Poem: On The Few Women Who Are Uninterested In Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 While some women are eager to get married early 

And others are pleased their marriage took place in their teens, 

In my life I know seven females personally 

Who are older than forty years old and seem to be 

Contented not requiring a man to be complete. 

~•~

From the reasons why some women choose to not marry, 

Regardless of how many proposals they received: 

They believe staying single lets them live more freely,

Far from marital stress and responsibilities, 

Or they're avoiding the challenge in polygyny...

~•~

...Or they sense they're not ready to raise a family, 

Or they like kids but won't be carriers of babies, 

The process of giving birth for them is not easy, 

Or they know they're incapable of feeling any 

Desire for men, and trying to love one feels phony. 

~•~

Whatever is the reason why some women perceive 

Marriage as just "optional" or "unnecessary", 

Recall that forced marriage in Islam is unseemly. 

None from her maternal and paternal family 

Can force a Muslimah to marry unwillingly.

~•~ 

Let each Muslim lady select her future hubby, 

And don't scold her if she prefers to wait patiently 

For her perfect spouse when she attains Jannah's entry. 

To those who are choosy regarding whom to marry: 

Marry for Allah. Be the wife that a good man needs.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will restrain his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence is her consent."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

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Poem: What Often Leads To Conflict Or Incompatibility

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 One of the reasons behind somebody's enmity 

And spite towards you despite not knowing you really, 

Is the fact you're both different, your goals don't smoothly 

Align with each other, and most of your qualities 

Clash which makes it easy for them to loathe and mistreat.

~•~

Perhaps they like to fit in with the majority, 

They dread to look weird, and seek to please society, 

While you strive to deserve the Love of Allah Only, 

You don't fear standing out, you prefer to be unique, 

And stick to your beliefs even if most disagree.

~•~ 

Maybe your inner beauty informs them they're ugly 

Inwardly if they carry unjust grudge or envy, 

While your trust in Allah and strong personality 

May remind them of their myriad insecurities. 

Their antipathy can't make their character pretty.

~•~ 

Probably your marriage, welcoming polygyny, 

And patience trigger guilt or shame they didn't succeed 

In some tasks previously, while your choice to patiently 

Persist in loving your husband for Allah bravely 

Offends them greatly, since they're weak emotionally.

~•~

Just as wolves and bears won't benefit from worms and bees, 

And a lion's presence could disturb the peace of sheep, 

We can't expect to get along with each soul we meet, 

Specially if our haters' hate stems from jealousy 

And countless differences lead to disharmony.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion (sister or brother in Islam)."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Hadith: Warning Against Unjustly / Knowingly Stealing Others' Lands Or Properties

📖 Sa'eed Ibn Zayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongly seizes a plot of land (which is not their property), Allah will make him carry seven earths around his neck (in the next life or on the Day of Judgment)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1610

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Salama RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: That there was a dispute between him and some people (about a piece of land). When he told 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha about it, she said, "O Abu Salama! Avoid taking the land unjustly, for the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever usurps (unjustly steals) even one span of the land of somebody, his neck will be encircled with it down the seven earths." 

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 2453

In-book reference: Book 46, Hadith 14

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 3, Book 43, Hadith 633