Sunday, June 26, 2022

Tips: Five Things Which Insecure Females Do And How To Deal With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Five things which an insecure female may do when she's jealous or intimidated by you, whether she's in her teens, twenties, thirties, forties etc.: 
1] Because she is insecure and envious, she finds it too difficult to congratulate when you achieve something, show support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, and offer genuinely helpful tips when you ask for advice. 
2] She acts obnoxiously quiet and distant when you're thriving or in a good mood, yet when somebody criticizes you publicly or makes a joke at your expense, she quickly laughs and gets entertained by witnessing you in distress. 
3] Because noticing you happy saddens her, as she envies you, she'd do whatever it takes to depress, demotivate and demoralize you, for example by frequently ignoring your messages on a group chat or setting up a large social event, sleepover or outing while deliberately leaving you out. She's shamelessly desperate to upset you in any way so that your "sadness", "loneliness" or disappointments can prevent you from functioning well, attaining your goals, and succeeding in both worlds. 
4] She gossips about your flaws, faults and any of your attributes which she despises whenever she has the chance, assuming that by cowardly belittling you behind your back, the people who listen to her silly gossip would perceive her as more "superior". 
5] Spitefully she tries to keep track of your social media posts through somebody else's profile or a fake account, so she can amuse herself by reading negative news you share or nosily amass certain info which compel her to become more competitive jealously. 
➡️ How to deal with very insecure jealous females: 
1] Don't expect good manners, integrity, and support from them. 
2] Don't get surprised if they disappear from groups where you're discussed or mentioned positively, and when critics scold or make fun of you, they giggle and act talkative suddenly. 
3] Never feel affected, offended and bothered by their rudeness and frequent exclusion of you. Don't show them the kind of reaction they desperately want whenever they carry out their little tactics to disturb your inner peace which they really envy. 
4] Never doubt your own worth even after you've discovered that they've been gossiping about you. If they ridicule you for some aspects, recall how blessed you are, Alhamdulillah, that you don't struggle from their insecurities and inward misery which trigger their lousy conduct and rudeness. 
5] For Allah's sake, avoid needlessly socializing with them and don't bother stalking their social media accounts. If you stumble upon their comments or status updates, swiftly ignore and skip reading the entire content, as though briskly walking past unnecessary items on stores which don't interest you at all. 
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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

Hadith: Warning Against Wailing, Being Impatient With Allah's Qadr/Decree And Crying Too Loudly Over The Deceased

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Refrain from wailing or crying too loudly over those who have returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)
Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379 
📖 1657. 'Umar bin Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is (punished) tortured in his grave for the bewailing (of the living) over him."
[Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim] 

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