💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, one of the most unemotional types, how would you treat individuals who generally act friendly towards you while you recall those instances when you overheard them cowardly gossiping about you?
📝 Answer: Whether the unpleasant statements which they mentioned about me carry some truth, for example "she's so annoying; always expressing her opinions", "you're right, she does stink", or "I absolutely hate how she makes me feel inferior" etc. (as they either envy my marriage, Alhamdulillah, or they're ignorant of the ruling of backbiting in Islam) or whatever they often discuss among themselves are nonsensical lies such as falsely assuming I'm a "tomboy (dyke)" or a "self-entitled dictator" etc. I would:
1] Include them in a long list or category of individuals whom I can no longer trust or who are confirmed to be completely untrustworthy, so I keep my distance from them, as much as possible, almost in the same way as falcons would steer clear of flying around wolves and lions won't bother socializing with anacondas.
2] Continue displaying basic good manners towards them while refraining from attempting to develop the connection due to their untrustworthiness and awful addiction to backbiting about others.
3] Take most of their utterances and dubious info they share online with a grain of salt, aware that a lot of what they say could be nonsense and pretentious fabrications. If they promise or agree to do something, I wouldn't expect too much from them since they seem to be pros at being unreliable - in my opinion.
4] Imagine them as one of those products at some grocery stores which I'm uninterested in purchasing because they're irrelevant to my lifestyle choices and/or they are mostly a bad influence. Disliking them for Allah's sake doesn't necessitate that I discard them whenever I come across them, no, specially if I'm not the one managing the store. I'd simply walk past them, visualizing them as distractions or obstacles which aren't beneficial to me at all.
5] Regard them as examples of lousy behavior to avoid.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossiping, spreading rumors, and backbiting), consuming wealth, shedding blood (committing murder), and beating others. The oppressed (those whom they unfairly mistreated) will each be given from his good deeds. If his (the oppressor's) good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he (the oppressor who treated them wrongly) will be thrown into Jahannam/Hell."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2581
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari