Poem: Some Reasons Why The Insecure Or Unconfident Feel Intimidated By You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Ever wondered why, despite your efforts to stay kind, 

The insecure or unconfident return your smiles 

With indifference and sad scowls while rolling their eyes? 

Likely they're intimidated, jealous from inside, 

And their dismal selves cause them to fear your cheerful vibes. 

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Like drivers who get pulled over and they're filled with fright, 

As though there's something disturbing they're trying to hide, 

Those guilty of jealousy can't look you in the eye 

Or they'd try their best to share their sorrow with you by 

Acting obnoxious or denying to give your rights. 

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You know that you intimidate somebody each time 

They ask a third party to forward their notes or lies 

Instead of confronting you directly, and they strive 

To spread rumors about you so your good moods subside. 

Stand firm for Allah and don't let foes dim your soul's light. 

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You know why such types are scared, although you're not unkind, 

Not a bully with manners that are uncivilized? 

They're fearful that anytime you might steal their limelight, 

That you'll catch them red-handed when they invent a lie, 

Or they desire dunya whilst you pursue Paradise. 

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We can't force a turtle or snail to budge if it hides 

In its shell whenever we're nearby, if our large size 

Terrifies it, and our language it can't recognize. 

Continue fearing no one but Allah the Most High. 

By people's fears and feelings our worth is not defined.

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-on-fearing-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-three-signs-that-youre-confident.html

Tips: Three Signs That You're Actually Confident Even If Sometimes You Don't Feel It

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Three signs that you're actually confident, even if you sometimes feel "awkward", "misunderstood", or "inadequate" in certain situations: 

1] You're not afraid of solitude or doing something on your own, while trusting Allah the Almighty at all times. 

🔹 e.g. when you're with a group at a restaurant or social gathering and you are capable of going to the CR without requesting anybody to accompany you, when you can fearlessly approach a person without habitually asking somebody to deliver your message on your behalf, and when you can confidently answer questions or actively participate in a meeting or class even if you're the only one who's mostly active. 

2] You can be stubbornly persistent concerning your values, decisions, and beliefs, unaffected by criticism, disapproval, and mockery. 

🔹 e.g. when a Muslimah decides to keep her niqab and hijab even if her loved ones disapprove her choice to be modestly dressed, when you can unapologetically wear the same outfit you wore in the previous week without being conscious about what fashionistas will think, and when a Muslim's non-Muslim acquaintances frequently go on dates while he is contented about not having a girlfriend as he'd rather wait for lawful marriage than be guilty of zina. 

3] "Determined", "resilient", and "persevering" are some adjectives which describe you well. You're not a quitter. Disappointments, rejections, slip-ups, misunderstandings, and challenging moments are opportunities to develop yourself, strengthen patience, and learn from previous errors to avoid intentionally repeating those mistakes in the future.

🔹 e.g. when you got scolded by your employer on one afternoon, or you had to cope with a supposedly embarrassing incident, and you're still courageous enough to show up the next day, instead of being cowardly absent; when you can maintain courtesy with an acquaintance who recently unfriended you on Facebook rather than acting insecurely unfriendly; and when you continue doing a good deed which you believe pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala despite not receiving visible support from family and friends. It is sufficient that Allah the Most Loving rewards you for what you strive to do sincerely for His sake. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-on-fearing-only-allah-almighty.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-gain-inner-strength-from-loving.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-signs-you-are-self-confident.html