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🗒️ Question: If you had the opportunity to choose any man you could have as your husband, what qualities would he need to portray so he becomes an ideal spouse/soulmate for you? What characteristics are required for a guy to be a suitable partner?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I've been married since the age of twenty and was engaged to marry in my teenage years. If ever my dear husband asked for a divorce, I'd still want him back, stubbornly reject marriage proposals from other males and patiently wait for him (even if it takes so many years) to ask for a remarriage.
If I were single, I'd require the following qualities for a Muslim man to be an ideal spouse/soulmate:
1✅ Sincerely striving to be upon the right 'Aqeedah belief according to the understanding of the pious predecessors/salaf and Sahaaba RadhiAllahu 'anhum.
2✅ Being good friends with my dear parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) and my siblings. I would never want to marry an insecure man-child who has a problem with any member of my family (from both sides maternal and paternal).
3✅ Being family-oriented and being known for their good character, supporting their loved ones and relatives in what is lawful Alhamdulillah. And preferably they do not smoke.
4✅ Earning halal income with a notable job while he doesn't work in a bank dealing with ribaa / usury / interest.
5✅ He actually had the courage to approach both my brothers to ask for my hand in marriage.
6✅ He supports Islamic education and has nothing against teaching as a profession.
7✅ He and I can understand each other well, Alhamdulillah, there's no language barrier.
8✅ He fears Only Allah the Almighty, displays admirable confidence and doesn't struggle from social anxiety. A guy who regularly claims he's too "shy" or "scared" to do something isn't attractive at all.
9✅ He is charismatic with children and can rightfully be described as caring and very fatherly.
10✅ He takes care of his beard. He's not one of those boys who prefer to look too babyfaced and clean-shaven. He understands what it actually means to be mature and masculine.
11✅ He owns and drives his own vehicle, while being a competent and careful driver (one of the must-haves for an ideal Muslim husband in my opinion).
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih
Al-Albani
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim