💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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📑 Eleven examples of instances when being patient, tough and thick-skinned for Allah's sake in marriage is necessary:
1] When your husband gives you instructions or answers your questions with a grumpy tone because he's feeling tired, stressed out, hungry, sleepy or depressed.
2] When your husband didn't buy you an item which you requested him to purchase because he forgot to do so or it was unavailable.
3] When your husband orders you to spend more time with him than with your friends, neighbors or colleagues, particularly if he arrived from another city and he hasn't seen you in a long time.
4] When your husband responds with "wear whatever, I don't care" or "it doesn't matter, they're all alike" if you ask him to choose which outfit to put on. Consider the fact that he's implying you are still beautiful regardless of your choice of clothing.
5] When your husband sometimes insists that you sit at the backseat of the car while you're normally seated at the front beside him, with or without a valid reason.
6] When your husband occasionally enters a room ahead of you or walks in front of you, while other more sensitive guys prefer to let the ladies go first. Perceive your husband's preference to walk before you as his style of ensuring that the place you're about to go to is safe, the coast is clear, and he's like a bodyguard or tour guide leading the way. Understand that not all men's personality and perceptions are entirely the same. Appreciate your husband's uniqueness.
7] When your husband once in a while remains silent after you've complained to him about some upsetting issues and he doesn't give you the kind of advice that you expected. Be contented that at least he was patient enough to listen to you. Know there could be a possibility that he lovingly mentions your name in his prayers and Du'as now and then.
8] When your husband criticizes your cooking, maintenance of your residence, spending habits, attitude, and/or how you bring up your child/children. Be strong enough to welcome criticism and view it as an opportunity to collect reminders for self-development.
9] When your husband seems much more cheerful, talkative or loving towards his mother and female relatives than with you on some days. Instead of worrying too much if you did something wrong to trigger his passive-aggressive side, confidently give him some space and don't be too annoyingly clingy so that he can miss you.
10] When your husband instructs you to stop talking so he can relax or focus on an important task. He has every right to enjoy quietude as much as you do.
11] When your husband leaves your most recent message on "seen" mode or his replies are too curt or delayed regularly. Try to sympathize with your husband's busyness and patiently anticipate better conversations with him
Inn-sha-Allah in Jannah Paradise where you and your spouse no longer deal with all sorts of tests, predicaments and vile insinuations from shaytan the real enemy.
To thrive, with Allah's Will, as your husband's loyal wife:
✅ More Taqwa,
More Du'as,
More faith/Imaan,
More patience/Sabr,
More gratitude/Shukr,
More empathy and understanding,
More eagerness to deserve Jannatul Ferdaus.
❎ Less ego,
Less urge to selfishly defend your pride / kibr / nafs,
Less complaints,
Less drama,
Less negativity,
Less or no toxic "friends" who envy your marriage,
And less attachment to dunya.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim