💌 Seven reasons why divorce is tougher than you think,
Why separation for some former lovers weakens
Their faith/Imaan and may cause their future to worsen,
Specially if the divorcees share cherished moments,
Cute children, and some of their relatives remain friends:
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One: Divorcing requires signing lots of documents,
Having interviews or conducting tiring meetings,
Applying for new IDs, editing one's current
Marital status on vast social media platforms,
And such tasks can take time if one spouse isn't present.
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Two: Divorce doesn't always have an easy ending.
Often there may be more fights, drama, and arguments,
Including issues pertaining to given items,
Wanting all of one's furniture, things and gifts returned,
And who takes permanent custody of the children.
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Three: Women who take care of the kids of ex-husbands
May not completely move on if they are still sharing
Time spent with the kids and their dad's visits are frequent,
And even after divorce, he still needs to finance
And support his children to ensure he's not sinning.
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Four: A woman whose ex chose to leave her may become
Less friendly with married women, or less confident,
And reducing interactions with her married friends,
So their stories don't remind her of her ex-husband,
Could be her way of coping with her separation.
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Five: A woman who felt close to her former husband
May decide to grant new proposals swift rejection,
While waiting for her first lover with steadfast patience,
And praying that her ex proposes to her again.
Divorcing a loyal wife doesn't solve one's problems.
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Six: A divorcee attending social gatherings,
Shopping, or while walking outdoors, if Allah destines,
May come across her ex or strangers who look like him,
Or from concerned acquaintances she receives questions
On her divorce, which can be stressful and distressing.
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Seven: Breaking up with someone whom you loved loving
And in your heart there remains deep affection for him,
Can feel devastating, disturbed you let shaytan win,
Defeated by shaytan who rejoiced in your splitting,
And you regret letting go of rewarding patience.
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It's better to stay as your husband's wife who's patient,
Understanding of his flaws, distance, tough employment,
Weaknesses, regular absence, or limitations,
While Allah the Most Loving loves your persevering,
And you patiently pray for your husband's improvement.
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📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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