Wednesday, August 10, 2022

Tips: Some Questions Which You Can Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes To A Muslim's Marriage Proposal

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some questions which you can ask yourself before deciding to accept a Muslim's marriage proposal, after or before praying Salat Al-Istikhaara: 
1] Is this guy really a Muslim and is he upon the correct 'Aqeedah / belief (Sunni / Salafi methodology)? Or at least is he willing to learn more about the truth Islam together with me? 
2] Does he show due respect to his mother and father? Can his parents describe him as a loving son? 
3] Without making it a rule that he must have a master's or doctorate degree, can you be certain that this guy already has a stable job and the income he earns is lawful? 
4] Can he promise to let you visit your family and loved ones whenever you'd like to spend time with them? Can he guarantee that he'll try his best to avoid becoming an overly jealous, insecure and mistrustful spouse? 
5] Is it known that he tries to pray the obligatory prayers in a Masjid as promptly and regularly as he can? Can some of his relatives confirm that he's not one of those ignorant males who deny the importance of praying? 
6] If Inn-sha-Allah in the future you wish to have at least one child with this man, is there a way to prove that he isn't sterile? 
7] If you prefer to not have any or many kids with this guy, can you both agree to never allow this issue (infertility or decision to not have children together) to become a problem for the two of you? 
8] Can he assure you that 
Inn-sha-Allah if ever he wishes to remarry he'd inform you in advance and refrain from keeping his other marriages confidential? 
9] If he is employed or studying in a different city, can you imagine yourself accepting his request to relocate with him while maintaining good connection with your other loved ones? 
10] Can you visualize yourself becoming a better, more contented and more enlightened Muslimah if you accept, for Allah's sake, the marriage proposal of this Muslim man? 
11] Are you sure that you're not marrying this guy mainly for his money, to no longer be under the care of your mother and/or father, or to emulate your friends who became wives early? Can you purify your intention concerning your willingness to marry this Muslim for Allah's sake and stay true to yourself, acknowledging that you're not marrying for self-interest?
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani