Poem: To Muslimahs Who Can't Decide Whether They Should Get Married Or Not

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To Muslim females who are afraid to leave their homes, 

Who fear the idea of marrying someone wrong, 

Who have received marriage proposals but on and on 

They rebuffed each guy who didn't look like "the right one", 

Or who guess staying single is the best decision: 

~•~ 

First off, you have freewill to make your own decisions. 

In Islam there's no forced marriage. Your parents, siblings, 

And elders can't force you to wed without your consent. 

So it's fine to reject marriage proposals often 

If those proposing don't seem sincere and appealing. 

~•~ 

Why say yes to a guy who's known to dislike praying, 

Who does drugs, enjoys clubbing, or who has frequent flings? 

Why become the wife of a male who's still dependent 

On his parents' income while he's proud of not working? 

Why marry a criminal with unlawful earnings? 

~•~ 

Yes, you don't need a man to feel complete from within. 

True. One can stay happy without ever marrying. 

Nonetheless, wouldn't you want to have your own children? 

At least one child? A set of twins? A sweet companion? 

Mahram and travel buddy? A close friend who's trusting?

~•~ 

With a husband you can have someone to confide in, 

A teammate towards Jannah whose hugs are comforting, 

And from each other you boost gratitude and patience, 

While shielding yourself more from zina/fornication. 

Pray for a good spouse and don't refuse Allah's blessings.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-to-each-muslimah-whos-currently.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-three-tips-for-single-muslimahs-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-some-reasons-why-number-of-women.html 

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Poem: Some Advice On How To Overcome Foul Whispers From shaytan

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Struggling with waswaas is another kind of test. 

When your efforts to be close to Allah are noticed 

By our foe shaytan he gets jealous and tries his best 

To whisper in your heart and persistently suggest 

Evil thoughts so you can sin and be kept from success. 

~•~ 

It's shaytan's style to beautify what's prohibited - 

Prompting you to think of thoughts like, "Just go for that kiss. 

You both fancy each other. Good fun not to be missed.", 

"Look around. Nobody's watching. Go ahead. Steal it.", 

And "What's the point of praying if I'm stressed and depressed?". 

~•~ 

Don't assume you can never be prone to shaytan's tricks, 

As this devil can be patient and he can outwit 

You if you're far from Allah, forgot your life's purpose, 

And by dunya's joys and glitter you seem distracted. 

Defeat him with Taqwa and Dhikr oft-repeated. 

~•~ 

Win against shaytan through awareness that he hates it 

When the Adhan is called and Qur'an is recited, 

When you pray well and your prayers are not neglected, 

When you resist the urge to hit and choose to forgive, 

When you ditch the paths to zina and avoid music.

~•~ 

To strengthen your faith, so you're not easily tempted 

To act upon foul suggestions which shaytan suggests: 

Stay connected to Allah. Seek authentic knowledge.

Read the Qur'an. Join those who love praying Tahajjud.

Know that wrongdoings can bring dreadful consequences.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (indecent thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him a single evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, "We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You have indeed found it so?" They said "yes". The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "That is sincere faith."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "That is (evidence or sign of) pure faith (that shaytan is trying to distract you because he sees the strength of your faith/Imaan or potential to be pious)." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 132

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-evil-thoughts.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-on-how-to-deal-with-ocd-intrusive.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-listen-to-your-heart-where.html 

Note: The Ruling On Thinking About Sinning While Trying To Avoid Sins For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What is the ruling on thinking about haraam/forbidden things? For instance when a person thinks about stealing or he/she fantasizes about committing zina (fornication/adultery) while he/she is aware that they would never do such a thing even if they were readily accessible? 

📝 Answer: Whatever takes place within a person's nafs from evil thoughts, such as when contemplating about committing theft, or zina (fornication/adultery), or drinking intoxicants, and the like, and the person does not act upon those imaginations, then he/she will be excused and not be guilty of actually carrying out the sin. 

Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (indecent thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him a single evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

The meaning here is that when a Muslim leaves or abandons a sin sincerely to please Allah the Almighty, then a reward or good deed is written for him/her, whereas if one avoids a wrongdoing not for Allah's sake but for other reasons (fearing people's censure or their disapproval), then he/she doesn't earn a sin or good deed. 

This is from the Mercy of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who deserves all gratitude and praise, there is no true god who deserves to be worshipped but Him Only. 

Allah the Most Wise knows best. 

From the Fataawa of sheikh AbdulAziz Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.) 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, "We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You have indeed found it so?" They said "yes". The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "That is sincere faith."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "That is (evidence or sign of) pure faith (that shaytan is trying to distract you because he sees the strength of your faith/Imaan or potential to be pious)." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 132

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-evil-thoughts.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-on-how-to-deal-with-ocd-intrusive.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/1440/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D9%81%D9%83%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AD%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%85-%D8%AF%D9%88%D9%86-%D8%B9%D9%85%D9%84 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-dont-listen-to-your-heart-where.html 

Note: Thirteen Quirks Which Some INTJs May Relate To

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Checklist to determine if your MBTI personality type is INTJ: 

( ) 1] You seldom get surprised or disappointed, as you're capable of imagining, with Allah's Will, how people would behave in various scenarios. For instance, more than three times, with intuition from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you've guessed correctly that a certain person would be absent, break a promise, or act in a way that would upset more sensitive personality types. 

( ) 2] Due to your confidence or fearlessness in approaching and confronting people, some individuals wrongly guess that you're an extrovert, when you're actually introverted. 

( ) 3] You are incapable of getting hurt or offended instantly, so much so that you've wondered if you're a sociopath or there's something wrong with you. Alhamdulillah you're able to keep doing what you believe is right, without being affected by people's insults, disapproval, and efforts to discourage you. 

( ) 4] There were many instances in your younger years up to this day when you chose to stay at home working on some tasks while your family, relatives, or roommates would go out for shopping or to attend a wedding. You'd rather browse the web, research random information for self-development, complete assignments, quietly meditate, and read indoors than socialize unnecessarily with strangers. 

( ) 5] You're usually more talkative and verbose online than offline. When interacting with people face-to-face, you prefer to be concise, not necessarily because of shyness but there are other activities you'd rather be doing than aimlessly socializing. 

( ) 6] You dislike intentional and unintentional grammatical errors, as well as typos, in yourself and others. 

( ) 7] At least one person you've met has described you as a "nerd", tried to use the term "intellectual" or "know-it-all" against you, or unjustly thought of you as "arrogant" for frequently correcting their mistakes. 

( ) 8] While some people like to stare at the details of their food and admire their edibles, you have a tendency to plan your next moves, reflect on the future, or analyze different circumstances while having your meals. 

( ) 9] You're closer and more accommodating to your spouse, kid/children, and family than with your friends, colleagues, and neighbors. 

( ) 10] Since you're very selective regarding your choice of close friends, outsiders who aren't familiar with you may assume you don't have a single friend when in reality there are at least five individuals whom you deeply care about for Allah's sake. 

( ) 11] You typically don't get along with those who have a preference for instant gratification and finalizing decisions according to their feelings over logic, rationality, and long-term benefits. 

( ) 12] Despite being wrongfully accused of "arrogance" by some critics, you're aware of the fact that every individual you meet is more knowledgeable, experienced, or competent than you at something and, if you have healthy self-esteem, you can't feel jealous for what they have and can do. 

( ) 13] You have the ability, Alhamdulillah, to resist most temptations, as you can visualize the possible consequences of each action, and willfully ignore whatever you think distracts you from your goals.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

🗂️ MBTI bingo charts on cognitive functions:

https://mbti-concepts.tumblr.com/ 

🔹 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new 

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp 

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

Note: Reminder To Perform One's Wudhoo / Ablution Well

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A sister some time ago asked me to advise some of the sisters out there to ensure they perform wudhu/ablution as perfectly as possible even with a mountain load of make-up on. When washing their faces, some would rub with such sparingly tiny amount of water very lightly as though they're walking on eggshells, afraid their facial work of art may be erased. One's ablution may not be valid if the water didn't properly touch the skin. This is also why nail polish is discouraged when praying as the coating prevents water from reaching the nails. 

For Allah's sake perform your wudhu/ablution well in the manner which the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam used to do. You can put on your cosmetics again after you completed the Salah or try to join the minority of women who prefer to go natural without worrying if their make-up is on fleek or not.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, my nation will be summoned on the Day of Resurrection as brightly radiant from the traces of ablution. Whoever among you is able to extend his radiance, then let him do so."

(Sahih Muslim 136, Sahih Muslim 246)

Poem: Fancy Titles And Credentials Won't Really Benefit In One's Grave

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Think of how many professionals have passed away, 

Who earned high income or worked hard so they'd stay awake 

To attain fancy degrees like PhD, MA, 

And BA, to obtain prestige, decorate their names, 

Or gain fame - did their titles profit them in their graves? 

~•~

Can becoming a doctor save somebody if they 

Seldom prayed to Allah while they saw life as a game, 

In which the poor are losers with little to showcase 

And the winners are the rich with much wealth to display? 

Will their cash aid them if Hell is their ultimate place? 

~•~ 

Please don't get me wrong. It's not sinful to educate 

Yourself about things that can strengthen your Imaan/faith 

Or graduate with honors so decent jobs are gained. 

While you strive to be educated for Allah's sake, 

Pleasing Allah and passing His tests are our main aims.

~•~ 

In social gatherings, when proud braggarts would narrate 

How they built up their image, how much money they make, 

And how many tycoons they've met on multiple dates, 

Don't pity yourself. Don't feel incomplete nor ashamed. 

That's their way to "success". You've got your own path to take.

~•~ 

Do what you believe makes you closer to Jannah's Gates, 

Including fasting Sunnah fasts every other day. 

Embrace the truth that no soul has right to speculate 

The Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam) weren't special if they never attained 

Formal education, since that's not why we were made. 

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, all his deeds end except for three: Ongoing charity (Sadaqah jaariyah), beneficial knowledge which he taught, or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631 Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-allah-may-not-ask-us-about-how.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-stronger-your-belief-in-allah-less.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-our-main-goal-in-life-is-to.html 

Poem: Men Who Are Blessed To Be Married To Righteous Wives Can Thrive, With Allah's Will, In Both Worlds

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Even if all marriage coaches on earth advised me, 

Saying "you deserve better", "he's bad for you, trust me", 

And "leave him. Marry someone else who'll meet all your needs.", 

I'd thank them for their concern yet decline stubbornly 

Their advice for me to ditch my zawj to feel more "free". 

~•~

Even if most of my acquaintances and colleagues 

Were divorced or became single parents recently, 

While each one would whine about their ex relentlessly, 

I'd avoid their toxic rants or hear noise patiently, 

And their complaints wouldn't prompt me to hate my hubby. 

~•~ 

Tell me "you deserve someone better", I'd go "really? 

You expect me to agree and deny your envy? 

Jealous of my loyalty? There's possibility. 

Envious of a man whose wife is content, won't cheat, 

And whose halal love story was by Allah decreed?" 

~•~ 

Telling a married woman who's happy inwardly 

To find a new lover is as futile and silly 

As advising sea turtles to have their shells released,

Or obligating bees to cease producing honey. 

You can't stop her love if it's real and already deep.

~•~ 

Even if her husband one day told her furiously 

That she's divorced, she'd still love him from far quietly, 

Rejecting all marriage proposals that she receives, 

As she prays for his return, to resume their journey. 

Forgetting one's spouse whom Allah chose isn't easy.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-love-your-husband-patiently-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-patiently-understand-and-empathize.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-if-my-husband-wanted-divorce-id.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-seven-reasons-why-divorce-is-more.html 

Note: Academic Credentials And College Degrees Won't Really Benefit One In The Next World

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: My parents are financially struggling, so much so that they can't afford to send me to any university or let me major in Islamic education at a toril (Islamic institute with boarding house for students). I've only completed high school and I'm already in my 20s. Whenever we're in a gathering, many of the guests would discuss about their degrees or talk about how so and so successfully pursued Islamic Shari'ah course, while I haven't completed college. I'm worried the only job I can have in my adult life is running a small store to support my family. Sometimes I feel so depressed when I remember how I'm not as educated as many of my relatives and friends who have MA, BA and doctorate degrees. What tips can you give so I can succeed and make my parents proud?

📝 Answer: First of all, your main goal in life is to prioritize pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. One of the good deeds that Allah the Almighty loves is respecting your parents. The best way to prove you love your parents, besides treating them with kindness and respect, is to become a pious Muslim for Allah's sake, so you include your parents in your Du'as regularly. Another thing you can do, if you have the capability, is to memorize the whole of the Noble Qur'an, so your parents attain a special crown of light on the Day of Judgment, as a way of honoring them. Allahu A'lam. Mu’adh Al-Juhani RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever recites the Qur'an and acts according to what is in it, his parents will be crowned on the Day of Resurrection with a light brighter than the light of the sun in your worldly houses, were it among you. What do you think of one who acts upon this?"

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1453 Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Hajar.

Next, always accept the Qadr/Destiny of Allah which He chose for you. Some people are tested by being very wealthy, while others have their examinations in the form of poverty or financial struggle. If Allah the Most Wise didn't make you as rich as your other relatives, be content with rewarding Sabr/patience. A benefit of having a simple lifestyle is you get to be among the first ones from the believers to enter Jannah Paradise, if Allah Wills, since it is promised that the poor Muslims are granted entry to Jannah long before the wealthy Muslims are allowed to go inside. A probable reason why the richer Muslims will be delayed is their lengthy accounting or judgment. They may be questioned about where they got their wealth from, how they spent their money, and if they carried out their duties responsibly in doing charity whenever they were given the opportunity to do Sadaqah and provide assistance to the needy.

Continue learning more about Islam from other reliable sources based on the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Also acquire authentic knowledge of how the salaf/pious predecessors implemented Islam and put the Sunnah into practice. Since you have access to the internet, try to make use of your free time researching more about your Deen so your faith/Imaan is strengthened. It's not a must to enroll at an Islamic school to be able to do Da'wah. As long as you have sufficient knowledge of Islam through beneficial Islamic books and useful online materials, and you keep studying about the Deen with steadfastness, you can enjoin right, forbid wrong, and invite others to Islam whenever you can, without forgetting proper etiquette and good character in inviting others to Allah's Message.

Remind yourself of the Sahabas/companions of the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, especially the ten who were given the promise of entering Paradise, along with the four rightly guided caliphs who were loved by Allah and His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. None of them Sahabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum carried fancy titles like "Doctor of philosophy", "attorney" or "engineer" etc. yet Allah the Almighty and His Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam loved them so much.

Having a degree, being an expert at a certain field or having tons of income do not measure a person's worth and value. How many atheists with PhD degrees passed away long ago and their ultimate destination is Hell/Jahannam, if Allah the Almighty doesn't forgive them? How many billionaires and popular celebrities, who owned massive mansions and lived luxurious lifestyles, ended up committing suicide because they didn't have Allah, as well as Islam as their way of life? How many college graduates and educated people actually became prison inmates, sentenced to several years in jail for being guilty of a number of crimes?

Don't make it a big deal to be desperate about achieving a college degree, if trying to obtain it is beyond your current means and sustenance. If you're willing to see a rise in your income, you need to work really hard with much enthusiasm, ambition and sincere intention. Accompany your action and good niyyah with lots of Du'as, praying that Allah the Provider grants you what is best for you in both worlds. Start from small, even if it means running a family store or selling halal snacks on a regular basis. It is better to have a simple job than to be roaming around begging people for money.

When serving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala becomes your top priority, any temporary trial or difficulty you go through in this fleeting dunya becomes worthwhile and managable eventually. When you train yourself to accept Allah's Decree/Qadr patiently, as you courageously free your heart from negative traits like envy, you won't find the need to constantly compare your life story to other people's tests and unique journeys.

A person's high reputation and social status will be completely useless in the Aakhirah or next life. What will accompany you in your grave after you die are not your college degrees, collection of award certificates and expensive worldly items you bought, but rather what will benefit your soul are your good deeds, righteous Muslim children you left behind who continue mentioning you in their Du'as, and religious Islamic knowledge you taught for Allah's sake when you were alive.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Worship (Allah) the Most Merciful, feed the poor, and spread the greetings of peace. You will enter Jannah Paradise in peace."

Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 1855

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."

Source: Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 2354

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, all his deeds end except for three: Ongoing charity (Sadaqah jaariyah), beneficial knowledge which he taught, or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631 Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: If My Husband Wanted A Divorce, I'd Accept Yet Patiently Wait For A Second Marriage With Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If someone were to ask, "As your husband's loyal wife, 

How would you react if one day your husband arrived 

To declare that he no longer wants you in his life? 

What is your initial response if your spouse decides 

To separate from you as he's fed up and too tired?" 

~•~ 

I'd think, yet another test from Allah the Most Wise. 

If this guy no longer wants me as his patient wife, 

As he found another woman who clearly dislikes 

How Muslim men can be married to up to four wives, 

Then fine. I'm not the one who gave up. At least I tried. 

~•~

I'd remain grateful to him though, thankful from inside, 

That loving him for Allah's sake graciously inspired 

Me to write numerous rhymes to inspire Muslim wives 

To stay strong and steadfast in their destined marriage lives. 

I'd still love him from afar, so long as he's alive. 

~•~

I'd be the kind of ex-lover whose love hasn't died, 

Who hopes that her ex-spouse proposes another time, 

And who, with fierce determination, firmly declines 

All marriage proposals from eager and willing guys. 

Remarrying my ex would be a prize more desired. 

~•~

I'd rather be a widow and wed a second time 

Than ask for divorce only to regret from inside. 

I'd rather be my husband's first wife, striving to thrive, 

Than be divorced while shunning proposals from all guys. 

Marriage isn't a joke, but a path to Paradise.

~•~ 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."

Sunan Ibn Majah 2055

In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40

English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-demerits-of-divorce.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-seven-reasons-why-divorce-is-more.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-why-i-despise-divorce-even-though.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/16999/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D8%A7%D9%8A%D9%85%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B3%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82 

Poem: Dear Muslim Kids Who've Been Orphaned Recently

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some words to comfort kids who've been orphaned recently, 

Who lost their dear mom and/or dad, with Allah's Decree: 

Dear child, shed tears as much as you like, yet patiently 

Accept Allah's Qadr, death is a reality, 

And every soul's lifespan is fixed and temporary. 

~•~

Know that your late parents wouldn't want you to worry 

About them if they're from those with whom Allah is Pleased. 

If they were pious, they're in a better place, believe, 

And pray to Allah for their well-being frequently. 

Aspire to reunite in Jannah eventually.

~•~

Stay tough for Allah, and note that occasionally 

Seeing children with their parents may prompt you to weep, 

If you recall your mom's hugs which she would lovingly 

Give, while missing your dad's care prevents you from sound sleep. 

Each time you miss them, pray for them to achieve relief. 

~•~

Don't feel bad that they didn't live long enough to see 

You graduate, get married, or complete your studies. 

Take heed, the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) in his younger years 

Lived without a mom's compassion and dad's empathy. 

You can thrive in both worlds with Allah's Love and Mercy. 

~•~ 

To survive in dunya and pass Allah's tests rightly, 

Even without your dear parents, friends and family, 

Study Islam through right sources, regularly read, 

And trust Only Allah, as you strive to do good deeds.

Pray you'll meet your parents in Jannah eventually. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Lord (Allah), what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"

Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Myself and the caretaker of an orphan will be in Paradise like this," and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam held his two fingers together.

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5659

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Jubayr Ibn Mut'im RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5984 

Sahih Muslim 2556

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-trust-allah-almighty-and-strive-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-more-notes-regarding-doing-good.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/tips-good-deeds-that-benefit-dead-in.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/11108/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%85-%D8%B9%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%AA 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/4839/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D8%AF%D9%82%D8%A9-%D8%B9%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%AA

Poem: Include Your Parents In Your Du'as.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 To Muslims worldwide whose parents have just died,
Who lost a parent, their mom, their dad, or two –
As well as those who never saw their parents,
Losing a parent isn't easy, it's true.
~•~
Not a day goes by without me recalling
Sweet memories of my life spent with my folks.
Each time I speak to Allah I remember
My parents, and warm tears would begin to flow.
~•~

I miss the great dishes my dear Mom would cook,
And clothes she creatively sew now and then.
I miss my Dad’s speeches and wise advice, and
His wonderful car drives. I miss both of them.
~•~
Delivering their food as they reached old age,
Washing their clothes when I could – I miss that too.
I miss obeying them whilst they were alive,
Exchanging hugs, and telling them, “I love you.”
~•~
Allah took them by His Mercy, they’re gone now
But the good things I've learned from them still remain.
To continue loving them: I’ll share their words,
Often praying Allah forgives their mistakes,
~•~
Do charity, when I can, on their behalf,
 And treat well their relatives and friends they love.
Frequently I'll mention them in my Du'as,
‘Till we meet again, next to Allah above.
~•~
I’ve learned how to sympathize with orphans more,
Ever since my loving parents passed away.
Tears of various feelings flow more than before,
With Allah’s Kindness, to have all sins erased.
~•~
"Why must we struggle?" In case you're wondering,
Dunya is a platform of all kinds of tests.
Some problems train patience, others teach lessons,
And most lead to repentance or humbleness.
~•~
True peace and happiness are found in Heaven,
For Allah’s friends who worship Him sincerely.
Be with those whom Allah loves. Stick to Islam,
Even if the believers aren't many.
~•~
To those whose folks are living – you're fortunate,
And those left with one parent, you are blessed too.
Take care of them, help them do good deeds, give them
 More love, before Allah Wills that they leave you. 
~•~

May Allah Almighty forgive all our sins,
Accept all our good deeds, and reunite us –
May Allah unite us with our loved ones in
Jannatul Firdaus, amongst friends Allah loves.
Ameen.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Lord (Allah), what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

Note: On Fearing Only Allah The Almighty While Having An Intimidating Personality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs that you're close to Allah the Almighty and you have a good soul despite being viewed by some people as "intimidating": 

1] You continue doing deeds which you believe can please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, even if a number of individuals seem weirded out by your stubbornness, perseverance, and resilience. People's mockery, disapproval, and criticism don't bother you at all, which is why those with low self-confidence find you very "intimidating" or describe you as "unapproachable". 

2] Generally it's easier for you to interact with most animals, cats, birds, young children, nephews, nieces, and infants, yet when it comes to certain adults who are around your age or older, you may struggle to connect if they are jealously threatened by you or being too different from them triggers disharmony. 

3] With Allah's Love and Support, you're capable of waking up regularly to pray Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl and you're granted access to authentic Islamic knowledge, regardless of how many fans and stalkers you have. 

While Allah the Most Wise can grant wealth to anybody whom He chooses, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala generously bestows Islam, wisdom, and guidance only upon the special few whom He loves. 

The unwavering faith/Imaan, Taqwa, and strong personality of 'Umar ibn Al-Khattaab RadhiAllahu 'anhu are what caused shaytan to be afraid of him. Before you wonder if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala likes you or not because some souls are terrified of approaching you, understand that not all rejected items or individuals are avoided due to their insignificant value, but whoever dismissed them probably rejected them as they couldn't afford them, the darkness they may be carrying can't handle bright vibes, or their souls are too glued to dunya's fleeting joys that they don't want to be near anyone who reminds them to focus on better alternatives in Jannah Paradise. 

~•~ 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Sa'd bin Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: 'Umar bin Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu asked the permission of Allah's Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam to see him while some Quraishi women were sitting with him, talking to him and asking him for more expenses, raising their voices above the voice of Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. When 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu asked for the permission to enter, the women quickly put on their veils. Allah's Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam allowed him to enter and 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu came in while Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was smiling, 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "O Allah's Messenger! May Allah always keep you smiling." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "These women who have been here, roused my wonder, for as soon as they heard your voice, they quickly put on their veils." 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "O Allah's Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)! You have more right to be feared by them than I." Then 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu addressed the women saying, "O enemies of yourselves! You fear me more than you do Allah's Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)?" They said, "Yes, for you are harsher and sterner than Allah's Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)." Then Allah's Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "O Ibn Al-Khattab! By Him (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hands my life is! Never does shaytan find you going on a way, but he takes another way other than yours."

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3683

In-book reference: Book 62, Hadith 33

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 5, Book 57, Hadith 32 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-be-humble-all-humans-are-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-tips-to-not-feel-intimidated-by.html 

Poem: What It Means To Be Truly Happy In Marriage Life

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 What does true happiness mean when you've become a wife? 

What does real joy feel like when you've entered marriage life? 

Caressing and cuddling with your spouse day and night? 

Dating your soulmate often to be spoiled with delight?

Gushing over how in many ways you seem alike? 

~•~

Taking photos together then displaying your smiles 

On social media to inspire envy and earn likes? 

Exchanging love letters and poetry oftentimes? 

Cooking fancy meals for each other once in a while?

Receiving hugs and gifts whenever your man arrives? 

~•~

Contentment is better than happiness, FYI, 

Because once you're contented, you're fully satisfied. 

When you're content with the guy whom Allah the Most Wise

Selected as your travel partner to Paradise,  

You won't ask for someone else; you'd love him till he dies. 

~•~

To be happy as your husband's grateful, patient wife, 

Is to enjoy strong faith/Imaan and peace from inside. 

Increasing Shukr and Sabr are what you've acquired 

While striving to maintain contentment in marriage life. 

Through this love for Allah, you're enlightened and inspired. 

~•~ 

If you're happy, don't compare yourself to other wives. 

Instead, keep mentioning your man's name each day and night 

In your loving prayers, asking Allah the Most Wise 

To always bless your marriage so you both reunite 

In Jannah where euphoria and pleasure never die.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-genuine-love-is-in-getting-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-if-you-have-good-intentions-you.html 

Tips: When To Reject And When To Accept The Marriage Proposal Of A Muslim Man Who Is Already Married?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Nine instances when you have a right to reject a marriage proposal from a married guy: 

1] If you see yourself eagerly planning to replace his first wife through sorcery (note: practicing black magic / witchcraft is a major sin which Muslims must avoid) or gradual efforts to convince the man to leave his first wife. 

2] If there's another Muslim who already spoke to your parents or guardians regarding his willingness to marry you, and his current status is single. It may be better to accept the marriage proposal of one who has never been married previously than become somebody's second wife while being seen by some individuals as a "homewrecker". 

3] If you are aware that the man proposing is financially struggling with many debts and a large family to care for. You don't want to be an additional problem when he still has lots of problems to solve. 

4] If you, without a doubt, can guarantee or confirm that you and his first wife won't get along, because of previous misunderstandings or the clear differences in your attitude and personalities bring about conflict. 

5] If the only ones who are enthusiastic about you marrying the guy are his first wife, his relatives, and your family. It is better to remain single, waiting for a sincere spouse in this world or in Jannah Paradise, than to dutifully wed a man whose main reason for marrying you is to modify your marital status or fill the "empty space" which your late husband or ex-husband left.

6] If the guy's belief / 'Aqeedah is different from yours, if he's guilty of bid'ah, or it is known that he was involved in multiple crimes which shouldn't have anything to do with you. 

7] If you're okay with accepting the guy's marriage proposal but his first wife happens to be your sister, half-sister, or foster sister. You can marry your sister's husband only after she has passed away, not during her lifetime. Allah the Almighty knows best. 

8] If the guy proposing requests you to do whatever you can to ensure the wedding is kept as a secret, afraid that his first wife may find out. Better to offer food regularly to stray cats that are still scared of you than spend your future with a coward. 

9] If you sense that the man is pursuing you mainly because his first wife is infertile, and he can't promise that he'll try his best to treat all his wives as fairly as he can. What if he files for divorce after you give birth to some children and he takes custody of the kids while he keeps his first wife?

✅ When can you say yes to a married man's marriage proposal?

1] If you've prayed two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara, carefully analyzed the pros and cons of marrying the guy, and you feel ready to be his second wife without regret, and without any intention to separate the man from his first wife.

2] If you admire the man's strong faith/Imaan and pleasant personality, while his first wife made it very clear that she's okay with him marrying you, and they're not going through financial difficulties. 

3] If you have been single for many years and this marriage proposal is the first ever you've received. Maybe it is a response from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to one of your frequent supplications. Pray two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before finalizing your decision.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patience-for-allahs-sake-can.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-my-answer-to-what-made-you-accept.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-from-signs-of-pious-wives-is-they.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-seven-misconceptions-about.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-some-notes-concerning-polygyny.html 

Note: There's Always A Reason Why Allah The Most Wise Doesn't Want Us To Reconcile With Some People From Our Past

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If you've gone through a friendship breakup in your life or there are several individuals whom you're no longer on good terms with, you may have stumbled upon an ex-friend's comments, status updates, or noticed content which reminded you of them, while browsing around some social networking websites. Maybe you found yourself wondering why Allah the Almighty destined that you'd encounter such people who'd reject your sincere apology or whom you wouldn't want back in to your circle. You probably don't wish to reconcile with them due to the awful lies they've told against you, after you discovered their true colors and toxic personality, or you lost interest in strengthening your connection once you got tired of being the only one reaching out. 

It's a different story if that ex-friend is the one who quit on you, unfriended you, or added you to their list of blocked users, and adamantly declined your request to reconnect. 

📝 While being at the receiving end of a broken friendship can seem unfair or confusing, it becomes a blessing in disguise when you learn some worthwhile lessons: 

1] We can't force anybody on earth to stay friends with us, since all human beings have freewill to make their own decisions according to what they perceive is right. A feral cat which you find in the park or streets may not approach you, despite desperate efforts to grab its attention, if it can't see that you clearly have something valuable to offer or they speculate you're a serious threat to their overall well-being.

2] Oftentimes we may desire to keep or obtain something, but Allah the Most Wise decrees that we're unable to achieve what we want, because Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows about all of the disadvantages and possible dangers of keeping or attaining what we think is good for us. A toddler may snatch a packet of cigarettes from a store assuming that it's something they can enjoy, when in actuality the cigars bring more demerits than benefit. 

3] From every quarrel, falling-out, and separation we've had with those whom we thought could be potential friends, we are reminded to trust and depend only on Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of clinging to any of Allah's servants who are full of defects, shortcomings, and imperfections like ourselves. Our mistakes, along with the faults of ex-friends, further teach us what we should avoid in the future, so 

Inn-sha-Allah we don't repeat them with other humans whom Allah the Most Kind planned we'd meet.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-friendship-breakups-teach-us.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-patiently-let-go-of-former-friends.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-to-my-ex-best-friend-wherever-she.html 

Poem: A Few Tips To Manage Mood Swings Or Control Feelings Better

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some things to recall to manage your mood swings better, 

When you go through moments full of joy, smiles and laughter, 

Then the next thing you know sadness or tears are captured, 

So while at times you're inspired, after some time later 

You're overreacting more than procrastinators: 

~•~

It's fine to have mood swings. They're part of life's adventure. 

Some feelings can inspire and act as motivators. 

Often your moodiness is a clear indicator 

That you're missing someone. Grief can be shown through anger, 

And it's a reminder to earn rewards through Sabr. 

~•~

While it's not a crime to feel, don't be an absorber 

Of people's emotions. Don't let their moods dictate your 

Manners nor duplicate their ways of treating others. 

Someone's low morals mustn't make yours any lesser, 

But through them you're moved to make your character better. 

~•~

Do what can make your dopamine levels go higher, 

Such as reading the Qur'an, saying Du'a/Dhikr, 

Napping once in a while, going out when the weather 

Is sunny, seeing your loved ones so bonds grow stronger, 

And snacking lightly so tummy won't growl from hunger. 

~•~

Each time you go through emotional rollercoasters, 

Remember to seek Allah's Help, hold on to Sabr, 

And refrain from making choices until you've measured 

Each option's pros and cons. Decide when you're much calmer.

Let mood swings bring you near Allah, not trigger failures.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-allah-never-treats-his-servants.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-faithimaan-levels-oftentimes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-learn-from-past-mistakes-and-do.html 

https://youtu.be/9KykZra4Id0

Note: Tips For Future Second Wives

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: I'm about to get married to a good Muslim man who already has a wife and kids. What are some tips that you can give to me as my husband's second wife?

📝 Answer: 1) Always purify your niyyah/intention before doing any action. The purpose of marrying this man shouldn't be to replace his first wife, prove you're much better than her or become a homewrecker. Accept this polygynous marriage life to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, to complete the other half of your Deen and to aspire to become a more pious Muslimah by accepting Allah's Qadr with Sabr.

2) Maintain a strong connection with Allah the Almighty while saying lots of Du'as, frequently praying that Allah makes this loving journey worthwhile, rewarding and manageable.

3) Be willing to befriend your husband's first wife, regardless of whether she's your age, she's younger or a lot older. If in the beginning you can't get along easily, remain patient and still deal with her respectfully. Don't plan on acting like a jealous bully or insecure troublemaker.

4) Understand your husband's decision when he may oftentimes cancel plans, appointments and outings with you. There could be instances when he shows more attention to the first wife because she's pregnant or unwell at that time, a relative of hers died, or he wants to have a temporary break from you due to your bad habit of constantly nagging, scolding or complaining. When this occurs, push yourself to be strong enough to apologize for your mistakes or display sympathy.

Allah will Inn-sha-Allah reward you with much good for going through each trial patiently.

5) If the first wife deliberately tries to make you jealous, as in flaunting the jewelry that your husband and hers gave her on a certain date, or she enjoys showing off the romantic text messages which the husband you both love sent her, kindly explain to her that she needs to respect your boundaries. Agree with her that the man you mutually have passionate feelings for is amazing. However tell her that some of her actions or conduct can be insulting. Emphasize that since you, alongside with her, want to keep this polygynous marriage going, there are several things that she mustn't do as they could have a negative impact on this beautiful bond just as you're careful never to hurt her feelings.

6) When your husband and his first wife are arguing, instead of encouraging your spouse to divorce his first wife, try to encourage him to reconcile for Allah's sake so this family relation won't be broken. Not only will you earn more of Allah's Love for trying to save this marriage and for defeating your egoistic pride and selfish desires, but indirectly your husband's admiration for you shall increase and be further strengthened.

7) Treat the children of your husband's first wife well as if they were your own kids. Your children and their half siblings can benefit a lot from having a friendly connection with each other, especially if they do Da'wah cooperatively, become productive assets to the Muslim Ummah, and manage halal businesses in the future together. Instead of being accustomed to jealousy, insecurity and selfishness, your kids and your husband's children from the other wife/wives can appreciate and value unity, forgiveness, cooperation, patience and contentment with whatever Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destines.  

8 ) Never assume that if your husband gave his first wife a gift which he didn't give you, you're not special to him. Realize that your co-wife is different in numerous ways from you. A man being fair with all his multiple wives doesn't mean he must give the exact same thing to each one, but he understands what every unique wife requires and his way of portraying love to his loved ones always comes with wisdom.

9) Don't see your husband's first wife as a threat or major source of competition. Instead, be content in loving the same man for Allah's sake and defeat shaytan in trying your best to make this marriage life a blessing which can raise your level or status in Jannah Paradise. Do whatever you can to preserve this special romance and work together with your co-wife to ensure it's protected from ending in separation.

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)". [At-Tirmidhi]

Arabic/English book reference: Book 1 Hadith 286

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Note: A Good Muslim Man Who Respects His Mother Deserves Your Love And Loyalty For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 One fond memory I can't forget concerning my husband is that time when we, along with some relatives, were at the airport to fetch his mom who was arriving from Hajj. As my elderly mother-in-law was walking towards the car, my husband requested me to sit at the backseat instead of sitting beside him at the front like I usually do. I could've protested saying "But I want to sit near you! As husband and wife we should be right next to each other." but I didn't, as doing so would seem bratty, stubborn or laughably childish on my part. So Alhamdulillah I obeyed him, sat behind where he was driving and rested my hand on his left shoulder like I was massaging him softly during the drive.

💚 Three lessons learned regarding your husband and mother-in-law:

1▪ Just because your hubby has a close bond with the special person who gave birth to him doesn't mean he loves you less or your companionship isn't meaningful at all. Regardless of whether or not he is a mama's boy, try to appreciate the fact that he's doing a good deed in respecting his beloved parents. If you persist in succumbing to insecure feelings of jealousy, even with regards to his mother and father, there may be something wrong with you.

2▪ Maintaining good ties and friendliness with your husband's family, particularly his mother, can make him a lot more attracted to you. Although your spouse may not always show his sensual romance overtly, if he regularly sees you talking to his mom like you're best friends or catches you and his mother cooking together in the kitchen, or he passes by you sympathetically listening to her stories, despite not fully understanding all of them, he'd be having butterflies in his tummy giving him a rewind of what it feels like to have an intense crush again, as he adores you from a distance. Nonetheless spend time with your mother-in-law sincerely to gain extra rewards, rather than simply putting on an act to impress your husband.

3▪ Don't make it an issue if your husband isn't the passionately romantic type. Some men who grew up as boys with complicated upbringing or difficult student life are unable to demonstrate loving emotions as easily as other confident lovers can. Wives whose husbands showcase love in subtle ways instead of carrying out extremely grand gestures of devotion should strengthen the Muslim wives' patience, train her to remain grateful for Allah's sake and enhance her acceptance of whatever Allah the Almighty has destined.

A husband's love isn't necessarily proven in frequently buying you classic roses and expensive gifts, but in constantly thinking of you, having strong feelings for you, mentioning your name in his regular Du'as, complimenting you from time to time, and trusting you that you'll stay as his tough loyal wife who is courageously ready to forgive him and understand his side of the story, which only a few would care enough to know.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-tips-to-be-your-husbands.html 

Tips: The Best Way To React When Some People Ignore Your Salaams?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What is the best way to react to Muslims who regularly ignore your salaams? Can I stop greeting them with the salaam because I know they won't respond anyway? 

📝 Answer: Greet them again, in case they didn't hear your salaam clearly or they were distracted by an important task which they were busy doing while you walked in on them. Try not to get tempted to interrogate them with questions like, "Why aren't you responding? Are you deaf?", "You're Muslim, right? You understand some Arabic? Then why didn't you answer my salaam?" or "Do I need to use a loudspeaker or megaphone when greeting you?". 

🔹 Some of the reasons why a person may deliberately refrain from answering your salaam could be: 

1] They are innocently ignorant of the fact that it is a rewarding Sunnah to initiate greeting with the salaam and obligatory / mandatory to return a Muslim's salaam. 

2] They're so intimidated by your confident personality, and their nervousness or anxiety may be holding them back from answering you appropriately. 

3] They thought you were saying salaam to somebody else, whilst assuming they're not obliged to answer your salaam if at least one human being (or jinn) in the same room answered you. 

4] They probably weren't in a good mood. Maybe they were too worried, stressed out, or seriously distressed by another individual that they couldn't bring themselves to answer you. 

5] Although they may deny it, they despise returning your greetings because they're simply jealous of something you have which they lack, such as your good manners, strong faith/Imaan, and inner peace, or they perceive you as "plastic" or "artificially friendly", which only confirms they're struggling with some major insecurities. 

Continue spreading salaams and pleasant vibes for Allah's sake, even if not everyone on earth whom you encounter has your level of cheerfulness or eagerness to increase good deeds to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

Let insecure individuals keep silently rolling their eyes with jealousy while you focus on maintaining your Islamic morals and integrity. Your Akhlaaq or Aadaab mustn't decrease due to some people's awful upbringing or misery. 

If a loved one, colleague, or stranger intentionally ignored your salaam, Alhamdulillah you still earn rewards for striving to follow the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. The recording Angels surrounding you and other Muslims may have also responded to your greeting, while your level of patience increased and your character is further strengthened.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the best people to Allah are those who are the first to greet with peace."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5197

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you arrives in a gathering, let him greet them with peace. When he intends to leave, let him depart with greetings of peace. The first greeting is not more worthy than the last."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 5208

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Ali Ibn Abi Talib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A Muslim has six rights over another Muslim in good conduct: To greet him with peace when he meets him, to respond to his invitation, to respond to his sneeze, to visit him when he is sick, to follow his funeral prayer when he dies, and to love for him what he loves for himself."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2736

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti 

https://www.thenoblequran.com/q/#/sura/4/86

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-different-types-of-ignoring-and.html 

Note: Five Signs That You're Not A Gold-Digger While You're A True Blessing To Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five signs that you're not a gold-digger while your husband is fortunate and blessed to have you as his wife:

1] When he gives or sends you your weekly or monthly allowance, you don't instantly react with "is that all? Why so kuripot, mahal?" but you genuinely thank him for trying his best to support his wife/wives and family. 

Of course if all he can give is twenty pesos a month or he consistently fails to meet your basic needs, try to kindly discuss your concerns with him when he doesn't seem stressed or depressed. Maybe he needs to find another job or he's struggling to pay a large amount of debts which he owes some people who won't stop bothering him until he completes his deal with them? 

2] You never compare him to your friends' or neighbors' husbands, as you're contented with the man whom Allah the Most Loving wisely chose for you. 

3] You're easy to please or impress when it comes to dealing with your dear husband. Even if he couldn't bring home anything special, besides his body, or he buys simple food from one of the street vendors, you appreciate the fact that at least he cared enough to show up or go out of his way to purchase something for you. 

4] You lovingly volunteer to spend on your husband once in a while, or financially support him when he's going through tough times, and you don't expect him to return the money which you generously offered for Allah's sake. 

5] You can't get offended when somebody describes your husband as "poor", "neglectful", or "irresponsible", because you know your husband and understand his circumstances far better than any of your critics can speculate.

~•~

📖 Narrated Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas'ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas'ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas'ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462

In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-pious-wife-is-not-materialistic.html 

Hadith: Virtues Of Kindness And Gentleness

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Gentle (Rafeeq) and He loves gentleness. He rewards for gentleness what is not granted for harshness and He does not reward anything else like it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2593

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Gentle and He loves gentleness. He grants reward for gentleness what is not given for harshness."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 486

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you of one forbidden for Hellfire or Hellfire is forbidden for him? It is everyone accessible, polite, and easy-going."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2488

Grade: Sahih li gharyihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-what-is-good-character.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-maintain-inner-beauty-even-when.html 

Tips: True Story Of A Former Music Addict And How To Stop Listening To Music

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 My decision to completely stop being addicted to music didn't happen overnight. It was a long journey consisting of periodical breaks or episodes of deciding to quit listening to songs, then returning to music addiction, and then back to willingness to do Tawbah (repentance), from my teenage years until my late twenties. 

As a former music addict, I remember listening to a wide variety of songs in my portable CD player frequently while studying, while working on my school projects and assignments, while doing aerobic exercise, and even before sleeping. I also tuned in to a number of radio stations to listen to the latest hits, and on some occasions I sent letters via email or fax machine to the DJ cheesily requesting certain songs to be "dedicated" to all the students of Middle East International School back then. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

Savage Garden, Evanescence, Avril Lavigne, Celine Dion, Westlife, Shania Twain, P!nk (Alecia Beth Moore), Backstreet Boys (BSB), A-Teens, M2M, Eminem, Britney Spears, and the Spice Girls were some of the "artists", along with other Arab singers, whose songs I used to ignorantly listen to.  Alhamdulillah I stopped listening to music when Allah the Almighty guided me through the consistent warnings and advice of my dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) against such wrongdoing which a lot of people take lightly. 

Afterwards I decided to replace them with so-called "anasheed", "nasheeds" or "Islamic songs", wrongly assuming that listening to them would strengthen my faith/Imaan when it actually did the opposite. Instead of calming my heart by listening to Allah's Magnificent Words in the Noble Qur'an regularly, there I was pretentiously chanting "nasheed" lyrics and guiltily staring at the good looks of "nasheed artists" such as Sami Yusuf, Native Deen, Maher Zain, Deen Squad, and Saif / Safe Adam while watching "nasheed video clips". Watching "nasheed videos" felt almost similar to watching music vids on MTV and other channels, but with a slightly different flavor. Imagine a divorcee who's dealing with severe depression trying to slit his wrists and arms with a razor blade. Instead of utilizing the razor blade, he uses the sharp edges of a broken piece of glass to cut himself. While both cutting tools look dissimilar outwardly, their disastrous effects are the same. Being addicted to music is still as sinful as obsessively listening to so-called "anasheed", even if your niyyah/intention is to gather sufficient energy to worship Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

📝 Some tips to permanently stop music addiction, for Allah's sake: 

1] Understand the real reasons why dancing and listening to music aren't allowed. Allah the Most Wise created your body so you can use it for praying to Him, not to dance, and your ears are meant for listening to the Adhaan, Qur'an recitations, and beneficial Islamic lectures, not for absorbing evil speech such as lies, gossip, and distracting songs. 

2] Read more articles or listen to Islamic talks regarding the prohibition of listening to music. 

3] Be inspired by the true stories of Muslims who willingly gave up their harmful addiction to music. 

4] When commuting with a taxi or any vehicle, be confident enough to request the driver to switch off the radio if music is being played. The more often you command others to stop listening to music, the more you're trained to dislike music, thereby motivating yourself to practice what you preach since you recall how awful it is to act like a hypocrite. 

5] Constantly ask Allah the Most Kind to keep you steadfast, as you strive to increase your good deeds to compensate for your past sins. 

Pray that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala takes your soul while you're in a noble state, mentioning His Name, saying Dhikr, or after having performed wudhu/ablution, instead of while listening to musical instruments and nonsensical songs.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Some people from my nation will drink wine, calling it by different names, and musical instruments will be played for them and girls will sing to them. Allah will cause the earth to swallow them up, and He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will turn some of them into apes and pigs."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4020

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-importance-of-staying-away-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-some-things-you-can-do-to-manage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-when-youve-done-tawbah-dont-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-from-sincere-tawbah-is-to-not-miss.html 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/ruling-on-music-and-singing-ibn-baz-albani-ibn-taymiyyah/

Note: INTJs And Social Interactions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ How most individuals with the INTJ personality type treat people according to the kind of connection they have: 

1] If you are only an acquaintance, they: 

• are mostly very brief and businesslike with you. 

• may occasionally greet you. 

• show no interest in your background, aren't curious about your past, or they do what they can to avoid asking you personal questions. 

2] If you are a casual friend, they: 

• have invited you to go out with them for shopping or an outing more than once. 

• seem to enjoy talking to you online and face-to-face. 

• try their best to support your halal business, projects, and hobbies, lovingly supporting you without wanting anything in return. 

3] If you are a close friend, they: 

• may have fought or argued with you once in a while but you always end up forgiving each other for Allah's sake. 

• regularly go out of their way to reach out, visit, communicate, ask how you're doing, and they're able to patiently wait for your delayed replies. 

• requested for your advice or borrowed items from you multiple times. 

• often give you freebies, edibles, drinks, books, or gifts not necessarily for a special occasion but they simply felt like giving something they can offer to demonstrate their love for Allah's sake. 

• are capable of joking around with you, so you're one of the carefully selected few who get to see their less serious side of their personality. 

4] If you're a spouse, family member or relative, they: 

• tolerate your differences and flaws with patience. 

• will staunchly assist or defend you if they saw you in trouble, as long as attempting to help you doesn't conflict with their values and goals. 

• don't permanently hold grudges no matter how many times you've scolded, mistreated, or insulted them. They readily forgive, while being slightly distant to protect you both from pointless arguments. 

5] With strangers whom they are uninterested in befriending, they: 

• never stalk their social media accounts nor bother reading their comments entirely. 

• can appear socially awkward, unapproachable, or somewhat snobby. Most conversations feel forced, uncomfortable, or don't flow smoothly. 

• don't make much eye contact, as if the stranger is a mosquito or fly buzzing around their personal space bubble temporarily. 

A person's choice to be cautiously selective regarding who gets to enter their circle doesn't make them "arrogant". It's your right to maintain connection with those whose vibes align with yours and minimize problems by staying away from distractions.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-ways-to-describe-most-intj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-choosiness-of-most-intjs-when-it.html 

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https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

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http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/ 

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