Monday, August 15, 2022

Tips: Detecting Actual Narcissists On Social Media

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

πŸ—’️ Five flagrant signs of actual narcissists on social media: 
1] They regularly upload content on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube which showcase their desire to become "famous" and connected with other "celebrities" or "social media influencers". It is obvious, through their vlogs or updates, that they are very materialistic, obsessed with broadcasting how much they get to enjoy this fleeting dunya, and desperate to prove their affluence or ability to afford expensive products despite claiming they advocate humility. 
2] They've made it clear somehow that they prefer secular education to learning more about Islam. Although Allah the Almighty has granted them so much wealth, they don't put a single effort into doing charity for Allah's sake, financially assisting the needy whenever they can, and/or sending their child/kids to an Islamic school. They're the kind of snobs who'd arrogantly look down on you if they discover that you haven't attained any degree, unaware of how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala cares more about the good deeds we strive to do for His sake than collecting degrees to impress society.
3] They treat their name as if it's a special "brand" and get easily offended if it's mispronounced, misspelled or omitted from a list of "VIPs". 
4] A lot of them narcissists would leave an online forum or group chat once they've had enough of not receiving the type of attention or preferential treatment they expect. They desperately need to feel widely recognized and appreciated, and they're prone to feeling depressed when their unreasonable expectations aren't met. 
5] While they eagerly crave your compliments, reassuring comments and words of encouragement from you on their Facebook page, YouTube channel or Instagram feed etc. ironically they've never, at least once, showed support for your values, projects or beliefs. Genuinely supporting others isn't easy for many narcissists to do because they aspire to outshine every individual they meet. 
✅ When dealing with narcissists: 
1] Don't take offense if they ignore you, dismiss your opinions or act disrespectful, particularly if they got bored by you not spoiling them with freebies and flattery. 
2] Don't behave as though you admire them mainly for their riches or "flawless" outward appearance. Doing so would only overinflate their gigantic ego. The bigger their pride / kibr, the more challenging it becomes for them to accept the truth, apologize when wrong, and welcome sincere advice.
3] Don't be surprised if they resort to despicable bullying, gossiping or the silent treatment to manipulate you into begging for their "friendship" or agreeing to doing something disagreeable they requested.
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πŸ“– Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim