🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, how do you usually deal with insecure individuals trying their utmost to make you feel "jealous" of them?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, since I truly believe that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who gives what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants to whom He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wills from among His creation and there's always wisdom behind what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destines, I can confidently confirm that envy is a pathetic feeling which I don't allow myself to act on, particularly if it undoubtedly indicates that an envious person is undeniably discontented with themselves.
When I sense that some emotionally disturbed individuals are desperately doing what they can to make me "envy" whatever they assume is "enviable":
1. ...I intentionally refrain from giving them full attention, so I never visit any of their social media accounts after their initial discovery nor do I give them proper eye contact whenever they're around. So if a shopper for some strange reason wants me to "envy" them, I simply focus on my own items bought and don't bother taking a single glimpse at their purchases nor nosily gaze for more than a millisecond at whatever they're wearing.
And if a troublesome acquaintance, known for frequently attempting to make me feel as "terribly jealous" as they are, wishes that I notice their new hairdo, I actively abstain from saying anything positive or negative about it.
There's a massive difference between kindly complimenting a Muslim for Allah's sake because you genuinely like what they have or can do, and between flattering somebody who only wants you to feel "envious" so their offended ego can be at peace.
2. ...I don't bother asking them further questions regarding whatever it is that they're trying to make me feel "jealous" about. Prolonging meaningless conversations with prideful narcissists and egoistic clowns who obtain "self-validation" from absurdly assuming you're "jealous" of them should be avoided for Allah's sake as much as possible to preserve your well-being and inner calm.
3. ...I don't take most of their claims and statements seriously, because those who are so desperate to make you "envy" their lives probably likewise struggle with intense jealousy from time to time, and anyone prone to destructive envy is typically untrustworthy.
Whenever someone tries to make you feel "jealous"...
1✅ Stay unaffected and let them know you are absolutely uninterested in their idiocies while you're fully aware of their insecurities.
2✅ Never regard them as potential friends or confidants.
3✅ Even if they sometimes gossip about you or narrate to you about something, understand that they're likely inventing lies which don't always require feedback or immediate reaction from you.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (The Almighty)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a (true believer) believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith (Imaan) are never combined in the heart of a (real Muslim) servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
