💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Note to self, and reminder to loyal, grateful wives:
The man who was selected by Allah the Most Wise
As your soulmate and travel buddy to Paradise
Has feelings too. While at times he can laugh, joke and smile,
Oftentimes there will be moments when he needs to cry.
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Your husband, a human, may shed tears when he sometimes
Feels stressed by countless trials and challenges in life,
When guilt engulfs him for not fulfilling his wife's rights,
When he can't always meet the needs of his children/child,
Or when he solves problems only for more to arise.
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Don't view him as a knight in shining armor who likes
Rescuing damsels in distress every day and night,
Without support like he symbolizes "perfect might".
Stand by his side or comfort him whenever he's tired,
And keep calm when tiredness ignites the urge to start fights.
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Due to stress, he may speak angrily once in a while,
Answer your messages after some days have gone by,
And respond to you in ways you're tempted to describe
Him as "bad-tempered", "moody", "too bossy" or "unkind".
You'd tolerate his flaws if your love isn't a lie.
~•~
Even well-designed robots require charging sometimes.
Don't be surprised if your spouse isn't himself at times.
Guys also have feelings. Let your partner verbalize
And show you, his wife, precisely how he feels inside.
Patience is a must-have to ensure blessed marriage life.
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Your husband isn't abusive if he was beguiled,
Badly influenced or affected by evil eyes,
Advised by toxic friends or relatives who dislike
Seeing you two thriving towards Jannah with delight,
Or sorcery was carried out by foes from outside.
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When it seems as though he's struggling with nosy spies
Who command him to treat you in a way that's not right,
Win this battle by not doing what shaytan desires,
Lovingly pray for your husband every day and night,
And don't let pride stop you both from earning Paradise.
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📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462
In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".
[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]
Riyad As-Salihin 286
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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