π In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
π Checklist to determine if your spouse is worth loving and keeping for Allah's sake, patiently remain as your husband's loyal and patient wife if you end up checking most of these, whether you are in polygyny, LDR (long-distance relationship) or a monogamous marriage:
1πΉ From the very beginning, you sincerely agreed to marry your husband for the sake of Allah the Almighty, eager to complete the other half of your Deen. You accepted your husband's marriage proposal not for his wealth or status but to accompany him on a loving journey to Jannah Paradise. [ ]
2πΉ The first time you made actual eye contact with your husband, you felt shy or bashful, with your awkwardness or nervousness indicating that you really felt attracted to him. [ ]
3πΉ Overall you strongly believe that your husband is a good man, despite his faults and imperfections. [ ]
4πΉ Your husband, with Allah's Will and Mercy, was able to teach you at least one valuable lesson which other individuals aren't capable of teaching. Or you acknowledge that ever since you married your husband for Allah's sake, Alhamdulillah, you've become a better Muslim. [ ]
5πΉ At least three of your husband's relatives, regardless of how old they are, harmoniously get along with you. [ ]
6πΉ You truthfully respect your husband's current occupation and/or you admire how your hard-working husband tries his best to earn only halal income. [ ]
7πΉ You can imagine feeling remorseful if ever you asked for a divorce. You'd rather strive to maintain patience, for Allah's sake, with your husband than occasionally pass by a non-mahram whose face reminds you of all the wonderful moments you've enjoyed together. [ ]
8πΉ Other couples' love stories can't make you feel jealous at all. Instead of feeling envious, noticing another wife thriving in her marriage inspires you to be even more loyal to your husband for Allah's sake. [ ]
9πΉ You're willing to relocate with your husband or work as his secretary or assistant if necessary. [ ]
10πΉ Chatting with your husband online and face to face is enjoyable, informative and beneficial, not boring or too toxic. [ ]
11πΉ You can visualize wanting a second wedding with your husband if ever you had to temporarily split up. You understand that it's possible to remarry your soulmate twice if Allah the Most Wise decrees it. [ ]
12πΉ You and your husband have at least three common goals, qualities or interests. [ ]
13πΉ You remember that you prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah before agreeing to marry your husband for Allah's sake. [ ]
14πΉ Earnestly you hope and look forward to seeing your husband become more successful as a dedicated Muslim, with Allah's Will, at the most ideal timing. [ ]
15πΉ It's easy for you to defend your husband and think of reasonable excuses to back him up whenever critics criticize him. [ ]
16πΉ Numerous times you've shed tears while mentioning your husband's name in loving Du'as. [ ]
17πΉ The fact that you can afford to let your husband remarry or be employed in a different city is one of the countless evidences of how much you truly love your soulmate for Allah's sake. [ ]
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π Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
π Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim