💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Five tactics of jealous females and "adult" (yet emotionally immature) bullies to disrupt your self-esteem:
1] Deliberately doing whatever they can to make you feel like an outcast, denying you from participating in their group activities without a sensible reason, and frequently excluding you from gatherings in which mutual acquaintances were invited to.
2] Talking loudly amongst themselves as they narrate random stories on how they enjoyed a get-together, desperately wanting you to feel as though you're missing out on their toxic companionship.
3] Eagerly gossiping about your flaws and mistakes, while remaining quiet with deep-seated jealousy whenever you express gratitude to Allah the Almighty for some achievements or when you do something commendable.
4] Purposely lying to you on a regular basis, breaking promises and making you feel excited for certain plans only to cancel them later on to fool around with your emotions, desperate to see you feel depressed, less productive and less motivated to achieve your goals.
5] Treating you disrespectfully, ignoring your greetings, and leaving most of your messages on "seen" mode when they find the opportunity to distress you. Their intense envy of you is what provokes them to treat you rudely.
Since witnessing that you're better than them in many ways makes them feel insecure, they'd do whatever they can to bring you down to their low level. Abstain from disrespecting yourself by refusing to copy their lousy acts and don't bother spreading rumors about them, just as lions wouldn't alter the way they sound to match the braying of donkeys and eagles don't surrender their wings to imitate chimpanzees obsessed with swinging around branches of trees.
✅ When dealing with "grown-up" bullies:
1] Avoid instantly believing in their lies and fakery. Whatever story they forward to you shouldn't be taken too seriously.
2] Completely unfollow their social media posts and refrain from interacting with them unnecessarily.
3] For Allah's sake, treat them with general courtesy without feeling compelled to become artificial besties with chronic liars. Keep your distance from anybody who is untrustworthy and whose rudeness confirms they're understandably envious of you.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim