Saturday, June 11, 2022

Tips: Genuine Friends Are Very Rare. Nine Signs That Someone Is Worthy Of Your Love For Allah's Sake.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Broken friendships usually occur when both of the friends have too much pride/kibr that they're unable to forgive one another. Other times it's because one of them was actually a "fake friend" and enemy in disguise. Inauthenticity, deceitfulness, unreliability, selfishness and intense jealousy eventually cause potential friends to drift apart. 
Just because somebody regularly chats with you late at night, often invites you to supposedly fun outings, or buys you drinks and snacks once in a while doesn't imply they're a trustworthy friend. For all you know, maybe they are only acting as though they care about you to collect more info about the company you're working in, to take advantage of your generosity, or to use you to stay connected to certain individuals whom they're more interested in networking with. The more "fake friends" you have, the more susceptible you are to wasting valuable time, money, gifts, emotions, and energy on people who may be more harmful to you than beneficial. It's better to be contented with at least one true friend (such as your spouse, parent or sibling/half-sibling) than to desperately want a connection with almost every soul whom Allah the Almighty decrees you'd meet. 
✅ The following are nine signs which indicate that a person is worthy of your true love for Allah's sake and you should try your best to avoid taking them for granted, as they could be a genuine friend: 
1] More than twice they have shared some useful links or announcements inviting you to join them to attend an Islamic seminar, class or online lecture. 
2] If you're both females, at least once they helped you fix your hijaab ensuring that no strand of hair is being shown or they remind you to wear your niqab when non-mahram males are around. If you are both males, they have invited you to pray on time with them at the Masjid numerous times, particularly to pray Salat Al-Jumuah and Tahajjud or the Taraweeh prayers during Ramadan. 
3] They always make sure that they answer your salaams, instead of being from those insecure individuals who respond to a Muslim's salaam only if they're well-acquainted or if they are in a good mood. 
4] They're not afraid to correct your mistakes and offer advice when you need counseling. Their usual way of advising is through sending you a direct message or one-on-one rather than scolding you publicly. 
5] They've informed you, at least once, online or face to face that they love you for Allah's sake or that you're one of those Muslims whom they regularly mention in their loving Du'as. 
6] They don't easily get offended by you, or they willingly forgive you for Allah's sake even if you haven't apologized yet. 
7] You know for sure that they really dislike gossip. Backbiting about mutual acquaintances is not something they typically enjoy doing. 
8] You can sense that they don't judge you at all by your outward appearance, your income and size of your residence. 
9] You have no problem describing them as "inspiring", "helpful", "caring", "supportive" and "understanding".
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  
📖 Ibn Hibban RahimahuAllah narrated that Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one who is silent, and one who is silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalaa 56