📝 To those who are not my family and relatives,
While they themselves witness they're experts at foul gossip
And acting like they're kind while they're actually selfish,
Often threatening to leave like a vain narcissist,
And guessing I'll be upset when they "play hard to get":
~•~
Trust me when I say this: When I call it quits, I quit -
If you think I'll "cry over" the death of this "friendship",
I'd respond "what friendship? Such bond never did exist.
True friendship isn't built just through the exchange of gifts,
But by sharing the same goals and staying supportive,
~•~
By having meaningful convos with every visit,
Ensuring that each other's faith and name are shielded,
Protected from the toxic, negative and jealous,
And by fighting ugly pride so both sides can forgive.
Yes, while I forgive you, to me, you can't be trusted.
~•~
Now if I don't trust you, not even a single bit,
By your acts and claims I'm not easily affected,
And it won't surprise me when you break more promises -
Because I'm used to it - the fact you can't be trusted,
And whenever you act out, I know you're just jealous.
~•~
Even if you drive a car, even if you're "so rich",
And even if you "enjoy" lots of outings and trips
With other similarly sensitive narcissists,
I won't regret discontinuing this fake "friendship"
Since your disconnection gives space to much better gifts -
~•~
Special gifts from Allah, blessings countless and obvious
In seeking and implementing Islamic knowledge,
Far away from invented lies, nonsense and gossip.
You're older than me and supposed to be mature yet
If you stood near monkeys they'd seem more educated.
~•~
If your bad vibes mostly cause me to be distracted,
And each time you're nearby I feel equally stupid,
Ignorant, immature, childish or inauthentic,
Then in your companionship I'm uninterested.
We don't talk much nowadays - that's the way I like it."
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah (The Almighty), hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim