Tips: So Long As You've Reached The Age Of Puberty, Age Doesn't Matter When You First Marry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 In 2006 my brother who was 18 years old that time married our first cousin who would turn 21 in that year's September. Before that there was an arrangement for him to marry his childhood friend, but Allah the Most Wise decreed that their marriage wouldn't take place and instead the girl would marry a Middle Eastern guy she'd meet in Malaysia who's around nine years older than she is. Alhamdulillah my brother and his wife are blessed with five children for now, while the girl who was previously engaged to my brother is blessed with one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

Alhamdulillah I was 20 when I married my husband who was 28, and became his second wife when I was around 26 years old. From my husband's side, the mother of one of his brothers-in-law got married when she was 14 or so years old while her husband was in his early 20s. MashaAllah. From what I understand, they're blessed with ten kids. My mother-in-law also married when she was around 14 years old and Allah the Most Merciful blessed her and her late husband (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) with twelve kids. 

A number of my students also married while still in their teens. The wife of one of them is older than him by several years and they're currently blessed with two sons. 

When I contemplate on how many Muslims have married at a young age, I recall how there are still a group of individuals around the globe who reached their forties and they're gladly contented with staying single. This reminded me of another childhood friend who married as a teenager then, if I'm not mistaken, in her twenties when she discovered that her ex-husband was interested in remarrying, she demanded for divorce. A person getting married at a young age does not guarantee that their marriage will last forever. Marriage doesn't equate to euphoria or complete happiness. It's basically another journey towards Jannah with its innumerable ups and downs, temporary trials and challenging puzzles to solve. 

The closer you are to Allah the Almighty, the more tests you may go through as a married Muslim, whether you're being temporarily tested with your husband's employment in a different city or country, with being infertile or not having as many kids as you liked, with polygyny, with some of your in-laws disputing with your family, with your husband's quick temper or jealously mistrusting attitude, with your spouse's current struggle with some Islamic rulings, or even with black magic or sorcery. 

For some Muslims, their decision to remain single while patiently waiting for their flawless spouse in Paradise may be more convenient for them if not having any spouse keeps their faith/Imaan strong and their overall well-being is a lot more stable than if they were in a complicated marriage which not everyone can handle patiently.

📋 1] Never compare your love story to another Muslim couple's romance. Watermelons, papayas, bananas, mangoes and apples are all sweet and enjoyable in their own way. 

2] Regardless of how old your husband is and the age you married him, what matters more is your actual niyyah/intention of marrying each other, aspiring to ensure that this loving bond leads to Allah's Love and Jannah's entry, while acknowledging from within that you're truly contented with Allah's Qadr/Destiny. 

3] Your marital status does not determine your true worth as a human being. What clearly distinguish Allah's servants from one another are their Taqwa, how close they are to Allah the Almighty and what kind of good deeds they consistently and sincerely do to succeed in both worlds.

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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will discipline his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-my-brief-love-story-and-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-not-everyone-on-earth-has-same.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/25486/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B3%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%B9%D9%8A-%D9%84%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC 

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Poem: Five Types Of Stares You May Receive Sometimes As A Niqabi / Muntaqaba

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five types of stares you may receive as a "niqabi"

Or "muntaqaba" who lives to serve Allah Only, 

Whether you're often stared at in some malls, in the streets, 

At work, or there are some critics in your family 

Who disagree with your choice to value modesty:

~•~

One -  the disgusted stare that declares "What a pity! 

It's a shame Muslim females are treated unfairly." 

React by dismissing their ignorance, fallacies, 

And disdain which displays their low self-esteem is real. 

Decline their invites to drama. Move on patiently.

~•~ 

Two - the worried stare that wishes to share sympathy, 

Wrongly guessing Muslimahs are under tyranny. 

Ease their worries with your confidence, being friendly 

Or clearly happy if they guess you're in misery,

And inwardly for their misbelief you feel sorry.

~•~

Three - the amused stare that follows jokes, hilarity, 

And remarks which show they're immature, massive babies 

Who've never traveled abroad or went to school really, 

Or their lousy upbringing with ill-bred families 

Or self-hate is why they deride strangers easily.

~•~ 

Four - the natural stare that comes with curiosity, 

Eagerness to decipher why your outfit is weird. 

Simply mind your business. Keep moving confidently. 

Let good manners reveal inner contentment and peace, 

As you courageously do Da'wah indirectly.

~•~ 

Five - the impressed stare that felt attracted instantly, 

The kind of look which says "I see you, please notice me", 

Amazed by your strong personality, bravery, 

Uniqueness, oddity, or sticking to your beliefs. 

Lower your gaze. Ensure your interactions are brief.

~•~

Even if scorned upon by "modern" society 

And laughed at sometimes by friends, neighbors or enemies, 

Muslimahs who strive to please Allah the Almighty 

Stay steadfast. Don't worry about people's mockery, 

As on Judgment Day they'll earn the rewards of their deeds.

~•~

📖 Abu Udhaynah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow."

Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá 12480

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 'Urwah reported: Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha said, "May Allah have mercy on the foremost women of the Muhaajirun. When Allah revealed the verse, ‘Let them draw their cloaks over their bodies,’ (The Noble Qur'an 24:31) they cut their sheets and veiled themselves with them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4481

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-wear-niqab-for-allah-as-dutiful.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-my-brief-niqab-story-to-inspire.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/note-some-lessons-learned-from-wearing.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-you-are-self-confident.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-advice-on-dealing-with-mockery-as.html 

Poem: Include The Muslim Ummah In Your Du'a

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Dear Allah, make him more eloquent and bless his speech, 

Guide him to speak truthfully and accept his good deeds.", 

"O' Allah, the Most Loving Who always hears and sees, 

Protect my loved ones and friends, grant them all that they need, 

And in their efforts to serve You please keep them sincere." 

~•~ 

"Dear Allah, from the Muslim Ummah who feel lonely 

Or stressed at times when they deal with life's difficulties, 

Provide them more guidance so in both worlds they succeed, 

Increase their love for learning Islam and right belief,

And give them insight, inner joy, contentment and peace." 

~•~

"O' Allah, those Muslims who got married recently, 

I pray that through their marriage they thrive in piety, 

That their journey is a blessing and they stay happy.", 

"Dear Allah, please heal so-and-so and give them relief, 

Bless this one's business and help them earn income with ease."

~•~ 

"O' Allah, the Most Kind Who knows all my wants and needs, 

Forgive those who gossiped about me, kindly release 

Them from vile qualities like suspicion and envy. 

I pray that Allah softens their hearts and they believe 

In the correct 'Aqeedah, far from bid'ah. Ameen."

~•~

It takes strong faith/Imaan, kindness and humility 

For a Muslim to mention others regularly 

In their Du'a/supplication with sincerity. 

When praying for other Muslims don't be miserly. 

Such invocations profit your soul similarly.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No supplication is quicker to be answered than a supplication on behalf of one absent (supplicating for other Muslims)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1980

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-what-it-means-to-love-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-be-generous-enough-to-pray-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/tips-advice-on-how-to-deal-with-loved.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-warning-against-constantly-cursing.html