💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📜 Question: What are some of your turn-offs, as a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ? Or list five things which if a person does would cause you to be completely disinterested in trying to befriend them?
📝 Answer: 1] If twice they proved to be unreliable and untrustworthy. If I requested them to do something and they obnoxiously show that they're unwilling to accomplish that task despite agreeing to fulfill it in the beginning, I decide if they have the potential to purposely break promises without a logical clarification, then they can never be trusted in the future, no matter how many times they claim to be sorry. I'd forgive them, yes, for Allah's sake but keep my distance as much as possible.
2] If I overhear them gossiping about me negatively or I catch them siding with a gossipmonger who's backbiting about me.
3] If a lot of their acts demonstrate they're uninterested in putting effort to learn more about Islam and seeking authentic knowledge about the correct belief 'Aqeedah, claiming they are too "busy" to attend regular Islamic classes or still ignorantly sharing links from questionable speakers. If they lack sincerity to rectify their mistakes as though they're infatuated with willful ignorance.
4] If I can sense that they despise any of my family members, particularly my beloved husband, and if they oppose my advocacy of polygyny. If they abhor the fact that I'm okay with Allah's Will to permit capable Muslim men to be married to up to four wives.
5] If it's very obvious that I don't feel safe and at ease around them. If their vibes bring discomfort because I can tell they're actually envious of me regardless of how often they act "approachable", they are unsupportive overall, and I can imagine them cowardly whining about me to others when I'm not around.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi