💌 Marriage isn't easy, not something to take lightly,
Specially if you don't see your spouse regularly,
If your soulmate works in another city/country,
Or your romance is more advanced - in polygyny.
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When my husband doesn't answer my text instantly,
I resist the urge to behave irrationally,
Recalling he's a doctor who can get real busy,
And rewinding sweet memories makes me feel relieved.
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I recall how he mostly cooked for us previously,
Aware I couldn't cook well, despite being twenty,
How sometimes he'd feed me with his right hand, and how he,
With Allah's Mercy, from bulimia he helped me heal.
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I recall us discussing me writing 'Anaasheed',
While he'd play the guitar, sing my words in harmony,
And we'd form a duet. Nonetheless, Allah decreed
That wouldn't work when He guided us to piety.
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I remember the car rides he'd give when he was free,
Showing us where he studied in elementary,
Answering my weird questions before we'd go to sleep,
And memorable times when he'd wipe away my tears.
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I still remember how we played occasionally
Badminton outdoors, in spite of me playing badly,
How on the phone calls from Makkah he sounded happy,
And how from most of his trips he'd bring home souvenirs.
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Whenever my husband's absence and delays stress me,
Three more things I recall, and doing so brings relief:
One - why I married? To please Allah the Almighty.
Two - virtues of patience. Three - after hardship comes ease.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Narrated Abu Sa`eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "O people! Give (charity) alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give (charity) alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hellfire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud (RadhiAllahu 'anhu). He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462
In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541