Poem: Real Men Are Strong Enough To Not Hit Their Wives

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A real man never hits a woman; he's strong enough
To control his temper and triumph over his nafs.
He's a man who doesn't gossip nor girlishly slap,
And his ability to be patient proves he's tough.
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Real men respect the rights of their wives and won't neglect
Their women's needs. These warriors aim to pass Allah's tests
By doing their best to sustain a blessed marriage
And adjusting themselves so their wives don't stay upset.
~•~
A good husband doesn't show preference to his friends,
Chilling with them and leaving his wife with impatience.
If ever he returns late or some days he's absent,
He grants his wife explanation and compensation.
~•~
Most women are easily provoked and sensitive,
While most men are detached, proud and argumentative.
To be from the elite men whose marriages are blessed,
Be gentle, as Eve was created from Adam's rib.
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A guy's manliness only increases every time
He decides not to harm women, specially his wives.
His strength is also shown in overcoming his pride.
Allah's Love for him inspires him to treat women right.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I enjoin you to treat women well, for the woman was created from a rib and the most curved part of the rib is its highest point. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it as it is, it will remain bent. Thus, I enjoin you to be good to women.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3153
Sahih Muslim 1468
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: "The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam did not strike a servant nor a woman, and he never struck anything with his hand, unless he was fighting in the Way of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2328
Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women.”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

Tips: Five Ways To Detect If A Friend Is Toxic

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five ways to detect if a friend is too toxic:

1] Their mere presence makes you feel bad about yourself. They deliberately act as though they're perfect while you're always the one making mistakes, they pridefully brag about their accomplishments without consideration for what you lack, or they purposely treat you in a manner which leads to doubting your self-worth e.g. ignoring your salaams, making hurtful jokes about you, never taking initiative to reach out.

2] They insist (not advise or suggest) that you behave, dress and live exactly the way they do. "Don't eat that or you'll get fat.", "That outfit looks awful on you. You have zero fashion sense. Change it and copy our style." and "This person and so-and-so - don't ever visit them. Otherwise we'll stop hanging out with you too." are sample phrases that toxic "friends" say to control you.

3] Being overly controlling and domineering, they have unrealistically high expectations of you. They don't respect your need for space at times, instantly get offended if you didn't answer their messages straight away, and try to dictate most of your decisions, pressurizing you to do tasks that you're unable to carry out.

4] Instead of adding positive value to your life, they drain your energy. Their excessive complaints, incessant criticism, obsession with immature gossip, addiction to mocking people's flaws, or disrespectful indifference to your well-being cause you to wish you never met in the first place so you wouldn't have to tolerate their negative vibes.

5] They stubbornly repeat the same mistakes and do what bothers you. Even after apologizing, they still indulge in activities that you've warned against e.g. gossiping, posting cowardly passive-aggressive status updates, and openly supporting those who contradict the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

  🔹 How to deal with "frenemies" or toxic individuals:

1] Quit stalking their social media posts. Emotionally detach because we have nothing to do with them.

2] Minimize unnecessary interactions with those guilty of being untruthful, unreliable, gossipy, jealous, and manipulative.

3] Never disclose or reveal sensitive information, secrets or more personal details about yourself to them. Let them keep guessing what you're up to rather than updating them with your daily progress.

4] Forgive them for Allah's sake while maintaining self-preserving distance.

5] Learn from their mistakes. Also, if you truly cared about them, mention their names in your Du'as praying that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala guides them.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

Hadith: Encouragement To Do More Charity Even Giving A Glass Of Water

📖 Sa’d ibn ‘Ubadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, my mother has died. Shall I give charity on her behalf?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes.” I said, “Which charity is best?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A drink of water."

Source: Sunan al-Nasā’ī 3664

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “There are three to whom Allah will not speak on the Day of Resurrection, nor will He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) look at them, nor will He purify them, and they will have a severe torment: A man who has extra water in his vessel but prevents a traveler from drinking it. And a man who trades goods after midday prayer swearing by Allah that he had taken it for a certain price but it is not so. And a man who pledges allegiance to a Muslim leader only for something in the world; if he is given he fulfills his pledge, and if he is not given he does not fulfill it.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah will say: 'Today I prevent you from My Favor just as you withheld the favor of what you did not work for with your hands.'”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2230

Sahih Muslim 108

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A man suffered from thirst while he was walking on a journey. When he found a well, he climbed down into it and drank from it. Then he came out and saw a dog lolling its tongue from thirst and licking the ground. The man said: 'This dog has suffered thirst just as I have suffered from it.' He climbed down into the well, filled his shoe with water, and caught it in his mouth as he climbed up. Then he gave the dog a drink.

Allah appreciated this deed, so He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) forgave him.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is there a reward for charity even for the animals?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes, in every creature with a moist liver is a reward for charity.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5663

Sahih Muslim 2244

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim