💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Why are most INTJ personality types very selective when it comes to choosing their close friends?
1] Since INTJs are goal-oriented and enjoy solitude, they don't want unnecessary noise and incompatible outsiders getting in the way of their goals, research, and tasks to be accomplished.
2] To them, it is pointless and actually hypocritical to pretend to be buddies with individuals whose values and interests clash with theirs.
3] They don't want to waste time with lousy people who are likely to cause further trouble, drama, confusion, problems, and difficulties which they generally try to avoid.
🔹 Three things if you have them could inspire an INTJ to consider building a friendship with you:
1] Being active, ambitious, and sincere in doing Da'wah. Generously sharing authentic Islamic knowledge, confidently enjoining what is right, and forbidding what's wrong, all for Allah's sake whenever you can.
2] Enjoying reading about Islam and having a special connection with books, writing, poetry, libraries, and bookstores.
3] Offering helpful services and managing successful halal businesses to the Muslim communities, or showing genuine care for the Muslim Ummah as a whole.
🔹 Seven acts which turn off many INTJs, if you're guilty of at least two of these, they may treat you as another stranger whom they're not interested in being acquainted with on a personal level:
1] Finding enjoyment in discussing people's flaws, childishly backbiting, and spreading false rumors or unverified news.
2] Having the guts to criticize Muslims behind their backs online and offline yet when they're around, you cowardly remain silent.
3] Impatiently ranting about negative issues in your life without attempting to solve them nor considering the advice given by an INTJ friend.
4] Obnoxiously judging people according to their lifestyles, shallow ways of living, and socioeconomic status, or being insecurely materialistic, selfish, and narcissistic.
5] Not having sufficient self-control and polite manners. Being too reckless, rude, and toxic to talk to.
6] Regularly telling lies, breaking promises without apologizing or compensating, and proving multiple times that you're untrustworthy and unreliable.
7] Unfairly assuming you know what our intentions are, claiming that we're "showing off", or making instant guesses about what we'll say or do next, when Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows the future completely.
🔹 Which types from the 16 personality types are most likely to:
✅ Understand, closely resemble, and have a lot of shared qualities with the INTJ, if their overall goals are the same:
ENTJs, other INTJs, INFJs, INTPs, ISTJs.
☑️ Patiently tolerate their weirdness, slightly relate to, or sympathize with INTJs:
ENFJs, ENFPs, INFPs, ENTPs, ISTPs.
➡️ Become potential friends if both sides can find reasons to respect each other:
ESTJs, ESFJs, ESTPs.
↙️ Notice many differences with INTJs which trigger conflict, misunderstandings, and incompatibility. Maintaining long conversations with them can be difficult, unless they're a family member then they're tolerable. We INTJs try to care for our loved ones regardless of their MBTI type, as much as possible:
ESFPs, ISFJs, ISFPs.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-friendship-with-intjs-what-are.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/tips-eleven-signs-indicating-intj-cares.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html
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https://repeller.com/myers-briggs-compatibility-for-friends/
https://www.quora.com/Why-are-INTJs-so-picky-about-people
🔹 To discover what your MBTI type is, you're welcome to take these tests:
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
https://www.truity.com/test/type-finder-personality-test-new
http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/
