๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐ Eleven things, if your husband tries his best to do at least seven of them, then for Allah's sake don't be too quick to ask for divorce:
1] He strives to pray all the obligatory prayers regularly.
2] He enjoys reading and reciting from the Noble Qur'an, trying to reflect on Allah's Words whenever he can.
3] He loves praying in the Masjid and in congregation.
4] He treats his mother and father with genuine respect.
5] He is loving, cheerful and caring towards your child/children and his relatives.
6] He ensures that his job doesn't prevent him from carrying out his religious duties while he earns his income from lawful sources, avoiding ribaa (interest / usury) and gambling as much as possible.
7] He reminds you to value modesty for Allah's sake and offers kind advice whenever he notices you doing something wrong.
8] He is admirably capable of making you laugh and smile without being obnoxiously offensive to anybody.
9] He does what he can to get along with your family and refrains from speaking about them negatively.
10] He has noteworthy goals and lofty ambitions, including to dutifully care for a large Muslim family, to complete paying off his or a loved one's debts, and to perform Hajj as well as 'Umrah all to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
11] Although your husband may not always answer your calls and messages in a timely manner due to stress, preoccupation with work or unreliable internet connection, he actually puts effort into staying connected when he isn't busy and compliments you from time to time.
❎ Avoid these characteristics as they could lead to divorce:
1] Greed along with ingratitude - being unsatisfied with Allah's Qadr / Destiny, surrendering to envy and constantly wanting what other couples enjoy.
2] Selfishness - only being concerned with what you desire, while purposely ignoring your spouse's needs or not giving your husband his right to be legally married to up to four wives.
3] Impatience - lacking the determination to patiently wait for your husband's arrival, self-development and progress as a striving Muslim.
4] Suspicion - unfairly mistrusting your spouse without justifiable evidence.
5] Arrogance - not having enough empathy to understand your husband's circumstances, to hear him out and accept his apology.
6] Oversensitivity due to insecurities - instantly getting upset over trivial issues and making a big deal out of each other's past mistakes.
7] Unwarranted attachment to this worldly life and ignoring the main purpose of why Allah the Most Powerful created us, to worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely, not enslave ourselves to our nafs, soulmate or society.
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๐ Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."
Sunan Ibn Majah 2055
In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40
English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055
๐ Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
๐ Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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