Poem: Tips On How To Stay In Love With Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 New lessons learned in marriage and tips to stay in love:

No matter where your husband goes and how far apart 

You are from each other at times, you remain in touch 

Through each other's frequent thoughts, dreams and loving Du'as.

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Not seeing him as often as you'd want can be hard, 

But recalling the rewards of patience keeps you tough, 

And living as your husband's loyal wife is enough 

To keep you contented. You're not with those who give up.

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I've learned that when you love Allah more than your husband, 

You can deal with your soulmate's absence with sweet patience, 

Disappointments and frustrations can't make you question 

Your marriage. Instead, they inspire you to keep going.

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By loving Allah much more than your spouse, I admit

That it's no fun to feel distressed when your man is missed,

But you go on loving him despite feeling upset, 

Because loving him for Allah still brings happiness.

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So your marriage lasts forever, with Allah's Mercy: 

Love him just for Allah. Refuse to quit easily. 

Cherish good times and pray for each other frequently.

Rewind memorable moments. Love him faithfully.

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Love your man not for his looks, job title or money, 

But love him for Allah, like from the start you agreed 

To accept him as your other half in life's journey,

Traveling together to deserve Jannah's entry.

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To stay in love: Remember all his best qualities, 

Such as "caring", "huggable", "hardworking" and "funny".

Teach him about Islam, together try to succeed 

In not letting shaytan smile with your disunity.

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📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyadh As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

Tips: How To Be Fair With All Your Friends Especially If There Are Many Of Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: How can I be fair with all of my friends?

📝 Answer: Since Allah the Almighty created everyone differently and not all of our friends have the exact same goals, interests and personality, it is impossible to be completely fair with each one of them. There will be some friends that we like more than others, because we find them more relatable, compatible and similar to us in many ways than the others. We hang out with certain friends more frequently than with others because they live nearer to us, they're more accessible, more available, and there is no conflict in our busy schedules, so meeting up with them or going on regular outings together is a lot easier than with the other friends. Our love for specific friends is also stronger when we've known them for a longer period, we're more used to each other, and we don't see each other as strangers. Another reason why we click better with some friends more than other acquaintances is we communicate and interact with them more regularly than with those who aren't close to us yet, while the feelings of care, support and respect are mutual. The friendship isn't one-sided at all, and no one is secretly jealous of the other.

You can try your best to be fair with all of your friends by making sure you always respond to their Salaams upon seeing them. If you're in a social gathering, make sure you greet everyone you're familiar with and you don't deliberately ignore anyone in the meeting.

You can be fair by preventing yourself from lying to your friends, from betraying and backbiting. All of these friends whom you love for Allah's sake should be treated with good character and courteous manners as much as possible, regardless if you've been friends with them since you were in high school or you've just met this year. Maintain a cheerful disposition and smile in their presence. Smiling doesn't make you fake nor artificial, but it displays confidence, shows you're approachable and it's a good deed that can be counted as a charity or sadaqah which any Muslim can do for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

When your friends seek advice, give them the most helpful tips you can, even if providing assistance may lead them to becoming more successful at a field, say school or business, than you. If you have the ability to fulfill the rights of each of your friends, then do so. When invited to a friend's wedding, try to attend. If you're unable to witness their special occasion, at least congratulate them, send a loving message or mention them in a heartfelt Du'a/supplication.

If you hear news that a friend was confined in a hospital, visit them for Allah's sake, and if you can't be there to see them personally, at least text them and pray for them.

If three of your friends are getting married on the same date but at different wedding venues, you can attend all three weddings very briefly to accept the wedding invitation, or you can go to the wedding of the friend who is most closest to you, while you send gifts and congratulations to the other friends.

Being fair with all of your friends doesn't mean you spend time with each one equally and you provide every friend the exact same amount of attention as the others, but you strive to deal with them with good character, trying your best to never offend them and if you do you're strong enough to apologize and compensate for any wrong, and if ever they disappoint you, you're willing to understand their side and forgive for Allah's sake with lots of Sabr.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

📖 Abu Ishaq RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of what a believing man can be given is good character, and the worst of what a man can be given is an evil heart with a beautiful appearance."

Source: Muṣannaf Ibn Abī Shaybah 24747

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2390

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani