💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 When I married my husband at 20 years old while he was 28 in 2006 Shawwaal, I was very ignorant when it came to cooking. I acknowledge that to this day I'm one of those few females who lack actual culinary skills.
On one occasion I cooked some pancakes for him. Since they weren't properly cooked from the inside, some of the liquid mixture was oozing out as he'd take every bite. I apologized to him about me being a terrible "chef" and he jokingly told me that it's okay, we can imagine that the uncooked part of the pancake is cream filling.
From the undeniable signs that your husband loves you for Allah's sake is when he tries his best to have patience with your flaws, mistakes and shortcomings. If a woman can't do an impressive job in cooking, a caring husband would either stay patient with her incompetence and volunteer to do the cooking himself, buy take-outs or order food from restaurants often, hire somebody who's more capable to cook for them, or even motivate her to attend culinary school and pay for the courses which she decides to take.
Likewise when a Muslimah does whatever she can to patiently keep loving the man whom Allah the Most Wise selected as her other half and soulmate, she'd be patient, tolerant, or accepting of his qualities which he can't change while persistently praying to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for her husband's gradual development and progress, aware that his perfect version can be thoroughly enjoyed
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise, not in this brief dunya where being completely flawless is unattainable.
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📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29
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