Saturday, November 11, 2023

Poem: Of Course You Don't Need A Man To Feel Complete Or Whole

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📝 To Muslimahs who are single while they feel unsure 
About marrying a guy who could be immature, 
Who may be guilty of abuse, who's currently poor 
With a lot of debts, or his intentions are impure: 
Yes, you don't need a man to feel complete - that's for sure.
~•~
You don't need to marry a guy who's overly close 
To his mom who takes charge of him, his choices and clothes - 
Don't wed a guy who can't make decisions on his own 
And by absurd emotions you can see he's controlled. 
Say no to suitors whose manners and morals are low.
~•~
You don't require a man to feel complete - that's well known. 
But wouldn't it be nice to love a Muslim who's strong 
In faith Imaan while his friendship offers more comfort, 
And with him as your mahram you can explore the globe 
When Allah Wills, and your husband's presence reassures?
~•~
To ladies who are single while not one guy proposed, 
Whether they are in their late twenties or they're almost 
Forty - don't worry; it's not a crisis to feel "old" 
While being single. Don't trust every word that you're told. 
Perhaps Allah wants you to not marry any soul -
~•~
On earth, just as Allah decreed some trees to not grow 
And bear fruits or flowers, while there are birds in this world
Which can't fly. The fact they're flightless doesn't make them slow. 
Maybe, instead of marriage, by Allah you're endowed 
With countless other gifts that won't stop you from your goals.
~•~
Maybe if you were married, and Only Allah knows, 
You may lack the needed strength to cope well with divorce 
Or exposing your heart to frequent marital woes. 
So never doubt your worth if not one guy has proposed. 
Perhaps singlehood is safer for your Imaan's growth. 
~•~
While your marital status won't define you of course, 
Don't despise and don't dread the concept of marriage nor 
Loathe your mere existence if no one has yet proposed. 
Your tests / journeys to Jannah Allah already wrote. 
There's wisdom in Allah's Plans - He knows what keeps you whole.
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani