💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, what would your actual reaction be if your husband informed you that he already signed some documents to agree on talaaq / divorce?
📝 Answer: 1] Firstly I'd patiently accept that his request for separation was willed and decreed by Allah the Almighty, and as a Muslim I should try my best to avoid questioning Allah's Destiny. I'd still let him know that if ever he wishes to reconcile so we can, with Allah's Will, have a second marriage (even until a third marriage) in the future then I would lovingly welcome him with open arms.
2] I'm definitely not one of those females who'd desperately search for another guy to marry when divorced. If ever my husband asked for a divorce, I would insist on finding ways to discuss the issue with him, solve the problem, and even encourage him to marry another woman without him needing to leave me.
3] I would assume or imagine that he is acting strange because he's under some kind of "spell", black magic or sorcery, or his odd conduct resulted from the negative influence of the evil eye / "ayn", or simply some awfully jealous individuals and nosy outsiders are the ones coercing him to declare that he has decided to divorce - maybe because they want him to marry somebody else or they assume that we are "incompatible" out of sheer envy.
4] If ever it was official that I'd be a divorcee, I would still have hope, unyielding determination, and firm trust in Allah the Most Wise, asking Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to bring back to me the man whom He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wisely chose as my spouse and soulmate at the most ideal timing. I'd recall the special love stories of several Muslim couples, whom I am acquainted with personally, and admire how those wives remained loyal and remarried some time after a temporary split-up. I'd rather obstinately reject all the marriage proposals of willing suitors and faithfully wait for a remarriage with my first husband, even if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destines that our second marriage occurs in our fifties or seventies.
5] If I were a divorcee, particularly one who still won't give up on her ex-husband and who's eagerly praying for another wedding with him, I would actively, as much as possible, avoid mingling with females who are unduly proud of being either married or divorced, while unapologetically staying away from online content which advocate impatience and illogical divorce. A broken family isn't something to celebrate from my perspective, and, in my opinion, a woman never truly loved her husband if she won't fight at all for their love to continue until Jannah Paradise.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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