Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Tips: Questions You May Ask Yourself To Check If You're People-pleasing Or Being Sincerely Kind And Helpful

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven questions you may ask yourself to determine if you are being genuinely kind and helpful or you're being a people-pleaser: 
1] The act of kindness you're about to do - are you going to do it to serve Allah the Almighty, not to impress His servants nor to be known as a generous person? 
2] Is that act of kindness something which you also give yourself and your loved ones often, not exclusively to specific individuals? 
3] By doing that act of kindness, are you certain that you only seek rewards and more love from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of actually wanting the approval or attention of specific individuals? 
4] Is that something you really want to do, from your heart, and you know you're doing it for Allah's sake, free from reluctance and compulsion? 
5] Once you carry out that act of kindness sincerely for Allah's sake, can you guarantee you won't feel bothered or offended if the person whom you were kind to doesn't thank you directly, because you're truthfully making effort to please just Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of His servants? 
6] Are you absolutely sure that this act of kindness doesn't oppose what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam approve of and it won't contradict your values? 
7] Can you reassure yourself that this act of kindness isn't done because you're worried about being perceived as "selfish" or "unhelpful", but rather you're trying to be kind since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves those believers who strive to do charity/sadaqah for His sake whenever possible? 
If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 
Inn-sha-Allah you're not guilty of people-pleasing. 
May Allah the Most Forgiving forgive all our mistakes and wrong intentions. Ameen. 
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim