Poem: The Secret To Feeling Indifferent When Some Users Unfriend You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A secret to indifference and feeling unfazed, 

Unruffled and unaffected when "friends" go away, 

Or when users unfriend you and you're like, "Fine. Okay. 

You can leave if you want. No one's forcing you to stay." 

Is to live solely for Allah and trust Him always.

~•~

That's your secret - that's how you somehow intimidate 

Dark souls and jealous hearts that clash with your steadfast faith. 

For their freedom and choice to detach yourself don't blame. 

Your confidence or love for Allah brings them dismay, 

Or they unfriended simply because they can't relate.

~•~

You're not an umbilical cord. They're not a fetus. 

You're not a tree. They're not monkeys that hang on branches.

You're not a seatbelt. They're not drivers that are careless. 

You're not a bee. They're not beehives, hence they're not needed. 

When some ditch you, visualize them as detached leeches.

~•~

If for years you survived without them, you can do this. 

They don't pay your bills nor breastfeed or keep you nourished. 

In fact, it's a blessing that they left if they're toxic. 

No more tolerating their nonsense, lies and gossip. 

Their disappearance means you're no longer distracted.

~•~

Alhamdulillah Allah got rid of the wicked 

Who were bad for us and undervalued our kindness, 

Or whose presence in our present is problematic.

As we gladly move on, let them manage without us. 

There's no loss, so long as I'm from those whom Allah loves.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."

[Sahih Muslim]

Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436

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Poem: Three Tips To Stay Contented With Your Husband And To Not Compare Him To Other Men

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three tips and kind reminders, to myself including, 

On how to not compare other men to your husband, 

To not feel less when friends marry men much more handsome, 

Taller than your soulmate, or they earn larger income, 

Or the groom's ethnic background makes their love exciting:

~•~

One: Accept the man whom Allah has wisely chosen 

As your other half, soulmate and travel companion. 

How you met and married were all by Allah destined. 

In connecting you together there's always wisdom - 

Patiently be content with Allah's wise selection.

~•~

Two: Love that your man's unique, not a clone of someone. 

Don't size him up according to others' measurement, 

Standards, preference and different expectations. 

Loving each other for Allah is what's important. 

No need for him to be "perfect" for you to love him.

~•~

Three: The firmer your faith, the stronger your acceptance, 

The more you welcome Allah's Qadr with contentment, 

And the less you're prone to envying others' blessings.

Since you know your love story was by Allah written, 

Your husband's looks and traits you embrace without question.

~•~

Dates, bananas and honey differ in appearance, 

But they're alike in the sense they taste sweet and pleasant. 

Let your friends love their soulmates, while you love your husband. 

Stay grateful to Allah, thrive with Imaan and patience,

And cleanse your heart so it's not stained by comparison.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred (inviolable) to another Muslim: His life, his wealth, and his reputation (his honor)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani