Tips: Some Advice On How To Avoid Emotional Affairs And Adultery

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some advice to be so fiercely loyal to your husband for Allah's sake that even shaytan envies your determination and loyalty: 

1] Consistently remind yourself of all the good qualities and admirable features of your husband. Reminisce about the enjoyable moments you've had together and stay gratefully appreciative of all the kind favors he has done. 

2] Resolutely control your gaze and refrain from unnecessarily staring at non-mahram guys. 

3] Delete all male users from your Facebook friends list and avoid chatting with non-mahram males as much as possible. 

4] Minimize meaningless conversations with females also to shield yourself from getting too emotionally attached to somebody who isn't your spouse. Set your boundaries straight. 

5] Ensure that you don't put effort into looking good in front of strangers while purposely neglecting your appearance when your husband is around. Be a lot more concerned about how your husband sees you than how you appear to other individuals. 

6] With loving dedication, frequently include your husband in your wholehearted Du'as and sujood. Talk about your husband lovingly to Allah the Almighty much more regularly than you mention other Muslims who aren't closely related. 

7] Stubbornly ignore online and offline content which could negatively impact the love you have for your husband. Unapologetically unfriend or unfollow and discontinue building connections with anybody who has the potential to get in the way of your beautifully destined marriage. 

8] Whenever you notice someone who is seemingly attractive, immediately divert your attention and recall that you're already blissfully married. Diminish unwanted feelings of attraction for them by recalling their unappealing traits and awful acts they did in the past. 

9] Visualize gaining plus points and rewards every time you successfully prove that you're indeed your husband's loyal wife. Steadfastly remain contented with the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your other half and soulmate.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

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Tips: How To Behave Towards Somebody Who Is Jealous Of You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ What to do when you realize that somebody's misconduct and mistreatment emphasize they're jealous of you: 

1] As much as possible keep your distance from them online and offline. Quit stalking their social media accounts, being interested in what they have to say and socializing with them unnecessarily. 

2] Don't trust them at all, even if they act cheerful and approachable towards you. 

3] Never tell them about your dreams nor ask them for advice. 

4] Never be affected by their criticism, complaints and jokes about you. Understand that their efforts to annoy you could indicate they're struggling with feeling insecure, jealously threatened or inadequate. 

5] Never confide in them about your worries, problems and secrets. Envious individuals may misuse the information you share for mockery or gossip.

6] If they ever borrow money and items from you, don't expect a timely response or the item they borrowed being returned in its proper condition. Good manners and loyalty are not to be expected from those who can't restrain themselves from envying other Muslims.

7] Feel sorry for them. Their discontentment with Allah's Justice and Wisdom is probably why they're unhappy inwardly. You don't need to get back at someone who's dealing with misery when they're already insulting themselves through jealousy.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: When Some Gossip/Backbite About You, They Also Give You Some Of Their Good Deeds

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 To the people whose mouths mentioned me negatively,

Who kept themselves busy with backbiting jealously,

Who joked about me in my absence and when near me:

Thanks for taking my sins. Thank you for all your good deeds.

~•~

Being spoken of badly is from Allah's Mercy,

When rewards are sent to my account effortlessly,

When sins I've done previously disappear easily -

Each time I'm ridiculed by those guilty of envy.

~•~

I know I'm not perfect, and I'm a threat to many,

I admit people's thoughts are not my reality.

Hence I don't backbite, even critics and enemies,

Since gossip is nonsense and shows instability.

~•~

The morally unstable, weak emotionally,

And sadly insecure are more likely gossipy.

Instead of saying Dhikr and Du'as fruitfully,

They sacrifice some good deeds to ease their jealousy.

~•~

Weren't they brought up to treat others respectfully?

Don't they know that being rude proves they're jealous clearly,

And their life doesn't improve by making people weep?

Broken things can't get fixed by causing beings to bleed.

~•~

Seeing how I was taught to preserve true dignity,

I minimize chit-chatting with people needlessly,

Replacing them with moments to self-reflect wisely,

Content with Qur'an reading to keep me company.

~•~

In an era when most are confirmed untrustworthy,

It's best to isolate, learn from afar carefully,

And leave gossipers with negative mentality,

To rely on Allah Only Who knows us truly.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know who is the bankrupt?" They said, “The one without money or goods is the bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander (gossipping, falsely accusing and spreading rumors), consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, “Allah and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) know best." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is to mention your brother in a way that he dislikes." It was said, "What do you think if what I said about him is true?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If what you say about him is true, it is backbiting. If it is not true, it is slander."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2589

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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