and cons of getting married at twenty. Alhamdulillah through this marriage, I've learned to be very supportive of polygyny, more understanding towards individuals with certain disabilities (as my husband has an autistic brother), and Alhamdulillah I'm able to encourage wives whose husbands work abroad to remain faithful and steadfastly patient for Allah's sake. Last time I checked while browsing on Facebook, I found out that the guy whose marriage proposal I rejected is contentedly married with one of his cousins, like I'm wed to my cousin, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala blessed them with a number of adorable kids. 

After my mother and a good friend of hers gave birth in the same year 1988, in Ad-Dammam city, they agreed to have their kids engaged and promised they'd get them married in the future, as a way to maintain their close friendship. I remember seeing photos of my brother as a baby holding hands with another baby and, if I'm not mistaken, they had cute tiny engagement rings on. Several years later their wedding was cancelled even though my brother was all set for his groom's outfit. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined that my brother get married to one of our cousins instead who's about three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they're both currently blessed with five cute children. The girl on the other hand whom we thought could've been his wife actually married a Saudi guy who met her during their university years in Malaysia. Alhamdulillah they're blessed with one beautiful daughter together at the moment. 

🔸The lesson I wish to share is that even if your plans to marry someone didn't work out, and no matter how many times you've tried proposing to some women only to receive a negative response, you shouldn't feel bad about yourself or wrongly assume that Allah doesn't love you. If being a particular woman's husband wasn't your Qadr/Destiny, your marriage with her can never take place despite being bribed with millions of pesos. If Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't decree that you become somebody's soulmate, you'd always stay single in spite of meeting numerous matchmakers who guess you're compatible with so-and-so. However if Allah the Most Wise already planned that you get married to a specific person, on an assigned date, in a chosen destination, nothing and nobody can prevent Allah's Plans from occurring. So keep trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and ask Him to grant you only what is right for your overall well-being. 

It could take days, weeks, months or years... but whatever was meant to be yours, according to Allah's Plans, will ultimately come to you at the perfect timing. 

Include the Muslim Ummah today Jumuah Friday in your Du'as, wholeheartedly believing that Allah knows how to answer your supplications.

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

Poem: Welcome To The First Wives Club

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A tribute to first wives whose hearts are one of a kind,

Who love Allah the most, and value the husband's rights, 

Who live for Allah so polygyny they don't mind, 

Wise enough to know the reality of this life.

~•~

Keep loving your husband for Allah with sweet Sabr.

Don't give up the love because he married another. 

The other woman shouldn't make you a weak quitter.

If she can please your man, then love him too but harder. 

~•~

Be strong on the inside like a mountain wouldn't budge 

When the wind blows and brings with it piles of leaves and rocks. 

While your spouse married a second, you're still his first love -

His chapter two mustn't cause your love story to stop. 

~•~

For Allah's sake, love your husband with fierce loyalty, 

Fearless patience and acceptance of Allah's Decree. 

A co-wife's entry doesn't need to break your journey.

In countless ways she can benefit your family.

~•~

The other wife's presence can effectively train you 

To exercise Sabr for Allah, with gratitude,

To recall how your husband's love for you remains true, 

And to always prefer Jannah where none can feel blue. 

~•~

That's how you know your love is real - when it stays the same, 

Or the romance keeps growing nearly each night and day. 

Whether he's near you or his body is far away, 

The love for your soulmate is too solid it can't fade. 

~•~

First wife, you're not an option when your man re-married.

Dear Muslimah who's fine with what Allah permitted, 

Who loves Allah and whose faith/Imaan is deep-seated,

Don't quit. Marriage must never be taken for granted. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Develop Good Character For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 A woman doesn't become instantly "righteous" by calling herself 'Umm fulaan' or 'Omm fulaana', wearing niqab with modest jilbab, and sharing Islamic posts while arrogantly looking down on Muslims who don't appear to be as religious as she is. It doesn't make sense that one claims to be Muslim and a follower of the Prophet's Sunnah yet their actions clearly contradict the way the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam treated others with admirable mercy, kindness and fairness.

While it is rewarding to regularly attend Islamic halaqas and listen to beneficial lectures, a lot of those who may consider themselves as religiously superior to those who aren't equally righteous  are guilty of the following:

1] If it is not known or you haven't declared yet that you are 'Salafi', they completely ignore your salaams and look at you with unfriendly scowls. We're commanded by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the Noble Qur'an and by His beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam to answer others' salaam, if not with a better greeting then at least to return it, whether the person saying salaam is a Muslim or not.

2] They doubt your sincerity and quickly assume your good deeds are done to cover up an ulterior motive. You encourage others to do charity? Automatically they guess you're "khaariji", when that's not the case at all. They found you being friendly with Muslims from a different organization? You're a deviant "hizbi" to them, when you're simply implementing decent manners with other humans.

3] They think it's permissible to ridicule, backbite and gossip about sinners, deviants and the ignorant, unaware that they themselves are also prone to making errors now and then since no human being is 100% perfect.

It is okay to choose your close friends wisely. It is okay to be careful regarding who to trust. What's not okay is to treat somebody rudely just because they don't seem trustworthy, relatable, or exactly identical to you.

Avoid acting like you know what a Muslim's intentions are, as only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows who are the truly guided ones and only He sees all of His servants' hearts.

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are most beneficial to the people."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsaṭ 5937 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of the believer on the Day of Resurrection than good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar, obscene person."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2002 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you know who is bankrupt?” They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him (the one who oppressed and mistreated others) and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, gentleness is not found in anything but that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything but that it disgraces it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2594 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Al-Nawwas ibn Sam’an RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Righteousness is good character, and sin is what disturbs your heart and you hate for people to find out about it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2553 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Be Well-Prepared For The Meeting With Allah

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 From the things you won't need when you're buried in your grave:
Your cozy house, luxury mansion, fine food you ate,
Large income you earned many of which you loved to save,
Fancy titles or degrees that embellished your name,
~•~
Expensive cars you owned or vehicles you rode in,
Countries traveled to and cities you went to often,
Photos of yourself, with loved ones and with meals taken,
Branded clothes, designer shoes, and worldly collections,
~•~
Cash invested in material things - you won't need them,
Along with the likes you got and fans you influenced,
Evil plans you schemed to get even with opponents,
And pride you inflated to win every argument.
~•~
What will benefit are deeds you did for Allah's sake,
From praying on time, and saying Dhikr night and day,
To teaching about Islam, and kindness you displayed.
Allah gave us this life to worship Him, not play games.
~•~
So don't worry if you're not rich or haven't gained fame.
Our main purpose is to serve Allah, do good, and pray,
While being patient with what Allah provides and takes,
Till we reach Jannah and join those who see Allah's Face.
~•~
📖 Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When a human being is laid in his grave and his companions return, and he even hears their footsteps, two angels come to him and make him sit and ask him: 'What did you use to say about this man, Muhammad?' He will say: 'I testify that he is Allah's slave and His Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.' Then it will be said to him, 'Look at your place in the Hellfire. Allah has given you a place in Paradise instead of it.'"
The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam added, "The dead person will see both his places. But a disbeliever or a hypocrite will say to the angels, 'I do not know, but I used to say what the people used to say!' It will be said to him, 'Neither did you know nor did you take the guidance (by reciting the Qur'an).' Then he will be hit with an iron hammer between his two ears, and he will cry and that cry will be heard by whatever approaches him except human beings and jinns."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 1338
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 94
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 422 
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a dead person. Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149, Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and she said, “My mother has died and she owed a month of fasting.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you think if she had a debt you would repay it on her behalf?” She said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The debts of Allah are more worthy to be repaid."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1902
Sahih Muslim 1132
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Signs Of Insecure People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 There is a huge difference between being "shy" and "insecure". One person may appear to be outgoing, courageously ready to mingle and socialize, yet deep down inside they're incredibly insecure and unconfident. Another individual can be described as "shy" when they dislike bringing unnecessary attention to themselves, feel uneasy around large social gatherings, or they refrain from behaving in a manner that could repel or turn off those whom they look up to.

Many reserved introverts or ambiverts who are "shy" when among strangers actually have a good amount of self-esteem. They can be regarded as "confident" when they do things with a reasonable purpose regardless of people's opinions and criticism. Insecure individuals on the other hand act out because they excessively care about what people think. They're usually driven by their own emotions or ego and how onlookers view them.

🔹 Three signs that indicate a person could be insecure - they are unhappy with who they are or they lack self-confidence:

1] They're quick to judge your intentions and question others' motives. 

If you and some friends are laughing, the insecure person instantly assumes they're the subject of your discussion, when that isn't the case. If you want to share some information because you think it can benefit others, an insecure person would speculate you're "showing off again" or "acting like a know-it-all". If you're asking questions because you're curious and willing to develop your friendship, an obnoxiously insecure individual would get offended and assume you want certain information only for selfish reasons.

They're so insecure and unsure of themselves that they can't even see others in a positive way.

2] They shamelessly verbalize wrong assumptions about others.

Instead of keeping their bad thoughts to themselves, like mature adults do, insecure people utilize their social media accounts to bring others down. Their gigantic load of insecurities is what drives them to post passive-aggressive status updates which are directed at those whom they're too afraid to confront. They are so enriched with insecure self-hatred that insulting others and counting people's flaws to distract oneself from one's own are done to pacify their minuscule self-esteem.

3] They deliberately do and say things to make you feel bad about yourself.

"Oh your baby recently started crawling? That's sad. Mine learned to crawl at five months.", "How come your husband doesn't work in the same city you're in? Maybe you should influence him to find another job so you're not neglected. You're extremely weak if you never remind him what your rights are.", and "Why did you style your hair like that? Are you copying me? This hairstyle is unsuitable for your face shape." are some examples of statements you may hear from insecure haters.

People who are secure, glow with confidence, and who are grateful for the blessings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave them, uplift others and spread cheerful vibes, not mistreat people whom they regard as competition or threats to their limelight.

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."  

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987  

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest." 

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him not harm his neighbor." 

And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe. The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

Poem: Some Signs That Good Wives Love Their Husbands

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A pious woman's love, when she loves for Allah's sake,

Isn't limited to a kiss but in myriad ways.

Her love is not restricted to sweet words, tight embrace,

And cuddles, but through other means her love is portrayed.

~•~

She proves her love for her husband when she tries her best 

To be his grateful wife who doesn't bring him distress,

Contented with what he can provide, sad when he's stressed,

Doing what she can so he smiles, and helping him rest. 

~•~

The phrase "I love you" for her man are put to action 

When she raises her hands to say Du'a, and mentions 

Her husband's name in loving supplications often,

Praying for his guidance, safety and soul's well-being. 

~•~

Her love is proven each time she misses his presence, 

Whether he's gone for few hours or longer duration.

While in most of her thoughts and dreams he's an occupant, 

She loves Allah so much more, hence she remains patient. 

~•~

Her statements "I love you" for her spouse are enacted 

Sincerely when she strives to pass each marital test, 

By lowering her gaze, shunning those deemed attractive,

And staying fiercely loyal to protect her marriage.

~•~

In modesty and keeping her charms for her husband, 

Avoiding flirting and needless chats with non-mahrams,

Her loyalty is shown, wholehearted and genuine, 

Growing in compassion since Allah connected them. 

~•~

Respecting her soulmate's rights, caring for their children, 

Maintaining friendly ties with his parents and loved ones, 

And learning Islam with him so their faith is strengthened,

Are from countless signs a wife truly loves her husband.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Be Strong Enough To Forgive Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Be strong enough to forgive people for Allah's sake,
Even those who gossiped about you, tarnished your name,
Who still owe you some money, tried to humiliate,
Ignored your salaams, mocked you, or put you under blame.
~•~
Forgive like the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) was forgiving,
Who forgave Taif's people who weren't welcoming,
Abu Sufyan and Hind who had Hamza's heart bitten,
And Wahshi with others who later became Muslims.
~•~
Forgive as the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) was kind and tough,
Who pardoned those who unjustly accused him and scoffed,
Called him names that didn't suit him and had him laughed at,
Unaware he's a mercy sent from Allah above.
~•~
Forgiveness doesn't mean returning to destruction,
Allowing oneself to befriend toxic companions
Who are used to lying, abusing, and backbiting,
Whose companionship brings nothing but bad influence.
~•~
To forgive Muslims for Allah's sake is to be free
From the urge to plot revenge, get even childishly,
And from enmity that keeps one from sleeping soundly.
It proves inner strength, faith and enhanced maturity.
~•~
Forgive that Muslim although you're not close anymore.
To forgive is to release them from being abhorred,
Despite remembering their insulting acts or words.
Forgive, even if the emotional wounds still hurt.
~•~
Forgive and move on. It's your right to choose friendly wisely,
Pious friends who aren't too proud to say they're sorry,
Who understand your story, forgive you readily,
And who live their lives to gain Allah's Love and Mercy.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, wrote in his poetry, “When I forgave and stopped holding malice against anyone, I relieved my soul of the worries of enmity.”
Source: Dīwān Al-Shāfiʻī 31

Note: Thoughts On Bad Dreams We Have About Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Oftentimes we wake up from nightmares or strange dreams about people whom we're acquainted with, whether they're our relatives, colleagues, neighbors or someone we've met through a mutual friend. Some of the visions we've had about those people may cause excessive worry, anxiety or feelings of discomfort when we're around them.
Allah the Almighty knows best. Two examples of bad dreams about individuals whom we know offline, regardless of how close our connection is with them include:
1] Seeing somebody try to harm us physically or emotionally in a dream. Being harmed, chased or confusingly ridiculed by them.
2] Having a weird dream in which you and a familiar face are being unusually intimate or inappropriate. Being in bed with them, enjoying a supposedly romantic date with them, strangely flirting with one another, watching them propose to you, or kissing them are some things you may have seen in this kind of dream.
🔸 Some possible meanings of certain nightmares concerning people:
1] Allah the Most Wise may be giving you signs regarding how this person truly feels about you. Perhaps they like you a lot or find specific traits of yours admirable, and this dream is a warning for you to ensure your affectionate moves are displayed moderately or you're given signals to avoid being too available, so the bond between you doesn't lead to something haraam/forbidden or abnormal.
Otherwise if you saw this person in your dream hurting you, there's a possibility that they could be secretly jealous of you, or they're completely against a number of your qualities or life choices. This dream may be a message from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for you to stay safe by slightly distancing yourself from them and accepting the fact that they can't always be relied on.
2] It may be that shaytan is attempting to play emotional and mental games with you by appearing in your dreams and resembling the image of people you know. Perhaps he wants you to pursue your feelings of attraction to someone and commit zina with them, or he desires that you discontinue a blessed friendship with a righteous Muslim by making them seem unpleasant and dangerous in a nightmare.
Inn-sha-Allah such nightmares, which shouldn't be interpreted literally, can't negatively impact you as long as you seek Allah's protection and resist the urge to spread it around.
3] A lot of your dreams could also represent your innermost thoughts, feelings and current condition. Maybe you miss that person so much so that a copy of them showed up in your dream as a way of coping with the sorrowful emotions associated with missing them. Maybe there's a quality that they possess which you can benefit from if you had it too e.g. humility, courage, confidence, assertiveness or generosity. Or maybe their presence in your life actually has significant meaning. Thus rather than taking them for granted, do what you can to maintain good connections with them for Allah's sake in a manner that inspires you two to be successful Muslims in both worlds.
https://www.abukhadeejah.com/notes-on-dream-interpretation/
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “When one of you sees a dream that he likes, it is from Allah so let him praise Allah for it and speak about it. When one of you sees something else he dislikes, it is from shaytan, so let him seek refuge from its evil and not mention it to anyone. It will not harm him."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6584
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If one of you sees a dream which he dislikes, let him blow on his left side three times and seek refuge in Allah from shaytan three times. Let him turn to the other side on which he was sleeping."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2262
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever sees me in a dream has truly seen me, for shaytan cannot assume my form."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6592
Sahih Muslim 2266
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The good dream is from Allah and the bad dream is from shaytan. Whoever sees something that he dislikes, let him blow to his left side three times and seek refuge from shaytan. Verily, it will not harm him and shaytan cannot appear in my form."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6594
Sahih Muslim 2261
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If one of you is frightened by a dream during sleep, let him say: 'I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah from His anger, His punishment, and the evil of His servants, from the insinuations of devils and their presence.' Verily, they will never harm him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3528
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Note: Some Qualities Of INTJs (MBTI Personality)

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🔸Some qualities or signs of an INTJ type:

1] In a group setting they're usually the quiet one, silently observing and attentively learning from behind the scenes. They speak up only when they believe that vocalizing their thoughts is beneficial or necessary. 

2] They never get bored reading, researching online and accumulating random information which they consider as relevant to their life goals or interests. "Robotic", "nerdy", "studious", "serious" and "erudite" are words that could describe them. 

3] They're either the only one not laughing, maintaining a straight face, when others are making jokes about other people, or they're the only listener grinning when they understood a sarcastic joke not about people but a subject that they find amusing.

4] They avoid public speaking if possible and their speech is usually brief, concise and to the point. 

5] They can often read between the lines and identify how someone may actually feel on the inside despite their outward behavior. Those whom they detect as untruthful or untrustworthy individuals who like playing passive-aggressive games are eventually avoided for their well-being.

6] From their teens or a younger age, INTJs typically feel like outsiders, not fitting in with their peers. They are oftentimes more mature and intellectually curious that they can't always relate to what seems popular, trendy or socially acceptable to the majority. Gossip is something they also intensely abhor.

7] Out of the 16 personality types INTJs are the most independent. They can be satisfied and contented, not "lonely", when solo especially if performing a task or accomplishing something on their own (with Allah's help) is more efficient than with a group of unreliable individuals. 

8] They don't get offended easily since they value the truth, logic and reason more than fluctuating emotions. You can yell at them, scold them, accuse, insult or exclude them from gatherings and they still (with Allah's Will) manage to stand up resilient and move on confidently, unfazed by criticism and irrational moves. 

9] Because they're more future-oriented, visionary and forward thinking, they easily move on from the past. They're not afraid of detaching, cancelling some plans, and disconnecting from certain distractions if doing so is more sensible and advantageous than continuing inefficiently. 

10] While it takes a lot of time to befriend INTJs, as they're extremely selective regarding who they emotionally invest in, once they regard you as part of their circle of trusted companions, they prove to be very caring, loyal and protective. You get to see a side of them too which they conceal from strangers. 

11] Actual INTJs, not INTJ-wannabes, aren't obnoxiously disrespectful and insulting without justification. They're not the kind to bully others specifically since they dislike dealing with unnecessary emotional reactions. They'd rather avoid those who conflict with them than indulge in unwanted interactions and fruitless arguments. 

https://personalitygrowth.com/most-likely-first-impressions-of-each-personality-type/

https://www.personalityperfect.com/test/free-personality-test/

Poem: What To Do When You Miss Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some tips for the wife to cope with missing her husband, 

Her other half and soulmate whom Allah has chosen,

Whether he works far away or he travels often, 

Or he's wed to multiple wives to raise more children.

~•~

The fact you long for his presence when he is absent,

Or you get worried or cranky when you're not near him, 

Is clear evidence you care about your dear husband.

Your love is genuine with such special connection.

~•~

Take note of this, regardless of where your husband goes 

On earth, you're both under the same skies, while Allah knows 

How much you miss each other as your affection grows 

With every thought of him for sweet gestures he has shown. 

~•~

You're not alone on nights when he's not by your pillow, 

As Allah the Most Kind sees you, ready to comfort 

Your heart with solace whenever you read Allah's Words.

Keep calm knowing this world's challenges won't take too long.

~•~

After a distressing evening full of thunderstorms 

Follow dawn and a brighter morning with sunlight warm.

Just as you'd admire a rose's scent more than its thorns, 

Focus on loving Allah more and gaining rewards. 

~•~

There's reward in being patient with Allah's Decree, 

Contentment in believing after trials come ease,

At least if not on earth then in Jannah finally 

Where the pious souls can enjoy love eternally.

~•~

Missing your spouse? Mention him in Du'as lovingly.

Pray that Jannah's where you'll reunite ultimately.

Understand that when you go through distress or unease,

Sins leave. So persevere with Sabr and loyalty.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 29

In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29

Poem: Money Is Either A Test Or A Blessing

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 The wealth that Allah gave you is a test from Allah. 

What you spend on from what you earn can reveal a  lot, 

Your true colors, your goals in life, what you truly love - 

Money: A route to Jannah, or a source of fitna. 

~•~

Some splurge their income on traveling around the world, 

On snacks, on cosmetics, on jewelry made of gold, 

On stacking up their closets with branded shoes and clothes, 

While most purchase essentials which they can just afford. 

~•~

How you use up your wealth can say so much about you - 

Generous - if you mostly buy gifts and feed the poor.

Greedy - if earnings are mainly spent on surplus food. 

Shallow - if richness makes you loathe those with less or few. 

~•~

Smart - if part of your salary grants access to books.

Selfish - if being rich only means improving looks, 

Adorning oneself with greed and pompous attitude.

Lost - if money distracts you from Jannah and the truth. 

~•~

The wise whom Allah guides utilize their wealth for good, 

To run Islamic schools so Islam is understood, 

To share Islam with all, so peace surrounds neighborhoods - 

Islam: Our faith that promotes patience and gratitude.

~•~

As Muslims we must stay patient with Allah's Qadr, 

Patient serving Allah and obeying His Orders, 

Patient during tough times and when things are in order, 

Patiently steadfast when gains increase or get lesser.

~•~

Remember: Dunya is not permanent - Jannah is. 

How wealthy one is doesn't measure actual success.

We're not yet successful until we pass Allah's tests, 

And meet Allah in Jannah where there's eternal bliss. 

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. The upper hand is the one that gives and the lower hand is the one that takes."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1362

Sahih Muslim 1033

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of greed, for it was only greed that destroyed those before you. It commanded them to be miserly and they did so. It commanded them to sever their family ties and they did so. It commanded them to behave wickedly and they did so."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1698

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Compete For Allah's Love And Join Those Who Pass His Tests

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 On earth where most ladies tend to be competitive,
Where they compare themselves to others and get jealous,
Only one kind of contest matters to the righteous -
To win Allah's Love and pass His tests with the pious.
~•~
We're not here to flaunt who is the most educated,
Who got the most awards and the best certificates,
Who's most skillful in art, fabulous at cosmetics,
And who's famous, or whose love life is most romantic.
~•~
If you're in the wrong race, it's no big deal if you've lost,
If you don't measure up to the materialistic,
Or you're not counted as "classy", "hot" or "rich" enough.
Allah, not His slaves, is the Only One to judge us.
~•~
The most noble of souls are those whom Allah guided,
Whom Allah blessed with knowledge, ethics, self-awareness,
Eagerness to improve and from vice they're protected,
Discernment of the truth, applying faith and courage.
~•~
Some lessons to learn from Khadija bint Khuwaylid:
Tough wives care for their men, they can run their own business,
In a decent method, through guardians or assisted,
They can propose or make themselves ready for marriage.
~•~
From caliph Ali's wife, Fatima bint Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam),
We learn to be daughters who are brave and supportive,
Wives who are hardworking and gratefully contented,
Mothers who show wisdom in educating their kids.
~•~
From Maryam bint 'Imran - mother of Prophet Jesus,
We learn "Only Allah is the One to be trusted",
With Tawakkal and firm faith/Imaan we can manage
And survive, even if we earn some people's hatred.
~•~
From Aasiyah bint Muzahim, we are motivated
To patiently persevere and do well in each test,
To keep seeking help from Allah, when hurt or oppressed,
And always aim for Jannah where there's eternal rest.
~•~
That's our mission, sisters, to pass all of Allah's tests,
With Sabr, Shukr, Taqwa, and ongoing progress
Towards Jannah while praying for Allah's Forgiveness,
Grateful we did our best to join those who stayed pious.
~•~
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of women among the people of Paradise are Khadija bint Khuwaylid, Fatimah bint Muhammad, Maryam bint ‘Imran, and Aasiyah bint Muzahim, the wife of fir'awn."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 2896
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: It was said to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “Which wives are best?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who pleases him (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he requests her, and does not dispute him in herself and her wealth in a way he dislikes."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3231
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah.

The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."
Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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Note: Some Signs Of Hypocrites Which We Should Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 11 Signs of hypocrites - people who aren't really Muslims but pretend to be so, concealing disbelief in their hearts while appearing to be outwardly religious, with an agenda to cause problems among Muslim communities or they aim to give Islam a negative image:
1] Their good deeds, like praying or acting as though they're performing Salah, are usually done to gain people's praise, or to portray that they're Muslims when in reality they don't even accept the Shahaada.
2] Because they don't actually believe in Allah the Almighty, they seldom remember Him. The only times they mention Allah's Names, such as saying "MashaAllah" and "Alhamdulillah", is when some Muslims are nearby listening.
3] They don't bother praying on time and doing wudhu/ablution correctly. If they're the only ones in a public bathroom, they do ablution deliberately in a wrong manner (quick splashes of water here and there without proper niyyah/intention). They refuse to carry out their duties and responsibilities to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, so long as they're not being observed by others. For instance, they may claim they're "fasting", but they eat and drink in their homes when Muslims aren't observing.
4] They are known for being deceitful, dishonest and untrustworthy. Keeping promises or at least trying to be trustworthy is something they don't take seriously.
5] As chronic liars or betrayers, they are very careless with their words. Gossip, fallacious rumors, untruthful jokes, false accusations and unreliable ideas are examples of verbal nonsense that they're into.
6] Since they don't fear Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, their lack of Taqwa leads them to feeling comfortable with telling lies on purpose, stealing, and deceiving others.
7] The only thing that makes them appear to be "Muslim" is wearing an Islamic clothing when outdoors (especially thobe for males and jilbaab or niqab for females). Or they insincerely declare that they support Islam when they've been plotting against Muslims since day one of interacting with them.
8] In order to conceal their reality, they quickly accuse others of disbelief, deviance, misguidance, hypocrisy and unreliability before someone can reveal their true colors.
9] Seeing how they aren't genuine Muslims, at least not yet, they do not value saying Dhikr and Du'a at all. Until they've embraced Islam truthfully from their hearts, saying Du'a and Adhkaar, as well as reading from the Noble Qur'an, are deeds they don't regard as important... unless a number of Muslims are surveying them. They're more likely to use a copy of the Noble Qur'an as mere decoration somewhere in their house rather than reading the Qur'an regularly for Allah's sake.
10] With causing fitna or inviting disruption to peaceful Muslim communities as one of their goals, they enjoy getting into arguments, encouraging Muslims to debate, and doing whatever they can to divide the Muslims. They'd rather be up all night debating vehemently with online users than praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl.
11] The eloquent "Islamic lectures", Islamic posts they occasionally share online, and what they sometimes call to contradict with their actual beliefs and actions done away from spectators. They don't make effort to practice what they preach, and even if they do some religious tasks visibly at times, they are not consistent or an ounce bit sincere.
📖 Jundub RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever acts to be heard, Allah will make him heard. Whoever acts to show off, Allah will show him off."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6134, Sahih Muslim 2987
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “The scholars said it means whoever is ostentatious in his deeds and he publicizes it to people so that they honor him, aggrandize him, and believe he is righteous, Allah will publicize it to the people on the Day of Resurrection and disgrace him.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2986
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has three traits is a hypocrite, even if he fasts, prays, goes to Hajj and Umrah, and claims to be a Muslim. When he speaks, he lies. When he promises, he breaks it. When he is trusted, he betrays it."
Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4039
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
📖 ‘Ammar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever carries two faces in the world, he will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Resurrection."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4873
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Umar ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among what I fear most for my nation is every hypocrite with a knowledgeable tongue."
In another narration, Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “His tongue is knowledgeable, but his heart and deeds are ignorant.”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 140
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir
📖 ‘Imran ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Among what I fear most for you are the debates of hypocrites with a knowledgeable tongue."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 80
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

Note: Eleven Things To Do To Avoid Nifaaq/Hypocrisy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 11 Things to do to avoid nifaaq/hypocrisy:
1] Make sure that your good deeds are done sincerely to please Only Allah the Almighty, not for His servants' acclamation.
2] Strive to remember Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and say Dhikr whenever possible, not solely when an audience or onlooker is watching. So if you sneeze and there's no other person nearby, for example, still say "Alhamdulillah" in an audible voice as you normally do.
3] Try your best to properly perform all of the duties we're obligated to do, particularly praying the obligatory prayers at their right timings and performing wudhu/ablution correctly.
4] When you've promised somebody to do something, try your utmost to fulfill your promise. In case you're unable to carry it out, at least apologize and explain your side, or do what you can to compensate for that shortcoming.
5] Ensure that whatever you say and declare online and offline are truthful, factual or confirmed. If you're not certain of a fact, at least add "I guess", "I think", "From what I understand", "As far as I've seen" or "In my opinion" to your statement.
6] Remain honest and trustworthy for Allah's sake, even if you've previously encountered individuals who proved they were unreliable. Stay away from deceit, purposely lying (particularly in business transactions), fraud, forgery, stealing, plagiarism, and being deliberately two-faced.
7] Have sincere determination to do more good deeds for Allah's sake offline than appearing to be pious online. The more you serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in private away from the presence of people, the more you enhance your sincerity/Ikhlaas, while the urge to receive compliments from others is lessened.
Good deeds you can secretly do to earn Allah's Love include: Praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl habitually, fasting Sunnah fasts regularly without notifying people you're fasting, doing charity and giving tips to others without announcing your charitable works.
8] As much as possible avoid accusing anybody directly of kufr/disbelief or nifaaq/hypocrisy, specially if you lack sufficient proofs to support your accusations. Oftentimes critics who unfairly accuse others with certain terms and labels are the ones in reality guilty of their own accusatory remarks. For instance, someone who judges you to be a "homosexual" because of your overall behavior could themselves be covertly attracted to the same gender, just as a complete stranger who doesn't really know you yet claims you "speak too much to impress" may be the culprit whose insults directed at you describe them more suitably.
Think well of other Muslims, just as you wouldn't want them to constantly mistrust you, believing that Allah the All-Knowing is rightfully the Only Judge in both worlds.
9] Supplicate wholeheartedly and keep praying to Allah the Most Forgiving that He protects you from shirk/polytheism, bid'ah/innovation, misguidance, riyaa/showing off to the people, insincerity, apostasy, and nifaaq/hypocrisy.
10] Refrain from being too keen on debating with others. As long as you've tried to share some authentic knowledge for Allah's sake with clear evidence from the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, you don't need to force your beliefs unto those who are too stubborn or close-minded. Excessive arguments and unnecessary drama can cause one's faith/Imaan level to decrease. The weaker their faith is, the more prone they are to disobeying Allah's Laws until they expose themselves to acts that are typical of those accountable for hypocrisy.
11] Don't be among those who never practice what they preach. Whenever you remind other Muslims to do a particular good deed, be sure that you similarly do that action. When warning or advising others against actions which are haraam/forbidden, ensure that you also abstain from those wrongdoings.
📖 Jundub RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever acts to be heard, Allah will make him heard. Whoever acts to show off, Allah will show him off."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6134, Sahih Muslim 2987
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “The scholars said it means whoever is ostentatious in his deeds and he publicizes it to people so that they honor him, aggrandize him, and believe he is righteous, Allah will publicize it to the people on the Day of Resurrection and disgrace him.”
Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2986
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has three traits is a hypocrite, even if he fasts, prays, goes to Hajj and Umrah, and claims to be a Muslim. When he speaks, he lies. When he promises, he breaks it. When he is trusted, he betrays it."
Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4039
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
📖 ‘Ammar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever carries two faces in the world, he will have two tongues of fire on the Day of Resurrection."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4873
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Umar ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among what I fear most for my nation is every hypocrite with a knowledgeable tongue."
In another narration, Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “His tongue is knowledgeable, but his heart and deeds are ignorant.”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 140
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir
📖 ‘Imran ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Among what I fear most for you are the debates of hypocrites with a knowledgeable tongue."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 80
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

Hadith: Warning Against Accusing A Muslim Without Proofs

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man does not accuse another man of wickedness or disbelief except that it will be turned against him, if his companion is innocent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5698
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When a man accuses his brother of being an unbeliever, then it will be turned against at least one of them."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5752
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "When a man calls his brother an unbeliever, it turns against at least to one of them. Either the accused is as he claimed, or else the charge will turn against him."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5753
Sahih Muslim 60
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Hadith: Virtues Of Prioritizing The Hereafter Not Dunya

📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever is concerned about the Hereafter, Allah will place richness in his heart, bring his affairs together, and the world will come to him although he is reluctant for it.
Whoever is concerned about the world, Allah will place poverty between his eyes, disorder his affairs, and he will get nothing of the world but what is decreed for him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2465
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: What It Means To Love For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 What does it mean "to love a sister for Allah's sake"?
Though my tribe and hers, and date of birth are not the same,
And though not closely connected by blood, while our age
Sets us apart, we connect through love for Allah's sake.
~•~
I gravitate to her not for my own selfish gains,
But I love her for the way she strives on Allah's Way,
Her strong faith/Imaan, patience and courage captivate
My soul to hers because in many ways we're the same.
~•~
I like how she aims to maintain good manners always,
How she's modest and honest, and how on time she prays,
How she can forgive and move on, despite what she's faced,
And how she's humble enough to correct a mistake.
~•~
Whether far or beside her, her vibes never seem fake.
She makes effort to stay real. She's not one to betray,
Not one to tell lies nor gossip when you are away.
Passive-aggressive tactics are games she doesn't play.
~•~
She intrigues me even more when kindness is displayed
Each time she tries to advise, and corrects my mistakes,
Shares Islamic content/knowledge to enhance my faith,
And pulls me back up each time I get carried away.
~•~
Because I love her for Allah, I mention her name
In many prayers and Du'as, nearly night and day,
Praying that Allah accepts her good deeds, keeps her safe,
And that she's among those who succeed on Judgment Day.
~•~
Favors done and gifts I gave her I don't calculate.
I love her for Allah, not so she reciprocates.
She's done enough already - loving her motivates
Me to love Allah more and stronger Imaan is gained.
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the Prophets and the martyrs.'”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'My Love is guaranteed for those who love each other for My sake, who sit together for My sake, who visit each other for My sake, and who spend on each other for My sake.'”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 21525
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2732
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: When To Stay In Touch, When To Let Go

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 When you and certain friends begin to drift apart, you can either make effort to save the friendship and keep it alive, or allow the connection to deteriorate since trying to salvage it seems impossible.
🔸 Signs that it's okay to let a "friend" walk away, as they don't deserve to be chased:
1] Overall they have been a toxic friend. They get jealous of you easily, they regard you as competition, and they never seem to be genuinely supportive of your hobbies, projects or halal business.
2] They clearly distract you from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. They're excessively materialistic and too attached to dunya. When you attempt to invite them to attend an Islamic lecture online or offline, they decline your invitation constantly because they're preoccupied with some worldly matters studying Netflix, memorizing song lyrics or browsing a catalogue of their favorite branded items on sale.
3] Until now you haven't found common ground. Peace of mind is unattainable if you forcibly converse with someone who is completely different from you and whose personality tends to clash uncomfortably with yours.
4] They're as useless in your life as troublesome mosquitoes. Nothing beneficial, productive and useful can be gained by accompanying them in their journeys. Their companionship doesn't improve your living circumstances nor can their presence inspire you to be a more well-developed Muslim. Better to benefit from reading self-help books than maintaining awkward conversations with an unrelatable person.
5] Chilling with them only results in decreasing the level of your faith/Imaan, especially since they have an awful habit of gossiping about others, they've told you lies purposely numerous times, or they simply show no interest whatsoever in joining you to learn more about Islam.
🔸 When can you patiently wait for the tension to cool off and see what you can do to strengthen your friendship, because this bond is actually worth saving for Allah's sake:
1] You both share the exact same goals in life - to be among those who are granted entry to Jannatul Ferdaus, who get to meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who attain Allah's Love by loving what and whom He loves, particularly His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam through striving to adhere to the Prophet's Sunnah.
2] You've known each other for several years and started an Islamic project together for Allah's sake. Don't let one trivial argument mess up the special friendship which took sincere efforts and a long time to make.
3] You feel at ease, whether when you're with them or when they're not around. They're not the kind of tactless critic who could criticize you and offend you anytime, nor are they the type of insecure frenemy who loves to spread rumors and backbite.
4] They return favors, reciprocate and express gratitude. The friendship is not one-sided at all. Occasionally you find them supporting you on social media or taking initiative to talk to you, instead of you being the main one who's interactive.
5] Befriending them brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Indirectly and directly they motivate you to become a stronger Muslim. Departing from a pious friend who tried their best to care for you and refusing to give them another chance could later on lead to feeling regretful, as though something significant from your life story is missing. Anyhow doing anything purely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, whether you decide to pursue a friendship or cancel it, can prevent you from regretting.
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the Prophets and the martyrs.'”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'My Love is guaranteed for those who love each other for My sake, who sit together for My sake, who visit each other for My sake, and who spend on each other for My sake.'”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 21525
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: Tips On How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 Some tips on how to quit comparing yourself
To others who, like you, are servants of God:
First, Alhamdulillah that you are Muslim,
A lover of truth and denier of fraud.
~*~
If you see yourself closely, you'll notice that
There are good things about you which others lack,
Tough lessons you have learned which many have not,
And good qualities which some folks wish they had.
~*~
Don't compare yourself to others, for each has
A book full of stories, and each has a role.
Each one has his/her own journey to travel,
Experiences, talents and puzzles to solve.
~*~
Some excel at writing, others in speaking,
Some are good at learning, others in teaching,
Some master the art of dealing with people,
While others the art of cooking and baking.
~*~
Some are experts in certain fields such as in -
Sales, fixing things, designing or promoting,
Others have a way with kids, babysitting,
Being sweet or admirably forgiving.
~*~
Some know how to rhyme, some clean well, while others
Show excellence as leaders, or in nursing,
In researching, giving speeches or advice,
Or in being a friend - truthful and caring.
~*~
Everyone has his/her own set of strengths and
Weaknesses - thus, always try to understand -
When Allah gives good things to some and not you,
It's out of wisdom and it's from Allah's Plan.
~*~
Be thankful for all the good that Allah gave -
The ones you're aware of and those not yet known.
Avoid jealousy and envy for these are
Traits of shaytan, who wants Hell to be man's home.
~*~
You are special, you are unique, Allah's friend -
A righteous Muslim happy for his brothers,
Always doing what is right and shunning wrong,
Not obsessed with materialistic matters.
~*~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125, Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Fadalah ibn ‘Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Blessed is one who is guided to Islam, whose livelihood is sufficient, and who is contented."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2349
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani