💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Five differences between someone who likes you as a friend and somebody who isn't interested in befriending you, so you can
Inn-sha-Allah identify who is worthy of your efforts to become more acquainted and quit attempting to connect with those who are clearly incompatible:
1] When meeting face-to-face or on video calls, those who genuinely like you appear happy to see you. Regardless of their current mood, they can readily smile or greet cheerfully upon your arrival. In contrast, those who dislike you for whatever reason, due to jealousy or an unresolved misunderstanding, roll their eyes with annoyance or scowl as soon as they notice you or hear your voice.
2] Those who don't have any envy or grudge against you generally talk to you with a cheerful tone. When asked a question, they respond with enthusiasm and also return your questions with queries of their own, a sign they're willing to get to know you better. On the other hand, those who despise your presence usually behave as if they don't enjoy interacting with you. Besides rolling their eyes or frowning, they seem rudely distracted or indifferent whenever you try to socialize, answering your questions abruptly or vaguely and seldom asking you about yourself.
3] Friends of the same gender who care about you often initiate hugs, offer handshakes, and give you friendly pats or lightly touch your shoulder or upper arm when speaking to you. Someone who still regards you as a stranger would do whatever it takes to avoid touching your skin and sitting nearby.
4] Somebody who is eager to build a connection occasionally makes the first move when it comes to calling, sending messages, asking how you're doing, inviting you to a gathering, and keeping the friendship stable. A person who sees you as an acquaintance only reaches out when there is an absolute necessity.
5] Individuals who consider you as part of their circle occasionally share some of their belongings, food and personal details with you. Those who prefer to keep their distance wouldn't bother sharing anything with you even if they were neighbors, colleagues or seatmates.
• How to deal:
° With those who show interest in improving their connections with you: Reciprocate their favors. Value their companionship with steadfast patience, gratitude, good manners, loyalty and willingness to forgive as many times as you're capable of forgiving.
° With someone who is unreachable or unwilling to associate with you: Maintain basic politeness with them, answer their salaams, and don't expect too much from them to be free from disappointments. Your secrets, dreams, plans, projects and valuables should be kept far from them, specially if their trustworthiness hasn't been confirmed. Understand their disinterest does not measure your worth as a Muslim. If the temperament, goals, and languages of two souls are completely different, it makes logical sense that establishing harmony may be unlikely or take some time.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are the most beneficial (helpful or cooperative in what is right) to the people."
Source: Al-Mu'jam Al-Awsat 5937
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
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