💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: Is it possible for a wife to get along peacefully with her husband if she's an introvert while he's an extrovert? What do you usually do as an INTJ (1w9) to avoid conflict with your ESFJ (3w2) husband?
📝 Answer: 1. Consistently remind yourself of the main purpose or multiple reasons why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. If you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake, courageously forgiving him and maintaining steadfast patience (Sabr) with his shortcomings won't be challenging.
2. Stubbornly recall all of your husband's admirable qualities as well as the numerous favors and loving gestures which he has undeniably shown you in the past and present (for example oftentimes feeding you with his right hand and generously sharing his meals with you even though you've got your own food, caring enough about you to provide sincere advice and correcting you whenever he notices you doing something wrong, attempting to make you laugh with his cute sense of humor every now and then etc.).
3. For Allah's sake spend time together whenever you can through attending some family gatherings, particularly during Ramadan and Eid. Make it evident that you also care about his loved ones by frequently visiting them, at least once a month or every two months, and greeting them online when you're not busy.
4. Let your husband know about your likes and dislikes, and familiarize yourself with what he prefers and what makes him uncomfortable. As his loyal and patient wife, refrain from unreasonably expecting him to be one hundred percent "perfect", and stay away from saying anything which could bring about pointless drama as much as possible.
5. As long as you both aren't doing what clearly displeases Allah the Almighty, genuinely be okay with letting him spend time with his friends and colleagues without interrogating him about every single one of his actions as if you can't trust him, just as you wouldn't want him to be the excessively jealous and insecure type of husband who prevents his wife from building meaningful connections.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim