Thursday, February 18, 2021

Poem: Advice On How To React Rightly When A Sister In Islam Confesses To You About Confused Feelings

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 "You don't get it, do you? You're the one I'm in love with. 
Each time you mention 'marriage', I feel brokenhearted. 
You pray I'll marry soon, when to you I'm attracted. 
Ever since I noticed your softer side, your kindness, 
And unique perspectives, you've pulled me like a magnet."
~•~
"For years I've had a thing for you too, but suppressed it 
Through acting distant so I wouldn't be distracted 
By how our similar traits to me were magnetic. 
I'd act on this crush, if it weren't prohibited. 
Welcome to dunya where we're differently tested."
~•~
What would you say if a sister in Islam confessed 
To you in a letter, face to face, or text message, 
About their feelings or feeling infatuated, 
And when they're asked to elaborate, they get nervous? 
Sympathize. Pray for them. Admit they're being tested.
~•~
Whether or not you feel the same way, kindly address 
That you love them back for Allah's sake, being honest, 
Tell them, "Lewd thoughts and fantasies which often visit 
Are shaytan's tricks and he wants us to flunk Allah's tests.
Never sacrifice your faith for a forbidden kiss." 
~•~
Remind them, "I love you too for Allah. Please know this, 
We're sisters whose souls with Allah's Will got connected. 
This link shouldn't turn to a haraam relationship 
Wrongly built on lust and shaytan's whispers destructive. 
Deeds that invite fitna should be left and avoided."
~•~
Advise them, "Love for Allah's sake must be moderate.
With yearning to chat with them daily don't be obsessed.
Be sisterly or brief, not flirty, when eyes connect.
Don't go overboard with long hugs, phone calls and visits. 
Pray to Allah that from zina you're both protected."
~•~
Reassure them with, "Allah already selected, 
Reserved and destined for you a spouse. Don't be upset. 
If it's not your Qadr that on earth you'd get married, 
Patiently await Jannah for your perfect marriage. 
Meanwhile, maintain Taqwa and patience to pass all tests."
~•~
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it (what you left for Allah's sake) with something better."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot (Prophet Lut 'alaihis salaam)."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
Ibn al-Qayyim said, “Sodomy and adultery share in their immorality, for there is corruption in both of them that defies the wisdom of Allah's creation and commandment. Indeed, in sodomy is great corruption whose harms cannot be enumerated.”
Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/164
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man should not look at the nakedness of another man, and a woman should not look at the nakedness of another woman. A man should not lie with another man under a single blanket, and a woman should not lie with another woman under a single blanket."
Source: Sahih Muslim 338
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
Al-Nawawi said, “Likewise it is forbidden for a man to look at a beardless youth if he has a handsome appearance, whether he looks with passion or not, whether he is safe from temptation or he fears it. This is the correct and preferred opinion of credible scholars, as transmitted from Al-Shafi’i.”
Source: Sharḥ Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 338