Sunday, February 20, 2022

Note: Good / Righteous Friends vs Toxic Friends

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
✅ Five signs indicating that a person is a righteous and good friend: 
1] You feel comfortable and at ease when you're with them, aware that they won't suddenly criticize you in front of others nor talk badly about you when you're not around. Judging people's appearances and pridefully laughing at their mistakes are things they avoid doing.
2] For Allah's sake they regularly share Islamic reminders on social media, advise gently when you require consolation, and correct you whenever you do something wrong. 
3] They motivate you to treat your parents respectfully, maintain family ties, and show genuine concern for your loved ones, instead of wanting all your attention to themselves like insecure and manipulative narcissists.
4] After talking to them online or face to face, you notice a significant increase in the level of your faith/Imaan, because the topics you often discuss actually energize you and bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
5] You're incapable of feeling anxious before attempting to visit them and check their Facebook timelines, as you know that their actions, statements and postings are devoid of gossip and passive-aggressive behavior. You don't perceive them as a threat to your religious and emotional well-being. In fact, you look forward to learning from them as you can't get tired of their good vibes and positive influence. 
❎ Five indicators of toxic people who don't deserve our trust and friendship: 
1] You don't feel safe and secure when they're nearby, as if you can sense that they have the potential to offend you anytime or compel you to do something which you dislike. 
2] You've observed that even after a long time of being acquainted with their names, you still didn't learn anything valuable and inspirational from them. They seem to be more obsessed with pretentious selfies, consumerism and worldly matters than willing to put effort into seeking authentic knowledge of Islam through reliable sources.
3] You can tell that they despise one or some of your family members due to unreasonable reasons. Those who hold grudges against anybody from the individuals who are closely connected to you mustn't be trusted. 
4] After interacting with them personally and virtually, even for a few minutes, you feel emotionally worn out and unmotivated. Their words mostly consist of lies, rumors, gossip, mockery and complaints which trigger negative emotions.
5] Almost every time you're about to join a meeting with them or check their online posts, you feel agitated and uneasy, as though it is obvious that your soul's energy clashes with theirs.
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πŸ“– AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna'ut 
πŸ“– Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
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