Sunday, February 5, 2023

Tips: Checklist To Determine How Trustworthy You Can Be

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Checklist to determine how trustworthy you actually are or strive to be: 
1] You're generally not greedy nor self-entitled. When you notice there are several items being distributed for free, you don't excitedly go after them nor do you feel so upset if you couldn't receive those freebies. You are contented with the blessings which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to grant you and at times you believe that others may require certain things a lot more than you do. [    ]
2] When you have a surplus of something, you're willing to share some of it with a number of your loved ones instead of keeping it all selfishly to yourself. And when sharing, you do so only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not wanting anything specific in return from Allah's servants. [    ] 
3] You try your best to make sure that whenever you borrow an amount of money or any item from someone, you return it in its good condition and as promptly as you can, rather than intentionally delaying it or acting as if you forgot about it. Having debts is something you're trying to avoid. [    ]
4] You intensely despise gossip and refrain from backbiting about others as much as possible. Making sarcastic jokes at the expense of another Muslim and human being is something you also don't enjoy. [    ] 
5] You're not afraid or too prideful to directly apologize when you are aware that you did something wrong or unfair. [    ] 
6] You dislike wasting time socializing with individuals who have proven to be untruthful and untrustworthy. Once you discover someone's true colors or deceitfulness, you readily dissociate yourself from their negative vibes and atrocious lies. [    ] 
7] You'd rather give frank and constructive feedback, regardless of people's emotions, when asked for your opinions than to sugarcoat your words or pretend to fancy something which you don't really find appealing. [    ]
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhāri 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823
Sahih Muslim 1735
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: Are There Ways To Determine How Trustworthy A Person Is?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 If you asked me, "How can I be sure that someone is 
Trustworthy? How to determine they can be trusted?" 
I would say: You can't be sure. Even Allah's Prophets ('alaihim as-salaam) 
Dealt with critics and opponents who were dishonest. 
From those who faced betrayal were Jacob and Joseph ('alaihimas salaam).
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Joseph's half-siblings betrayed him as they were jealous. 
They lied to their father Jacob with selfish motives. 
If you can guarantee that some friends are devoid of 
Envy and selfishness, maybe they can be trusted, 
As long as they actively stay away from gossip.
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Notice the people you talk to often - what topics
Do they discuss? Do they make fun of others' defects 
And cowardly backbite as if they are so "perfect"? 
Never trust somebody who regularly gossips 
And lacks self-control. They're pros at breaking promises.
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Qualities to expect from those who can be trusted: 
They serve Only Allah and don't fear the created, 
While striving to acquire knowledge that is authentic.  
Consistent in their ethics, careful with their choices, 
And when they're wrong they're sincerely apologetic.
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Being connected for many years shouldn't suggest
That a person can be trusted especially if 
They have a tendency to forget and get tempted. 
Patiently accept that most people can't be trusted. 
Remain trustworthy even if no soul trusts you yet.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56