Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (123)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: AI Generated "Letters To Myself" - Just For Fun

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

💡 Interesting prompt. Ask ChatGPT to make two letters, one starts with "Dear me" and the other begins with "To myself as I grow older". Analyze the outcomes based on past questions you typed with the same account using ChatGPT (Note: Not a must to take it seriously, but much of the results seem to carry some significant advice):

1. “Dear Me” — present, grounded, and determined

Dear Me,

You have never been particularly concerned with whether people think you are unusual. You do not embarrass easily, and you have never needed a crowd to validate your decisions. You would rather quietly do what you believe is right than perform for people who may forget you tomorrow.

Keep that.

You are an INTJ-A 1w9: independent in thought, demanding of yourself, principled, analytical, and naturally inclined to improve whatever you believe can be improved. But remember that being strong does not mean you must carry everything alone.

You are married to an ESFJ 3w2—a man whose strengths are very different from yours. He may care deeply about people, relationships, recognition, achievement, and making others feel valued, while you may be more comfortable with independence, privacy, systems, and long-term plans. Do not waste your marriage wishing that he had your personality. Learn to appreciate what his differences bring into your life, just as you hope he appreciates what yours brings into his.

And as for money: do not be ashamed of wanting more halal income.

You do not want wealth merely to display it.

You want the freedom to help.

You want to reach a point where giving zakah is something you can do with gratitude rather than something you merely hope to be able to afford. You want to contribute to Islamic causes, assist people in need, support worthwhile projects, give sadaqah, and quietly solve problems when Allah gives you the means.

So take the side hustles seriously.

Learn. Improve. Offer useful services. Work online. Build skills. Accept small beginnings. A modest income earned honestly is still honorable, and a small amount consistently given for Allah's sake can become enormous in reward.

Do not despise ₱3,000 simply because it is not ₱30,000.

Today it may be a side hustle.

Tomorrow it may become another skill.

Eventually, Allah may open doors you cannot currently see.

You do not need to become obsessed with money. You need to become capable of using money well.

Keep your standards.

Keep your modesty.

Keep your independence.

Keep your sense of humor.

Keep your ability to walk away from pointless drama.

But also keep your heart soft.

Do not allow disappointment with people to make you stingy with goodness. Do not allow difficult people to convince you that generosity is foolish. Give because Allah sees it—not because people deserve your gratitude in return.

Build quietly.

Earn halal.

Save wisely.

Give generously.

And never forget why you wanted the money in the first place.

Not to impress people.

To have more to give for Allah's sake.

Love,
Me

2. “To Myself as I Grow Older” — looking toward the woman you want to become

To Myself as I Grow Older,

I hope that by the time you read this, you have become the kind of woman you once prayed to become—not necessarily richer, more impressive, or more admired, but more useful.

I hope you built something.

Perhaps several things.

I hope you experimented with side hustles, learned skills you once thought were beyond you, worked with people from different backgrounds, and discovered that your ability to analyze, organize, communicate, and solve problems could become a means of earning halal rizq.

I hope you never felt embarrassed about starting small.

You were never easily embarrassed anyway.

You have always been quite capable of looking at something unconventional and simply thinking, “Does it work? Is it halal? Is it beneficial?” If the answer was yes, you could get on with it regardless of what people thought.

I hope you retained that courage.

I hope you also became financially capable enough to experience the beautiful responsibility of giving.

Perhaps there was a time when you dreamed about joining those who could comfortably calculate their zakah, pay it, and then continue looking for opportunities to give sadaqah.

I hope that dream became reality.

And when it did, I hope you remembered the smaller beginnings.

Remember the little jobs.

Remember the modest payments.

Remember every time you wondered whether your effort was worth it.

Remember that Allah can place barakah in something that looks insignificant to people.

I hope you became a woman who does not merely ask, “How much can I earn?”

I hope you learned to ask:

“How much good can Allah allow me to accomplish with what He gives me?”

I hope your marriage also grew wiser with age.

Your husband is an ESFJ 3w2, and you are an INTJ-A 1w9. You were never going to approach life exactly the same way. Perhaps you learned to laugh about those differences instead of analyzing every one of them.

I hope you learned when to offer a solution and when to simply listen.

I hope you learned that affection does not always arrive in the form you would naturally give it.

And I hope you never underestimated the value of having someone beside you whose strengths complement your own.

As you grow older, I hope you become increasingly difficult to disturb—not because you stopped caring, but because you finally learned what deserves your energy.

May petty criticism become background noise.

May unnecessary drama become beneath your attention.

May other people's opinions become lighter.

May your relationship with Allah become stronger.

May your love for reading from the Noble Qur'an become much closer to your heart.

May your wealth become a tool rather than an identity.

May your knowledge become beneficial.

May your work become a means of rizq.

May your rizq become a means of zakah and sadaqah.

And may you eventually look back and realize that the goal was never simply to become a successful woman.

It was to become a useful servant of Allah who happened to be given opportunities, skills, a marriage, income, intelligence, time, and resources—and tried to use them well.

Older me, if Allah has given you abundance, don't become attached to it.

Give.

If Allah has given you knowledge, teach.

If Allah has given you influence, use it responsibly.

If Allah has given you strength, protect those who need protection.

If Allah has given you little, give from the little.

And if Allah has given you much, remember that much means much responsibility.

You do not need to be remembered by everyone.

You only need your deeds to be accepted by Allah.

May the older version of you be wiser without becoming colder, wealthier without becoming attached to wealth, stronger without becoming harsh, and more generous without ever seeking applause.

Keep building. Keep giving. Keep your principles. Keep your heart soft.
(Inn-sha-Allah)
— The woman who is becoming you"

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (122)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: Financial Struggles Are Temporary Tests From Allah The Most Wise

In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Around 2000 pesos for one night was never used when I booked a room in a subdivision or condominium near SM Mall of Asia when we traveled to Manila several months ago. Another large amount of money was wasted when I booked for a hotel which had numerous branches around Manila (not mentioning its name so I wouldn't be a basher nor do I want to indirectly advertise it) and spent a considerable amount of money on a number of Grab cars because the first taxi went to the wrong branch and another sent us to another incorrect branch etc. so minus 200 and another 200 something etc. 300 or something pesos was lent to somebody who asked if they could borrow that amount but they only returned a tiny portion of it which triggered me to block them afterwards since they couldn't be trusted as they wouldn't return the amount they promised to send back despite my effort to help promote their pastils business.

Then this morning 200 pesos was sent to a person likely pretending to be a popular VA coach. It was my fault for not carefully analyzing their Facebook profile - after I sent them 200 via GCash I noticed they have less than 7 online friends and their English is terrible. A lot of virtual assistants and freelancers would avoid grammatical mistakes when speaking in English and this user didn't seem to be fluent in English at all. Whether they're a scammer or not, I've decided to avoid attending any more online workshops for VA training when there are loads of videos uploaded on YouTube for free with tips on how to utilize various websites and tools which many virtual assistants and freelancers utilize.

However, I still recommend the online courses of a Tausug VA coach brother Zoulkifli. Even if his training consisting of 12 sessions 3 times a week may cost 1500 pesos if one enrolls individually and 900 pesos for each trainee if one registers with a group of at least five members, his online workshop is worth the price, particularly it includes certification.

Those who are interested in enrolling can Inn-sha-Allah register through me so I can pay a portion of their registration fee (1449 instead of 1500 and 870 instead of 900 pesos) and they receive my sample answers to the module's activities to give them some ideas on how to answer the assignments.

📝Quick lessons learned to share (and these are probably so obvious to many):
1. Before sending any amount via GCash to any stranger, double check the number of the recipient and analyze the user's profile. Lack of online friends or low number of friends may generally indicate fake or dummy accounts.
2. To reduce the impact of disappointment or frustration whenever you're going through certain challenges in this temporary life, always remember that there are plenty of others who were also scammed and lost large amounts of money because of some greedy liars whom Allah the Most Wise will Inn-sha-Allah deal with justly at the most ideal timing in this world and the afterlife.
3. Wanting too much of something when you already have something similar to it could at times be detrimental or disastrous. We can Inn-sha-Allah apply gratitude and contentment instead of always wanting more - more online courses which aren't free, more attempts to buy products in other countries for reselling etc.

Note: Sometimes Allah the Most Merciful decrees some amount of money to disappear from our lives to check if we're attached to this temporal dunya or if we truly prefer Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. May Allah the Almighty replace all the things we lost in the past and present with blessings of actual value, ease all our circumstances and grant us only what's best for us in both worlds. Ameen.

https://www.troid.org/understanding-wealth-and-poverty-in-islam/

Some lessons learned shared by AI:

Verify a person's identity before sending money.

Research online profiles carefully.

Be cautious of newly created or suspicious social media accounts.

Trust should be earned, not assumed.

Keep records of financial transactions.

Avoid making rushed financial decisions.

Plan travel carefully to avoid unnecessary expenses.

Confirm hotel locations before booking or traveling.

Double-check addresses before taking transportation.

Lending money always carries risk.

Only lend money you can afford to lose.

Broken trust often costs more than money.

Learn from mistakes instead of dwelling on them.

Small losses can teach valuable life lessons.

Free educational resources can sometimes be as valuable as paid ones.

Paid courses should be chosen based on reputation and proven quality.

Certifications have greater value when backed by credible instructors.

Compare alternatives before making purchases.

Avoid emotional spending.

Gratitude reduces unnecessary desires.

Contentment can protect against impulsive decisions.

Financial setbacks build wisdom when reflected upon.

Not everyone online is who they claim to be.

Scammers often rely on people's trust and urgency.

Patience helps overcome disappointment.

Justice may not be immediate, but wrongdoers remain accountable.

Faith / Imaan and strong connection with our Only God and Creator Allah the Almighty can provide comfort during financial losses.

Material wealth is temporary.

Every setback can become an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/financial-struggles-temporary-tests-from-allah-most-wise-mababaya-y3ejc

Note: College Degrees Are Not Obligatory To Reach And Deserve Jannah Paradise

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Just sharing some links in response to those individuals who assume that my brothers and I completely dropped out of high school and don't hold any degree:
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2024/04/note-my-educational-background-ma.html

https://www.arabnews.com/node/233528/1000

Something which a lot of people don't know is that our dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen), with our dear mother being the first female at her university UP Diliman who attained a doctorate degree in education (based on a really old cut out piece of a newspaper or journal with a photo of my dear mother - Allah yarhamha. Ameen. and I'm not purposely making this up Alhamdulillah) while our dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen) received his PhD degree in University of Westminster in London (United Kingdom) they managed an online university for some time associated with MSU working alongside Dr Norma Sharief (Allah yarhamha. Ameen) until they passed away and the online university couldn't be continued.

One of my dear mom's dreams is to establish an Islamic university in the Philippines, while another dream of hers was to provide authentic Islamic education for absolutely free. Her latter dream MashaAllah is amazing yes, but truthfully we can't offer completely free education because our teachers and faculty members need to earn as well. May Allah the Almighty have mercy on our dear parents, reunite us with them in Jannatul Ferdaus, decree that someday at the most ideal timing there would be some prestigious and recognized Islamic university in the Philippines offering online courses particularly for busy Muslims and increase us in wisdom. Ameen.

Honestly I also believe that one can be very successful in both worlds Inn-sha-Allah even if they don't hold any college degree. Actually I believe that even a Muslim who never went to high school but they sincerely memorized the whole of the Noble Qur'an, word for word, and they are dedicated in applying the beautiful teachings from the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah is more than a gazillion times better than me in many ways. The beloved Prophet and Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't go to high school nor college yet undoubtedly he's the best of all human beings due to his strong admirable connection with our Only God and Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and his exemplary, noteworthy and dignified character.

Next time some jokers arrogantly laugh at you for trying to lead an organization or institute without holding any degree, confidently remain unaffected and refrain from giving them too much attention. In other words, don't take their fallacious criticism seriously nor stalk their online content to preserve our overall well-being. There are some instances though when we need to clarify ourselves because allowing arrogant people to remain deluded by their erroneous assumptions could carry more disadvantages than benefits, specifically if they can't stop spreading rumors that could lead to any sort of division, disunity or misunderstanding.

mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com

https://abukhadeejah.com/understand-your-place-in-the-world-if-you-work-righteous-deeds-and-obey-allah-and-messenger-find-salvation-paradise/

www.linkedin.com/in/mariammababaya

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/193DFTt8ma/

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (121)

  بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

ANNOUNCEMENT: Online Tutorial Classes Inn-sha-Allah Available In English Language (learn with sister Mariam Mababaya - MA Islamic Studies)

In The Name Of Allah

The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

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Poem: Dear Sisters In Islam, How Are You, Really?

In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

A poem with some advice written at around three - 

Three A.M. last third of the night, today June twenty,

With Allah's Will, not with AI nor dictionary, 

Intended for every Muslim whether he or she 

Is married, widowed, still single, or a divorcee:

~•~

May Allah's Peace be with you as well as His Mercy,

Dear Muslim, how are you, honestly and truthfully?

After yesterday and the earthquakes which recently 

Occured with Allah's Absolute Wisdom and Decree?

After all the stress and frequent insufficient sleep?

~•~

To answer the question "how are you?", most would likely 

Repeat "I'm fine, Alhamdulillah" while inwardly 

They may feel tired - mentally or emotionally,

And physically. If I were to define "fatigue",

I'd say: "increase in overwhelm, decreased energy..."

~•~

"...Needing more naps, feeling like one's sleep is incomplete,

Forgetting certain facts at times, inability 

To focus when one is praying due to frequently 

Worrying, which results in lacking tranquility - 

Stress is like a star gaining swift popularity...

~•~

Despite advanced technology, fatigue readily 

Greets us now and then as if it's something humans need."

Indeed, it's something we require occasionally,

If through it supplications and Adhkaar are increased,

And each Muslim's level of faith Imaan is revealed.

~•~

Ever felt tired of dealing with people who deceive?

Tired of trusting some loved ones or colleagues who conceal 

Bad intentions, assumptions and intense jealousy?

Tired of too many tasks and responsibilities,

Obstacles here and there, many inconsistencies?

~•~

Tired of waiting for clients to accept your CV,

Willing to work extra hours while many are asleep,

Eager to join those qualified to do charity?

Tired of dishes piling up, competing with laundry?

Tired of betrayal while you strive to be trustworthy?

~•~

Tired of trying to stay awake just to oversleep?

Tired of planning to lose weight only to overeat?

Tired of countless expectations from your family,

Growing number of events in your community,

Or rumors spread about you all because of envy?

~•~

Tired of teaching slow learners who disrespect or tease?

Tired of commuting almost daily on noisy streets?

Tired of multitasking while you babysit, breastfeed,

Or help kids do assignments which seem to never cease?

Tired of news of the oppressed while watching passively?

~•~

What kind of fatigue do you feel? Tell me, honestly.

Physical or mental? Not spiritual, hopefully?

The kind that makes you guess "maybe it's ADHD"?

Or some gave you the evil eye or did sorcery?

Regardless of what kind, fatigue is temporary.

~•~

We're human beings with limited capacity 

To do each task and achieve every goal flawlessly.

In this imperfect dunya, expect difficulties,

Different setbacks, distractions and bold enemies.

Maintain strong connection with Allah to shun defeat.

~•~

From Surah Al-'Asr we learn that those who believe 

In Allah the Almighty, steadfastly do good deeds, 

And remain patient are the ones from humanity 

Who in this world and the next attain true victory,

Calling all to the truth and patience similarly.

~•~

Recall that time when Fatima (RadhiAllahu 'anha) complained of fatigue 

To her father Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and asked if she

Could have a helper of her own but she just received 

Advice to thank Allah more, say Adhkaar frequently.

~•~

We can't always rely on people to fight fatigue,

As humans tend to get tired or sick eventually.

Their energy levels don't stay high eternally,

Often they may lose motivation or become weak -

So let's depend on Allah. Allah's Help we must seek.

~•~

Stress and tiredness are excellent opportunities 

To read the Noble Qur'an, enjoying inner peace,

And to pray more Sunnah prayers with humility - 

Pray Salat Ad-Duha and Tahajjud when many

Choose to sleep or busy themselves with matters worldly.

~•~

Trust me, the more we mention Allah's Names, the more we

Enjoy serenity mentally and faithfully.

The more we learn Islam and apply what we study,

The farther we are from fitna, spiritual defeat 

And wrong choices. Seek authentic 'ilm relentlessly.

~•~

Try Qailoolah, to not be overcome by fatigue -

Take naps in the daytime - twenty minutes or thirty.

Also take good care of your mind - research more and read.

Be choosey with what you do online. Ditch useless reels

And vlogs with actors. Ignore the toxic and surreal.

~•~

While it's fine to feel tired at times, excessive fatigue 

Could cause some to overthink with negativity -

Until some think of suicide, a major sin which we 

Should avoid. Only Allah is the One Who decrees 

Who from His slaves stay alive and who must leave early.

~•~

When Allah grants us brief trials, He certainly sees

How we have the ability to pass them with ease,

Or solve problems after analyzing carefully,

Or gain life lessons to share with others helpfully.

Dunya is imperfect, not heaven for you and me.

~•~

So once again, I shall ask you: "How are you, really?"

This time, say this "Alhamdulillah", confidently,

"Alhamdulillah for Allah's countless gifts, bounties,

And blessings in disguise such as stress or poverty.

I may not be wealthy, but there's lots of faith in me.

~•~

I may not be very healthy, but I guarantee 

That real happiness and perfect bliss can only be

Found in Jannah Paradise far away from fatigue.

Though I lack quality sleep, I pray that I can reach

Jannatul Ferdaus where the pious souls can rest for eternity. Ameen.

Link to the PDF document:

https://smallpdf.com/file#s=7cc08107-3fb1-448e-92d3-b2fb5b50bb92

More notes and tips:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ljIc4I77Y7mELABiWEYMAsyz2pNEvXdg4dhh75qi9kI/

Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (120)

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

Note: Sharing My LinkedIn Profile And Online Portfolio Alhamdulillah And Offering Tutorial Classes

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

 Sharing my online portfolio Alhamdulillah 

https://mariammababaya.my.canva.site/ 

Sharing some facts about myself on this LinkedIn page,

Not to brag nor to impress but to connect someday

With similarly ambitious souls who aim to gain

More halal income to do Zakah for Allah's sake:

Filipina, in Saudi Arabia born and raised,

I've been blogging and writing poems from a young age,

Had experience teaching students both females and males,

Willing to work for more hours or a number of days

In freelancing, managing a social media page,

Organizing inbox, checking docs in disarray,

Answering queries, keeping your website up to date,

Lead generation I could try, exploring VA,

Maintaining a client's Google Calendar if they

Must focus on other tasks and time they wish to save.

If I were to describe myself in some words, I'd say:

Loyal - to good causes and people who aren't fake,

Deception I despise, shun deliberate delays;

Efficient - love seeing results, I can also wait

At times, eager to learn new skills and from my mistakes;

Resilient or steadfast - criticism is a way

To develop thick skin and improve for Allah's sake.

What is my MBTI type? INTJ-A.

I offer tutorial classes every other day

For learning how to read in Arabic without shame.

If you have any question, don't feel shy to display

Willingness to connect even if our age and faith

Are not fully the same. Tips and tricks we can exchange.

↪️ www.facebook.com/justsharingislam

Alhamdulillah I'm familiar with:

Google Docs ✅

Google Calendar ✅

Gmail ✅

Notion ✅

Trello ✅

MS Office ✅

Canva ✅

Blogger ✅

Managing pages on Facebook ✅

Gemini AI ✅

ChatGPT ✅

And willing to learn more✨

✔️ Marital Status: Married at 20 Alhamdulillah. My husband's first wife at 26 (accepting and supportive of polygyny).

📔 MBTI Personality Type: INTJ-A 1w9

🗂️ Mariam's Online Portfolio: https://mariammababaya.my.canva.site

Link to my LinkedIn Profile:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariammababaya/

Note: For Allah's Sake Wear The Niqab And Avoid Posting Many Selfies As Much As Possible

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

   

❎📸 One of the main reasons for covering one's face with the niqab face veil, besides trying to cover as much as one can of one's adornments to emulate how the pious wives of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam were also covered modestly, is to please or serve Only Allah the Almighty by leveling up one's modesty and not surrendering oneself to the expectations of modern and misguided society. Whether you've been told you're pretty or if you think you look slightly average, regardless of the shape and color of your face, covering it with the niqab when outdoors isn't meant to show people you traveled to Saudi Arabia or imply you have some connection with Middle Eastern customs, but the purpose of your niqab worn in the presence of non-mahram males and when outside of your home is to value modesty for Allah's sake even further, like how some Muslims go out of their way to pray more Sunnah prayers before and/or after certain mandatory/obligatory prayers to gain more rewards, and when some Muslims put effort in fasting as many Sunnah fasts as they can fast for Allah's sake so their account of good deeds can be filled with more rewards etc.

My question then to some niqabi or munaqqabah or muntaqabah (sorry if I said the actual term incorrectly) would be: If your intention of wearing the niqab is to avoid revealing your beauty to non-mahram males in general, what is the point of uploading loads of photos of yourself and with other niqabi or munaqqabah Muslimahs almost every day, maybe not on your "my day" or story feed but on your timeline with posts mostly set to public so even strange males can spend several minutes staring at your beautiful eyes, curvy figure or decorated hands with vibrant henna or nail polish or numerous rings and bracelets dangling etc.? If you're married, then what sort of man is your husband if he is perfectly okay with his wife uploading tons of selfies on multiple social media accounts? "Dayyouth"?

If you're single, desperately wanting the attention of a potential zawj out there with big cash or fancy job titles, then don't expect to be married to a righteous and respectful Muslim man because real Muslim men would prefer modest Muslim women who refrain from posting selfies and casually adding non-mahram males to their list of online friends. 

And if you're divorced, attempting to annoy or anger your ex-husband by uploading lots of selfies with or without niqab, then he'll actually feel more relieved and happy that he separated from you - if he realizes that you never truly respected him in the first place by making yourself easily accessible and viewable for other males whether he's around or not. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.

I may occasionally take some photos with some of my family, relatives and loved ones but Alhamdulillah I don't make it a habit to consistently upload them on any social networking website even if I may intend to inspire other Muslimahs to love wearing the niqab or dressing modestly for Allah's sake. Some sisters may have noticed a few occasions when I shared with them a number of photos of myself with niqab and abaya, but the motive there was to prove I'm a niqabi Muslim female if ever they assumed I was some dude pretending to be female behind a dummy account. Allah the Almighty knows best. Nevertheless yes we Muslims must avoid taking photos and uploading them online as much as we can. By doing that, we can Inn-sha-Allah value modesty correctly and we're farther away Inn-sha-Allah from the evil impact of 'ayn and sorcery.

Reminder to say lots of Dua every Jumuah Friday and to include the Muslim Ummah in our supplications✨

❎📸 Ang isa sa mga pangunahing dahilan ng pagtatakip ng mukha gamit ang *niqab*—bukod sa pagsisikap na maitago ang kagandahan at gayak upang tularan ang kapuri-puring kahinhinan ng mga banal na asawa ng ating minamahal na Propeta Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)—ay ang magbigay-lugod at maglingkod sa Allah na Makapangyarihan sa lahat. Ito ay isang pag-angat sa antas ng iyong *haya* (kahinhinan) sa pamamagitan ng hindi pagpapasakop sa mga pamantayan ng mapanlinlang na makabagong lipunan.

Anuman ang tingin mo sa iyong sarili—maganda man o karaniwan ang hitsura, anuman ang hugis o kulay ng iyong mukha—ang pagsusuot ng *niqab* sa labas ng tahanan ay hindi ginawa upang ipagmayabang na ikaw ay nakarating sa Saudi Arabia, o upang magkunwaring may ugnayan ka sa mga tradisyong Arabe.

> **Gisingin mo ang iyong puso:** Ang tunay na layunin ng *niqab* sa harap ng mga lalaking *non-mahram* (hindi mo kamag-anak) at sa tuwing ikaw ay lalabas, ay ang bigyang-halaga ang kahinhinan nang higit pa alang-alang sa Allah. Katulad ito ng mga Muslim na nagsusumikap magdasal ng mga gawaing *Sunnah* bago at pagkatapos ng mga obligadong obligasyon upang magkamit ng karagdagang gantimpala, o gaya ng mga nag-aayuno sa mga araw ng *Sunnah* upang mapuno ng kabutihan ang kanilang timbangan sa Kabilang-Buhay.

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### Ang Tanong na Dapat Mong Harapin

Ang tanong ko ngayon sa mga *munaqqabah* (kababaihang nagna-niqab): **Kung ang tunay na layunin mo sa pagsusuot ng niqab ay ang itago ang iyong kagandahan sa mga lalaking non-mahram, ano pa ang saysay ng walang-humpay na pag-upload ng iyong mga larawan araw-araw?**

Maaaring hindi ito sa iyong "My Day" o *story feed*, ngunit naroon ito sa iyong *timeline* na pampubliko—kung saan ang sinumang dayuhang lalaki ay malayang makakatitig nang matagal sa iyong mga mapang-akit na mata, sa hubog ng iyong katawan, o sa iyong mga kamay na may makukulay na *henna*, kolorete, at naglalakihang mga singsing at pulseras.

 * **Kung ikaw ay may asawa:** Anong klaseng lalaki ang iyong kabiyak kung hinahayaan ka niyang mag-post ng bulto-bultong *selfie* sa iba't ibang social media account? Siya ba ay isang *"Dayyouth"* (lalaking walang pakiari o selos sa karangalan ng kanyang asawa)?

 * **Kung ikaw ay dalaga:** Na naghahangad ng atensyon ng isang mayamang lalaki o may mataas na katungkulan, huwag kang umasang makakatagpo ng isang matuwid at kagalang-galang na lalaking Muslim. Ang isang tunay na lalaking Muslim ay naghahangad ng isang mahinhing babae—isang babaeng umiiwas sa pagpapakita ng *selfie* at hindi basta-basta nagpapasok ng mga estrangherong lalaki sa kanyang buhay-online.

 * **Kung ikaw naman ay hiwalay sa asawa (divorced):** Na nag-a-upload ng mga larawan upang galitin o panghinayangan ng iyong dating asawa, nagkakamali ka. Sa katunayan, makakaramdam siya ng kaginhawaan at tuwa na nagkahiwalay kayo—dahil mapatutunayan niyang kailanman ay hindi mo iginalang ang kanyang karangalan, yayamang ginawa mo pa ring madaling mabusisi at makita ng ibang lalaki ang iyong sarili, may asawa ka man o wala.

### Ang Nararapat na Landas

Maaaring kumuha ako ng ilang larawan kasama ang aking pamilya at mga mahal sa buhay, ngunit *Alhamdulillah*, hindi ko ito ginagawang bisyo na i-post sa social media, sa kabila ng hangaring magbigay-inspirasyon sa ibang Muslimah na mahalin ang *niqab* o ang mahinhing pananamit alang-alang sa Allah.

Kung may ilang pagkakataon man na ibinahagi ko ang aking larawan na naka-*niqab* at *abaya* sa ilang kapatid na babae, ang tanging layunin ko ay patunayan na ako ay isang tunay na babaeng Muslim—upang mapawi ang hinala na ako ay isang lalaking nagtatago sa likod ng isang huwad na account. Ang Allah ang lubos na nakaaalam.

Gayunpaman, tandaan natin: **Dapat nating iwasan ang pagkuha at pagpapakalat ng mga larawan sa internet hangga't maaari.** Sa pamamagitan nito, tunay nating mapangangalagaan ang ating *haya* at mapoprotektahan ang ating sarili mula sa masamang dulot ng *'ayn* (inggit/evil eye) at kulam.

> ✨ **Paalala:** Huwag kalimutang mag-alay ng maraming Dua tuwing araw ng Jumuah (Biyernes), at laging isama ang buong Ummah ng Islam sa inyong mga panalangin.

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⤴️ Translated to Tagalog by AI 

https://abukhadeejah.com/photography-and-picture-making-adh-dhahabi/

Note: Sharing Some Reminders Regarding Some Food Deliveries Here In The Philippines And Elsewhere

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

🛵 Pagbabahagi ng ilang mga aral na natutunan, Alhamdulillah, upang hindi na magaya ng iba ang pagkakamali ko na ibigay agad ang bayad sa rider bago man lang suriin ang laman ng order at basahin ang resibo o papel na nakadikit sa plastik.

Ngayon ay umorder kami ng pagkain mula sa isang South Asian na restaurant at nagkataon na may tumawag na rider. Dahil inakala kong dumating na ang aming order, pinasuyo ko sa iba na kunin ang mga pagkain at ibigay ang bayad na ₱340, habang sinasabi sa rider na maaari na niyang itabi ang karagdagang ₱5 bilang maliit na tip.

Pagkaraan ng ilang minuto, nang akala namin ay kakain na kami ng tanghalian, napansin namin na hindi pala pangalan namin ang nakasulat sa order kundi pangalan ng ibang tao.

Ito ang nakasulat sa papel na nakadikit sa plastik ng order:

FoodPanda
Order:
bqew-2623-c9dw

Punjabi Town Restaurant Gahol Avenue
13:14

Customer: Jenifer Omanglad
Pick-up Time: 14:06
4 items

At ang nakakatawa pa rito ay agad tinanggap ng rider ang ₱340 nang hindi man lang doblehin ang pag-check ng halaga.

Makalipas ang ilang minuto, dumating naman ang rider na may dala ng tunay naming order at nagpadala siya ng litrato ng mga order. Ngunit napakalabo ng larawan at hindi namin matukoy ang eksaktong lugar kung saan niya umano iniwan ang mga ito. Nakakatawa rin dahil hindi man lang niya hiningi ang bayad na ₱335, at hindi rin siya naghanap ng paraan upang makontak kami. Hindi rin niya sinasagot nang maayos ang aking mga mensahe sa Ingles at putol-putol ang kanyang Tagalog.

Nakipag-ugnayan ako sa Food Panda at ipinaalam ang nangyari. Ayon sa kanila, na-refund ang halaga, ngunit hindi ko naibalik ang ₱340 o kahit ang ₱335, kahit sa Food Panda Wallet. Gayunpaman, narito ang ilang mga aral na nais kong ibahagi:

1. Opisyal na para sa akin na mas maayos ang GrabFood kaysa FoodPanda sa maraming aspeto, maliban na lamang kung magsisikap ang FoodPanda na pagbutihin ang kanilang kakayahan at pagiging maaasahan.

2. Mas mabuting piliin ang Cash on Delivery (COD) sa karamihan ng pagkakataon kaysa magbayad nang maaga at umasa na maihahatid ng rider ang order sa tamang lokasyon.

3. Bago ibigay ang bayad sa rider, mas mabuting doblehin o triplehin pa ang pag-check sa paper bag o plastik na ibinibigay niya at tiyaking tama ang pangalan ng customer na nakasulat sa resibo o papel na nakadikit dito.

4. Marahil ay nais ni Allah, ang Pinakamaalam, na matikman namin ang ibang putahe mula sa Indian restaurant na pinag-orderan namin.

5. Sinubukan kong hanapin at kontakin si Jenifer Omanglad, at QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al, wala akong nahanap na epektibong paraan upang makausap siya. Kaya saan man siya naroroon, humihingi ako ng paumanhin dahil nakain namin ang kanyang brunch, tanghalian, o meryenda ngayon.

Minsan ay itinatalaga ni Allah, ang Pinakamaawain, ang ilang mga hindi inaasahang pangyayari at hindi pagkakaunawaan upang magkaroon tayo ng pagkakataong magbahagi ng mahahalagang aral sa iba, lalo na sa mga bago pa lamang gumagamit ng FoodPanda at GrabFood.

Huwag maging masyadong mabilis sa pagtanggap ng mga naihatid na order nang hindi sinusuri ang laman nito, at huwag magmadaling magbigay ng bayad sa rider. Tanungin muna sila kung magkano ang kabuuang halaga ng order. Kung ang sagot nila ay hindi tugma sa halagang inaasahan mo, maaaring nasa maling address ang rider.

Nawa’y pagkalooban tayo ni Allah, ang Makapangyarihan, ng higit pang karunungan at magsilbing aral ito sa sinumang sadyang nagpapakomplikado sa ating buhay sa anumang paraan, lalo na kaugnay ng kakulangan sa maayos na pagganap ng dalawang rider ng Food Panda.

Ameen.

HasbunAllahu wa Ni'mal Wakeel.

 

🏍️ Sharing some lessons learned Alhamdulillah so others won't follow my mistake of giving the rider the money before even checking the contents and reading the receipt or sheet of paper attached to the plastic bag.

Today we ordered some food from some South Asian restaurant and it so happened that I received a call from a rider. So assuming that the rider arrived I asked someone to collect the orders and give the payment 340 php while informing the rider he can keep the additional 5 pesos as a small tip. After some minutes when we thought we're about to have lunch we realized that the name of the customer isn't our name but somebody else's.

This was typed on the sheet of paper attached to the plastic bag of orders:
FoodPanda
order:
bqew-2623-c9dw

Punjabi Town Restaurant Gahol Avenue
13:14

Customer: Jenifer Omanglad
Pick up time 14:06 4 items

And what's funny is that the rider immediately accepted the 340 pesos without double checking the amount.

A few minutes later the rider delivering our orders arrived and sent us a photo of the orders but it was very unclear - like we couldn't tell the precise location of the orders where he accordingly dropped. It's funny he didn't even demand his payment which is 335 php nor did he ask anyone to contact us. He wasn't even answering my messages in English and putol putol Tagalog.

I contacted Food Panda and informed them about what happened and accordingly the amount was refunded but I never got the 340 pesos or 335 pesos back, not in the Food Panda wallet. Anyhow some lessons learned to share:

1. It's official that GrabFood is generally a gazillion times better than FoodPanda until FoodPanda does its best to improve in competency and reliability.
2. It's better to choose the Cash On Delivery option most of the time rather than paying for your orders in advance and hoping the rider delivers your orders to the correct destination.
3. Before giving the payment to the rider, it's better to double or even triple check the paper bags or plastic bag he or she gives you and make sure that the customer's name typed on the sheet of paper or receipt attached is correct.
4. Maybe Allah the Most Wise wanted us to try other dishes from the Indian restaurant we ordered from.
5. I tried my best to contact a Jenifer Omanglad and QaddarAllahu wa maa shaa-a fa'al I couldn't find any effective way to contact her. So wherever she is - I'm sorry we consumed your brunch or lunch or merienda today.

Sometimes Allah the Most Merciful decrees particular mishaps and misunderstandings to occur so some of us can share some valuable lessons learned with others, particularly those who may be new to using FoodPanda and GrabFood apps.

Don't be too quick in receiving the delivered items without checking the contents and don't rush in giving the rider the amount. Ask them what is the total amount of your orders and if his or her response doesn't match what you believe the price should be then perhaps that rider arrived at the incorrect address.

May Allah the Almighty grant us more wisdom and teach a lesson to all those who try to deliberately complicate our lives in any way, specifically regarding the incompetency of two riders from Food Panda. Ameen.

HasbunAllah wa Ne'm Al-Wakeel.

 May Allah the Almighty severely punish those two riders and their troublesome likes for their wrongdoings and show them Allah's Justice always in both worlds. Ameen.

Summary by ChatGPT:

The author shared a real-life delivery mishap to help others avoid making the same mistake. After receiving a call from a rider, the author assumed their food order had arrived and asked someone else to collect the package and pay ₱340, even adding a ₱5 tip. A few minutes later, they discovered that the order actually belonged to someone else—specifically a customer named Jenifer Omanglad.

The rider accepted the payment without verifying whether the amount matched the order. Later, another rider arrived with the author's actual order, but the delivery photo provided was blurry and unclear. Communication with the rider was also difficult. The author contacted FoodPanda and was informed that a refund had been processed, although there was still confusion regarding the payments involved.

The incident led the author to reflect on the importance of checking receipts, customer names, order details, and payment amounts before accepting deliveries or handing over money. The author also viewed the experience as an opportunity to learn valuable lessons and share them with others.

41 Lessons Learned

Always verify the customer's name before accepting a delivery.

Never hand over payment before checking the order.

Read the receipt or attached order slip carefully.

Confirm the order number when possible.

Double-check the restaurant name.

Verify the total amount before paying.

Don't assume a rider is carrying your order.

A few seconds of checking can prevent major inconvenience.

Avoid making decisions in haste.

Communicate clearly with anyone receiving deliveries on your behalf.

Keep screenshots of your order details.

Know the expected total cost of your purchase.

Compare the payment amount with the receipt.

Ask questions when something seems unusual.

Pay attention to small details.

Customer vigilance is important.

Riders should also verify customer information.

Professionalism matters in delivery services.

Mistakes can happen in any system.

Prevention is easier than resolution.

Documentation helps resolve disputes.

Learn the refund process of delivery platforms.

Stay calm when problems occur.

Effective communication is essential.

Proof-of-delivery photos should be clear and useful.

Technology cannot eliminate human error.

Do not rely entirely on assumptions.

Verify before trusting.

Accountability is important for both customers and riders.

Every mistake can become a learning opportunity.

Delivery issues can reveal weaknesses in a system.

Good habits save time and money.

Paying attention protects your interests.

Triple-checking is sometimes worth the effort.

One experience can educate many people.

Financial losses often teach lasting lessons.

Patience helps when dealing with customer support.

Personal responsibility remains important even when others make mistakes.

Reflection turns frustration into wisdom.

Every inconvenience can contain a valuable lesson.

Sharing experiences can help others avoid similar problems.

41 Blessings in Disguise

It highlighted the importance of verification.

It encouraged greater caution in future deliveries.

It provided a practical learning experience.

It created an opportunity to educate others.

It increased awareness of customer rights.

It encouraged better record-keeping.

It reinforced the value of attention to detail.

It improved preparedness for future delivery issues.

It revealed potential weaknesses in delivery procedures.

It encouraged patience during stressful situations.

It provided experience dealing with customer support.

It strengthened problem-solving skills.

It encouraged greater financial awareness.

It highlighted the importance of communication.

It served as a reminder not to rush decisions.

It encouraged healthier skepticism and verification.

It helped identify possible red flags.

It increased appreciation for reliable service.

It became a real-world lesson in accountability.

It reminded everyone that mistakes happen.

It encouraged better household coordination.

It promoted more careful handling of cash transactions.

It strengthened awareness of order details.

It provided insight into how delivery systems operate.

It increased appreciation for accurate documentation.

It encouraged a more organized approach to online ordering.

It offered a chance to practice patience and self-control.

It became a story worth sharing with others.

It may prevent larger losses in the future.

It encouraged learning from setbacks rather than dwelling on them.

It highlighted the importance of customer involvement in the process.

It reinforced the value of personal responsibility.

It provided an opportunity to reflect on destiny and life's unexpected events.

It encouraged gratitude despite inconvenience.

It became a reminder that not everything is within our control.

It encouraged greater wisdom in future transactions.

It helped build resilience when facing minor losses.

It reminded people to trust but verify.

It transformed an unpleasant experience into a useful lesson.

It may help many other customers avoid similar mistakes.

It turned a frustrating incident into an opportunity for growth, awareness, and community benefit.