💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Some ways to tell if your grudge against another Muslim is due to jealousy or being unrelatable and too different:
❎ If you hate a certain individual because their beliefs, attitude, personality, interests and goals are too "weird" or in conflict with yours, you would:
1] Feel uninterested in wanting to build any connection with them, so thinking of interesting topics to discuss online and face to face or asking them personal questions can be difficult.
2] Acknowledge the fact that their absence and presence have no significant impact on you. When they've been absent for several days, you don't miss them at all. Once they're around and easily reachable, you prefer to keep your distance and begrudgingly interact with them only when necessary.
3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible (on social media and offline) because you can't gain anything valuable from being affiliated. Chatting with them feels artificial, time-consuming and pointless.
❌ If your hatred for some individuals actually stems from envy, you would:
1] Act distant upon seeing them express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the blessings which He gave, and angrily scowl whenever you notice a smile on their face.
2] Ardently focus on their negative qualities much more than their agreeable traits, annoyingly make a big deal out of their mistakes, and publicly criticize them whenever you can to spoil their image and name.
3] Admit that you cringe with jealous animosity whenever you go through their online posts or hear their voice and laughter.
4] Agree that you've become accustomed or addicted to gossiping and backbiting about them, to feel good about yourself and less inferior.
5] Avoid actually spending quality time with them because you can't stand how most of the information they oftentimes share with you trigger uncomfortable feelings of jealousy.
📑 Reminder to myself and others: While you're allowed to unfriend and unfollow anybody whose Facebook status updates make you feel uneasy, it's not okay to utilize social media as a virtual stage where you behave like a politician bashing other politicians to obtain the crowd's votes and sympathies. Before attempting to collect fans to hate on another Muslim through sinful backbiting, ask yourself "am I about to disseminate info which can
Inn-sha-Allah motivate others to become more confident Muslims? Or should these complaints be left unsaid because shaytan and his allies find arguments between Muslims absurdly amusing?"
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719
Sahih Muslim 2563
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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