💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some of the things that your husband does or has done which indicate you're close to each other and he deserves respect:
1] Waking you up for Salah at times when he gets up before you. At least once he woke you up while you had your monthly period. Seeing his partially surprised or guilty look for disturbing your sleep is just adorable.
2] Cooking for you when he isn't busy, buying what you've ordered, or bringing edibles when he comes home from work.
3] Being your Imaam while you try to hold back tears of joy as you pray behind him.
4] Listening to you read from the Noble Qur'an or an Islamic book.
5] Patiently hearing your stories, rants or complaints and giving you some advice or a loving hug to comfort you.
6] Allowing you to keep one of his personal belongings like his jacket, coat etc. for sentimental reasons.
7] Making you fall in love with him every time he displays charisma in being playful with children and fluffy cats.
8] Frequently calling you 'beautiful' and having no problem with seeing you without make-up.
9] Not being disgusted with your feminine issues. Knowing that you're having your monthly period and tolerating your frequent mood swings.
10] Advising you to forgive your parents, siblings and other individuals whenever he notices that you're not in good terms with them temporarily.
11] Cheering you up and making jokes to hear you laugh especially when he catches you not feeling well emotionally.
12] Not caring about your weight gain. Finding you pleasant or cute regardless of how heavy you weigh.
13] Letting you pat, playfully smack or massage him and not getting annoyed by your weird side.
14] Lovingly reminding you to wear the hijaab/niqaab before you go outdoors.
15] Apologizing to you and saying sorry whenever he thinks he has hurt you.
16] Feeding you by his right hand when eating or insisting that you try some snacks he enjoys.
17] Drinking from the same glass or mug you drank from, enjoying your direct and indirect kisses.
Whenever you and your husband go through a misunderstanding, try to imagine if you were in his place and realize that his tendency to make mistakes, forget, delay, cancel or offend you once in a while could result from tiredness, overwork and excessive stress. Remember all the loving things and favors that your husband has shown you. Realizing he is a human being too, with flaws and limited strength, you should strive to help him obey Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, guide him to being a pious Muslim spouse, and don't give up on him so you can
Inn-sha-Allah be granted entry to Jannah Paradise together.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
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Tuesday, June 30, 2020
Note: 3 Ways To React When Insulted
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If someone makes an offensive remark about your looks, jokes about your current weight in a way that is intended to insult you, or intentionally says something insulting to get a reaction out of you, you have three ways to respond:
1] Ask them a rhetorical question like "Is that your tactic of emphasizing you're jealous and insecure? Or are you trying to imply that you had a miserable upbringing, which explains why you lack good character?", "Are you describing yourself? What do you gain by saying those awful nonsense?", or "What? Please repeat that. And? Your point is? Are you done demonstrating how your manners are so low?" to assist them in rethinking what they said.
2] Be patient, ignore their lame insults that indirectly reflect their own self-hate, and walk away from their negative vibes. Consider them as merely an acquaintance or stranger whom you are no longer interested in getting close to. Maintain basic courtesy with them, and do not let their impudent misbehavior lower your morals.
3] Agree with them as though their contemptuous slurs didn't impact you at all. Example: If told "You are ( insert adjective here that is meant to offend you )" answer with "Yeah I need to work on that. Thanks for pointing it out." or "She is so etc." when you walk away, turn around and say "Yes you're right. Do you have any tips so I can improve myself? I didn't know that criticizing people and giving advice were your hobbies."
In general as a Muslim you don't need to carry out revenge on those who insulted, mistreated or expressed their envious hatred towards you when you are aware that Allah's Justice always prevails at the most befitting time. When some gossip and backbite about you, rather than copying their obnoxious conduct so there are two impolite idiots instead of one, earn rewards by striving to practice patience for Allah's sake. Sensing that a user posted a ridiculous status update on their timeline ranting about how weird or ignorant you are isn't an invitation for you to post your own passive-aggressive message. Simply unfollow them on social media and avoid interacting unnecessarily with those who can't add any significant value in your life and faith/Imaan.
Encountering haters, critics and troublemakers doesn't indicate you're not loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but He loves you so much that He wants to strengthen your ability to have Sabr and upgrade your status in Jannah Inn-sha-Allah.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, the best of all human beings, was considered as a "magician", "liar" or "lunatic" by a number of hypocrites and unbelievers yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't address those disbelievers with derogatory names.
Be better than your opponents and rivals by maintaining noble manners for Allah's sake sincerely, and refuse to participate in immature tit-for-tat games.
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If two people exchange harsh words, it is against the instigator (the person who started the fight) as long as the wronged one does not transgress."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2587
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
💌 If someone makes an offensive remark about your looks, jokes about your current weight in a way that is intended to insult you, or intentionally says something insulting to get a reaction out of you, you have three ways to respond:
1] Ask them a rhetorical question like "Is that your tactic of emphasizing you're jealous and insecure? Or are you trying to imply that you had a miserable upbringing, which explains why you lack good character?", "Are you describing yourself? What do you gain by saying those awful nonsense?", or "What? Please repeat that. And? Your point is? Are you done demonstrating how your manners are so low?" to assist them in rethinking what they said.
2] Be patient, ignore their lame insults that indirectly reflect their own self-hate, and walk away from their negative vibes. Consider them as merely an acquaintance or stranger whom you are no longer interested in getting close to. Maintain basic courtesy with them, and do not let their impudent misbehavior lower your morals.
3] Agree with them as though their contemptuous slurs didn't impact you at all. Example: If told "You are ( insert adjective here that is meant to offend you )" answer with "Yeah I need to work on that. Thanks for pointing it out." or "She is so etc." when you walk away, turn around and say "Yes you're right. Do you have any tips so I can improve myself? I didn't know that criticizing people and giving advice were your hobbies."
In general as a Muslim you don't need to carry out revenge on those who insulted, mistreated or expressed their envious hatred towards you when you are aware that Allah's Justice always prevails at the most befitting time. When some gossip and backbite about you, rather than copying their obnoxious conduct so there are two impolite idiots instead of one, earn rewards by striving to practice patience for Allah's sake. Sensing that a user posted a ridiculous status update on their timeline ranting about how weird or ignorant you are isn't an invitation for you to post your own passive-aggressive message. Simply unfollow them on social media and avoid interacting unnecessarily with those who can't add any significant value in your life and faith/Imaan.
Encountering haters, critics and troublemakers doesn't indicate you're not loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but He loves you so much that He wants to strengthen your ability to have Sabr and upgrade your status in Jannah Inn-sha-Allah.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, the best of all human beings, was considered as a "magician", "liar" or "lunatic" by a number of hypocrites and unbelievers yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't address those disbelievers with derogatory names.
Be better than your opponents and rivals by maintaining noble manners for Allah's sake sincerely, and refuse to participate in immature tit-for-tat games.
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If two people exchange harsh words, it is against the instigator (the person who started the fight) as long as the wronged one does not transgress."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2587
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim