๐ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
๐️ Some advice from an INTJ personality type on how to remain unaffected, unfazed and indifferent when you overhear several individuals talking badly about you while walking past them:
1] If the negative remarks you overheard are accurate or there is an ounce of truth in them such as "bossy monster incoming", "nasty lady" or "eww, I hate that person a lot", with confidence embrace the current facts sarcastically, use their cowardly passive-aggressive feedback to strengthen your personality, and inwardly laugh at how pathetic, immature and unhappy they are in reality. Their gigantic load of unresolved problems and ugly insecurities could explain why they felt so desperate to offend you indirectly so they can feel less ignorant, less inadequate and less threatened all because of jealousy.
A fictional donkey may loudly whine about how falcons and eagles are terrible vertebrates just to distract itself from its debilitating distress regarding inability to fly. An individual who frequently opens their big mouth to criticize you as you pass by is likely emotionally wounded and struggling with self-hatred from inside.
2] If what they said is an absolute lie or can't describe you accurately, for instance they perceive you as "arrogant", a "greedy golddigger" or "dyke in denial", then simply say this to yourself "Whatever. They obviously don't know me, and I do not care at all about them nor their absurdities. They're full of lies, lies upon lies, on top of lies."
If you were a self-assured lion, you wouldn't take it personally if a tiny ant or annoying mosquito labels you "bumblebee".
The stronger your trust is in Allah the Almighty and the more you're blessed with self-awareness and self-esteem, the less prone you are in feeling offended easily.
3] Wholeheartedly supplicate to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala against those who treated you unpleasantly, especially if you believe that their nonsense was uncalled-for and presented unjustly.
Inn-sha-Allah you can witness Allah's Justice taking place at the timing that's most ideal.
4] Ingeniously twist the way you view their supposed insults. If someone described you as "stupid", imagine that word being an abbreviation for "Smartly Trying to Understand People and Interested in Development". Admit that while you occasionally make mistakes, you gladly learn from your errors and others' faults.
If by some strangers you're perceived as "too selfish, boring and self-centered", realize that they could be stating those to catch your attention which they probably lacked when they were younger, and their parents did an awful job at educating them about the importance of good manners.
5] You're welcome to confront them regarding their obnoxious acts only if you believe that they're intelligent enough to not misinterpret your self-respect and there is more likelihood that the majority of the people in your environment would take your side instead of perceiving you as the bully. Confidently walk away from invitations to partake in pointless drama and stubbornly ignore the mockery of toxic individuals if doing so is wiser and more effective in avoiding fitna.
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๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (not rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih
Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:
"Beware of the supplication of the oppressed (Du'a against the oppressive person), for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890
๐ Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
