💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📑 Five thoughts to reflect on to deal with removal from online forums or chat groups like a boss, to not feel affected when some users delete you as a "participant" and "member":
1] Alhamdulillah for so many years I've been capable of thriving without them. Why should I worry at all if these individuals who are too different from me don't want me around them? I'm not a clingy leech nor adhesive item.
2] Whether they deleted me on purpose or mistakenly, I can
Inn-sha-Allah contentedly benefit and learn from other communities, websites and content which are way more deserving of my time and attention. If a chat group goes bye-bye, there are still tons of resources and alternatives which we can learn from.
3] I totally understand how if I were the host or administrator of a chat group, I would delete users whom I perceive are acting inappropriately, being obnoxiously idle, or going against group harmony. It's their right to cancel my "membership" if my presence mostly worsens their inward misery. I don't intend to be a troublemaker and bully.
4] I like to think of insecure individuals who deliberately go out of their way to exclude you every so often as "jealous" - justifiably envious of how Allah the Almighty blessed you with several gifts and blessings which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't grant them. For instance, they envy how you're dedicated, loyal to your spouse and/or creative while they are ethically below average or unproductive, or they struggled with lousy upbringing while your beloved parents are loving and well-educated.
5] It's not a crisis if some individuals can't welcome you to a group or gathering. You'd probably do the same thing to somebody whose language is incomprehensible to you or whose actions seem uncomfortably confusing.
Maintaining a strong or special connection with Allah the Most Wise is a lot more meaningful and rewarding than wanting approval from His imperfect servants.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim