Poem: Three Signs That You're Confident Which Is Why You Seem Intimidating To Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs that you're confident, and you're not faking it, 

That your good vibes cause some to feel intimidated, 

As you trust Allah, not fearing those He created, 

While your efforts to stay real, not one bit pretentious, 

Scare off souls who are insecure or inauthentic: 

~•~

One: You don't care if you seem weird. In fact, you like it 

When you stand out and side with the few who are correct. 

You'd rather be a lone gem amidst a dark forest 

Than follow decomposing leaves and falling branches. 

With Allah's Love and Guidance you're more than contented. 

~•~

Two: You can't doubt your worth when you don't get invited 

To gatherings where you are not urgently needed. 

You give people space, your loved ones' choices you respect, 

And you're not one to expect much as you haven't met 

Everybody's needs, and Allah's Qadr you accept. 

~•~

Three: Aiming to please just Allah, you don't fear gossip. 

What critics think about you is none of your business. 

So long as it's the right thing, you don't require permit 

Or support from puppets to remain motivated. 

Journey to Allah goes on even if cowards quit.

~•~

The more you strive for Allah and the more you're guided, 

The less susceptible you are to feeling upset 

By people's misconduct and lousy moves they select. 

Any mess they put themselves in is theirs to cherish. 

Live to serve Allah, not cling to those He created. 

~•~ 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Tips For Co-Wives In Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: As a wife in polygyny, how can I stop feeling jealous of my husband's other wives?

📝 Answer: Whether you're the first wife, second, third or fourth wife, it is part of human nature to experience feelings of jealousy now and then. According to some reports it is proven that 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha felt somewhat jealous of Khadija RadhiAllahu 'anha even after the first wife of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam passed away.

It is normal to feel triggered by jealousy occasionally, especially if you're in a polygynous marriage where you and other women love the same hardworking, handsome, and caring man. What is abominable is to act upon envy, to misbehave when overwhelmed by jealous sentiments and to mistreat another Muslim due to envying them.

Some examples of misconduct that a co-wife who hatefully envies you would do include:

1) Treating you rudely, deliberately ignoring you or not giving you your rights like answering your salaam, and intentionally making you feel excluded or left out whenever she can. If she organizes a social gathering, outing or meeting, she makes sure that you're not invited. She tries to make you feel awful as a way to comfort her struggle with feeling jealously threatened.

2) She encourages the friends in her circle to despise you, to avoid you and view you negatively. Her self-sabotaging envy is what causes her to spread rumors concerning you to pacify her insecurities. When others backbite or talk about you badly, instead of defending you, she obnoxiously giggles and chimes in with additional insulting remarks to spoil your reputation. Jealousy causes this insecure woman to enjoy ridiculing you, gossiping and backbiting.

3) Because she hates you out of jealousy, she can't stand to see you happy. Your accomplishments and pleasant qualities are a threat to her. Congratulating you on achieving something is awfully difficult for her to do. Although you may be friends on Facebook, she rarely reacts to your status updates yet ironically she stalks your timeline with furious resentment. The only time she leaves a comment or sends a message is when she wants to criticize you or question you about a post which she insecurely assumes is about her.

4) Since she hates your guts, she's willing to do anything that could upset you, whether it's stealing from you or your ideas, breaking her promises too often so you can't trust her anymore, and encouraging your husband to neglect you.

5) A jealous co-wife would do whatever it takes to destroy your self-esteem by acting like a toxic friend, regularly texting you with romantic photos of her and the husband you both share, giving you all the unnecessary details of how the man of the household spoils her with luxury gifts and how much she enjoys being with him. She could also purposely offer false tips and wrong advice to ensure that you don't do well in marriage or to see you fail in life.

Acting upon jealousy not only erases a Muslim's good deeds, but it also weakens the bonds of Muslim communities.

🌺 In order to prevent yourself from responding to negative feelings of envy, always remember that:

1) Allah Subhaanahu wa Taa'ala created everyone differently. Rather than comparing yourself to another Muslim, be grateful for what Allah the Almighty chose to give you. Focus on passing your own tests with Sabr/patience and Shukr/gratitude, instead of yearning for the examinations of other people.

2) Appreciate what you already have and concentrate on improving yourself with whatever Allah the Most Wise gave you rather than complaining about what you're lacking. 

While Allah the Most Loving made your co-wife successful in a business that she manages, Allah the Most Merciful blessed you with many pious Muslim kids. If your co-wife received a new apartment, recall all the good times you spent with your husband, specially when you traveled a lot in the previous years, and cherish every single moment in which you spend time together. If you don't have a child yet, while your co-wife has twins or triplets, remember that there are other women worldwide who struggle with finding a righteous man for marriage. Train yourself to stay patient for Allah's sake, and contented, submissively accepting whatever Allah destined.

3) Instead of seeing your co-wife as an opponent, competition, or homewrecker, consider her as an inspiration, encouragement for you to earn more rewards by enhancing Sabr, and strive for Allah's sake to mutually work against shaytan by doing your best to keep this polygynous marriage strong.

4) The better of two wives isn't the one who receives the most affection, gifts and attention from the husband, but the wife who strives to be closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who can successfully implement rewarding patience.

5) The more you realize how this world is only temporary and the more you desire Jannah eagerly, the easier it is for you go through any difficulty in polygyny patiently, and the more you avoid anything that could lead to envy, since you don't want to waste any of your good deeds, particularly by behaving unjustly and insecurely. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy destroys good deeds just as fire destroys wood. Charity extinguishes sins just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "He has succeeded who embraces Islam, whose provision is sufficient, and who is content with what Allah has given him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1054

Grade: Sahih

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir

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Tips: Three Types Of Grudges And How To Deal With People's Enmity

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🔹 Three signs that a person hates and avoids you because of jealousy: 

1] They're cowardly passive-aggressive. On more than one occasion they've given some mutual acquaintances gifts, freebies, or cheerful greetings while purposely excluding you. They've also shared numerous posts or typed scornful status updates online which are subtly aimed to offend you. 

2] Nearly every time you interact with them, you notice they feel the need to one-up you or give out unsolicited info to claim superiority. 

3] They almost never ask about your personal life and check how you're doing, because they get annoyed whenever they're informed about your progress, achievements, and blessings which are granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

🔹 Three signs that somebody dislikes you due to hurt feelings or unresolved misunderstanding: 

1] They can't maintain proper eye contact with you while conversing or when you're in the same room. Every time they see you, they're reminded of the unpleasant things you've done or said to them. 

2] They stopped inviting you to accompany them for shopping, outings, or hanging out at their favorite Islamic bookstore/library, if they went out of their way to invite you often previously. It's their absolute right to emotionally detach from those whom they discovered are dishonest, inconsistent, and untrustworthy. 

3] They lost interest in wanting to be a close friend. They're no longer talkative, open, and transparent around you, as if they went back to being mere strangers again - only this time they withhold tons of secrets from you and keep their conversations brief or businesslike.

🔹 Three signs that a person's grudge comes from intimidation, feeling insecure around you, or guessing they're not good enough to reach your level of piety, confidence or dedication: 

1] When trying to talk to them, you can sense that they're nervous, frightened, or overall distracted, as if they can't wait to run away. Your positive vibes may clash with their negative energy. 

2] They have a bad habit of regularly leaving your text messages on seen mode or calls ignored because they're too scared to respond, or their lack of self-confidence makes them assume that someone who is as awesome as you shouldn't be socializing with somebody insecure like them. 

3] They do whatever they can to spoil your good image, through immature bullying and gossiping, since they view you as a threat or obstacle to their goals. 

🔹 What you, as a confident Muslim, can do when you know that certain individuals cannot stand you: 

1] Thank Allah the Almighty that Alhamdulillah you're not an envious critic who keeps himself/herself busy hatefully stalking others and counting people's flaws to be distracted from their gigantic load of insecurities. 

2] Focus on pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who knows how to deal with His servants justly at the most ideal timing. 

3] Appreciate the few genuine souls whom you truly love for Allah's sake, particularly your spouse. Never let naysayers and bashers cause you to neglect those who share your values. 

4] Attain relief knowing that the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam also had enemies from among the hypocrites and unbelievers. Being loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't necessitate that you'll be approved by everybody on earth. 

5] Allow your enemies and haters to inspire you to have more Sabr/patience, better character, and gratitude that you're not the sad toxic person or self-loathing narcissist.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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🗒️ Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a.