Sunday, December 31, 2023

Tips: Some Reasons Why Some People Can't Compliment

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
πŸ“ Seven reasons why a person (whether they're a relative, friend, schoolmate, teacher or colleague etc.) so far has never complimented you about anything - they are incapable of sharing with you words which are kind and uplifting: 
1πŸ”Ή They themselves until now have never received certain compliments, not even from their parents. If an insecure individual has never been told they look handsome or beautiful, what makes you assume they'll readily give away compliments on others' appearance with confidence? 
2πŸ”Ή They're undeniably guilty of intense envy. Someone who envies you for whatever reason would find it awfully challenging to say something nice to you or about you.
3πŸ”Ή They fail to understand the concept of kindness probably due to ignorance and/or lousy upbringing.
4πŸ”Ή Perhaps whatever you think they should be complimenting on appears average or nothing new to them because they've seen something similar already or numerous times. Whether they're the sort of person who doesn't feel "impressed" easily or they expected a lot more from you, always remind yourself that we're here to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of expecting approval from fellow servants.
5πŸ”Ή If they generally struggle with social anxiety disorder or extreme shyness, it can be very difficult for them to verbally express their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
6πŸ”ΉIf they're actual narcissists, it's not a surprise that they tend to be so selfish when it comes to sincerely complimenting and spreading good vibes. They refuse to compliment you since they believe that you should be the one to soothe their agitated ego.
7πŸ”Ή Simply put they don't want to appear as though they're "flirting" with you or they don't want to seem questionable, inappropriate or manipulative.
πŸ“– Abdullah Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was upon the pulpit mentioning charity and abstaining from begging. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand. The upper hand is the one that gives and the lower hand is the one that takes."
Source: Sahih Bukhari 1362 Sahih Muslim 1033
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
πŸ“– Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not belittle any good deed, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2626
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity is due upon every joint of the people for every day upon which the sun rises. Justly reconciling two people is charity. Helping a man with his animal (or vehicle, means of transportation) and lifting his luggage upon it is charity. A kind word is charity. Every step that you take towards the mosque (Masjid) is charity, and removing harmful things from the road is charity."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2989, Sahih Muslim 1009
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim